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    Oh what the heck, count me in. I've managed a month before haha.
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    (Original post by Sovr'gnChancellor£)
    And it is only for a year, not forever.

    Even if an ascetic and celibate (for 30 years) monk of 50 years of age wants to procreate, he'll just have to take some measures to get his sperm count up and prepare himself and he'll be golden! This Challenge is only 1 year out of a lifespan (arguably) of some 70+ years!
    You say that but surely if you went back to your previous ways after the end of the year your brain would re-wire back to how it was and there would be no point in the whole thing. The only point of this is if you carry on forever unless people are only doing this for a challenge and if they are doing it for just that reason they will fail. I reckon abstaining from ejaculation forever is bad, if so after this 6 week reboot, how often should you masturbate? Are you allowed to masturbate as frequently as you want so long as you don't watch porn or?
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    Night is such a struggle for me, struggling right now. Only thing keeping me going is that I know there's hundreds of other people going through the same thing!
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    You say that but surely if you went back to your previous ways after the end of the year your brain would re-wire back to how it was and there would be no point in the whole thing. The only point of this is if you carry on forever unless people are only doing this for a challenge and if they are doing it for just that reason they will fail. I reckon abstaining from ejaculation forever is bad, if so after this 6 week reboot, how often should you masturbate? Are you allowed to masturbate as frequently as you want so long as you don't watch porn or?
    A lifelong abstinence from pornography is probably for the better; a lifelong abstinence from sex is debateable. If I see improvements that I can reasonably attribute to this challenge then I won't go back to watching porn ever again.
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    (Original post by 01Chris02)
    Oh what the heck, count me in. I've managed a month before haha.
    Glad to have you on board with us! :congrats:

    Hang in there! :yy:

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    This is no month, brother - this is the year!

    (Original post by jmalks)
    You say that but surely if you went back to your previous ways after the end of the year your brain would re-wire back to how it was and there would be no point in the whole thing. The only point of this is if you carry on forever unless people are only doing this for a challenge and if they are doing it for just that reason they will fail. I reckon abstaining from ejaculation forever is bad, if so after this 6 week reboot, how often should you masturbate? Are you allowed to masturbate as frequently as you want so long as you don't watch porn or?
    Who says I intend to return? I may be running for Mayor by the end of the year (figure of speech!) and be far too busy preparing for the next general election to run for PM and bedding far to many females or having a passionate relationship with a lovely partner, that I won't return to it! :moon:

    LOL :lol:

    But seriously, the thing is that I am using the advantages whilst I can. For example, in the previous four month period in 2011 (A2 year), I used the fapstinence/abstinence to my advantage in working extremely hard on preparing for my exams and doing them. Ultimately, I succeeded far beyond any grade requirements. Now, even though I relapsed in the late summer thereafter, the benefits had already been done - aced the exams, got into uni, was happy.

    After the reboot, I'd say continue for the entire year - this was what the challenge was about in the first instance. However, to encourage participants to get out there with their game, there's an easy and hard mode.

    Personally, I won't even think of tugging until after 01/01/2014 00:00... :moon: But by then I'll be mayor... :auto:
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    A lifelong abstinence from pornography is probably for the better; a lifelong abstinence from sex is debateable. If I see improvements that I can reasonably attribute to this challenge then I won't go back to watching porn ever again.
    Oh, certainly lifelong abstinence from porn is beneficial.

    Lifelong abstinence from all sexual release may not be entirely beneficial - however, if the person undertaking such a lifestyle knew what he was doing, why and prepared in advance for negative effects that would have arisen, it wouldn't be too bad. However, such is in a great minority and it is not entirely certain if the positive benefits would go on for too long.

    Intermittent periods of abstinence from all forms of sexual release would be better argued for, not lifelong abstinence. And I for one do not plan such things after 2014.... :moon:
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    (Original post by Drenzor)
    Night is such a struggle for me, struggling right now. Only thing keeping me going is that I know there's hundreds of other people going through the same thing!
    Excellent! You are part of a movement - you really aren't in this alone; we really are all in this together

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    Sovr'gnChancellor£, you mentioned you abstained for 4 months in 2011. Surely you must have had wet dreams? If not then I don't understand how that is possible, because surely the body can only go so long before it has to release.
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    Sovr'gnChancellor£, you mentioned you abstained for 4 months in 2011. Surely you must have had wet dreams? If not then I don't understand how that is possible, because surely the body can only go so long before it has to release.
    I had a few infrequent wet dreams at first, but they greatly subsided as time went on. Thereafter, it was only 'precum' (if you know what I mean) and that happened in the day
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    (Original post by Sovr'gnChancellor£)
    Oh, certainly lifelong abstinence from porn is beneficial.

    Lifelong abstinence from all sexual release may not be entirely beneficial - however, if the person undertaking such a lifestyle knew what he was doing, why and prepared in advance for negative effects that would have arisen, it wouldn't be too bad. However, such is in a great minority and it is not entirely certain if the positive benefits would go on for too long.

    Intermittent periods of abstinence from all forms of sexual release would be better argued for, not lifelong abstinence. And I for one do not plan such things after 2014.... :moon:
    I would actually consider lifelong abstinence from sex, but it's very difficult to tell if it's worthwhile or not. There is so much that I want to accomplish, and it's a sad truth that a lot of it would go undone if I was in a relationship.
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    (Original post by Sovr'gnChancellor£)
    Glad to have you on board with us! :congrats:

    Hang in there! :yy:

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    This is no month, brother - this is the year!



    Who says I intend to return? I may be running for Mayor by the end of the year (figure of speech!) and be far too busy preparing for the next general election to run for PM and bedding far to many females or having a passionate relationship with a lovely partner, that I won't return to it! :moon:

    LOL :lol:

    But seriously, the thing is that I am using the advantages whilst I can. For example, in the previous four month period in 2011 (A2 year), I used the fapstinence/abstinence to my advantage in working extremely hard on preparing for my exams and doing them. Ultimately, I succeeded far beyond any grade requirements. Now, even though I relapsed in the late summer thereafter, the benefits had already been done - aced the exams, got into uni, was happy.

    After the reboot, I'd say continue for the entire year - this was what the challenge was about in the first instance. However, to encourage participants to get out there with their game, there's an easy and hard mode.

    Personally, I won't even think of tugging until after 01/01/2014 00:00... :moon: But by then I'll be mayor... :auto:
    Okay i'll try and yeah you're right, who knows the circumstances in a year's time!
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    (Original post by miser)
    I would actually consider lifelong abstinence from sex, but it's very difficult to tell if it's worthwhile or not. There is so much that I want to accomplish, and it's a sad truth that a lot of it would go undone if I was in a relationship.
    But if you were to commit to it, I'd say that you would have a strong grounding in your personal self - you would need to have your goals, motives and desires all set out clearly in front of you. You would need to already have established activities (most preferably worthwhile and beneficial activities otherwise you may not see that many benefits) that serve as pleasure and have successfully filled the void that the exit of sexual release etc has created.

    If you can do all of these things and more, then it could be beneficial. However, I wouldn't advocate this to just anyone - it would have to be a specific and limited group of populations. It will most definitely not be for anyone and everyone. It is only for a select few who are not only able to accomplish it, but who are able to actually get benefits from it (because it's one thing to be able to go for a long period, but it's another to actually do great things within that period) and greatly enhance their lives and their exploring of the human experience.

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    (Original post by Sovr'gnChancellor£)
    But if you were to commit to it, I'd say that you would have a strong grounding in your personal self - you would need to have your goals, motives and desires all set out clearly in front of you. You would need to already have established activities (most preferably worthwhile and beneficial activities otherwise you may not see that many benefits) that serve as pleasure and have successfully filled the void that the exit of sexual release etc has created.

    If you can do all of these things and more, then it could be beneficial. However, I wouldn't advocate this to just anyone - it would have to be a specific and limited group of populations. It will most definitely not be for anyone and everyone. It is only for a select few who are not only able to accomplish it, but who are able to actually get benefits from it (because it's one thing to be able to go for a long period, but it's another to actually do great things within that period) and greatly enhance their lives and their exploring of the human experience.

    Well, I have my goals and objectives more-or-less outlined already. How well I'm able to carry them out depends on how much time I'm able to devote to them. But as a wishy-washy simplification, I want to improve the lives of others, and it's the details of this that take a long time to work out. The benefits of a relationship would probably be to make me happier and therefore more motivated and able to accomplish the things I would accomplish, and also I would in return be able to benefit of the person whom I was involved with. In addition, if I was in a stable relationship I'd like to adopt a child, and so this would also contribute.

    The negatives would be that I would be less focused on everything else, which would affect how well I was able to have an impact outside of my immediate family. I don't know which is the better of the two options, but I suppose that if I were to fall in love, however accidentaly, the feeling would be overwhelming enough to bias my decisions.
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    (Original post by Sovr'gnChancellor£)

    It's unlikely that NoFap is the cause. Maybe that's just something else? You should really have more energy and drive....
    Withdrawal symptoms perhaps? Should I be doing this just before exams?
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    I honestly don't see how this Is possible? You guys must feel something different than I do because I couldn't stop If you paid me ten grand, let alone for no reason whatsoever.
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    (Original post by miser)
    Well, I have my goals and objectives more-or-less outlined already. How well I'm able to carry them out depends on how much time I'm able to devote to them. But as a wishy-washy simplification, I want to improve the lives of others, and it's the details of this that take a long time to work out. The benefits of a relationship would probably be to make me happier and therefore more motivated and able to accomplish the things I would accomplish, and also I would in return be able to benefit of the person whom I was involved with. In addition, if I was in a stable relationship I'd like to adopt a child, and so this would also contribute.

    The negatives would be that I would be less focused on everything else, which would affect how well I was able to have an impact outside of my immediate family. I don't know which is the better of the two options, but I suppose that if I were to fall in love, however accidentaly, the feeling would be overwhelming enough to bias my decisions.
    A solution to this would be seeking a specific partner who also has intended/intends to practise abstinence for as long as you will - such people exist, I'm sure. And having a partner may only spur you on in your goals, especially if they compliment their achievement by helping you actually achieve them, no?

    Although it is largely fictional, do you remember the film 'Troy'. You saw how much energy Paris had when he was with Helen - he was ready to move far away and set up a life for them somewhere. Her mere presence (and his love for her) spurred on his ambitions and hopes and whatnot.

    Now, although the above is not quite the same as what you meant, having a good partner could certainly help and provide extra 'energy' (even if there are limited/no sexual relations).

    But I do see what you mean about goals and partners. Personally, I would not even seek to be tied down with a partner/family until I'd greatly secured myself financially, personally, spiritually (not in the religious sense) and whatnot.

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    Withdrawal symptoms perhaps? Should I be doing this just before exams?
    Withdrawal symptoms are entirely possible. If you really, really feel (it must be certain!) that they would harm your preparation for, and performance in, your exams; then I am prepared to give you leeway to return after them. However, from my personal experience (in that four month period that I forever mention! ), fapstinence helped greatly in the exams!

    Good luck! :top:

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    I honestly don't see how this Is possible? You guys must feel something different than I do because I couldn't stop If you paid me ten grand, let alone for no reason whatsoever.
    It IS possible. You could stop if you tried. Your adamance that it is not at all possible is the only thing that's stopping you. Get through that and I'm sure you'd do well.

    I fully intend to do the entire year - I could have never foreseen the impact that this thread/movement/society/network would have, both on my own self and others.... :moon:
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    I honestly don't see how this Is possible? You guys must feel something different than I do because I couldn't stop If you paid me ten grand, let alone for no reason whatsoever.
    I think I'm doing it for a good reason, I want to completely give up watching porn
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    (Original post by Sovr'gnChancellor£)
    A solution to this would be seeking a specific partner who also has intended/intends to practise abstinence for as long as you will - such people exist, I'm sure. And having a partner may only spur you on in your goals, especially if they compliment their achievement by helping you actually achieve them, no?

    Although it is largely fictional, do you remember the film 'Troy'. You saw how much energy Paris had when he was with Helen - he was ready to move far away and set up a life for them somewhere. Her mere presence (and his love for her) spurred on his ambitions and hopes and whatnot.

    Now, although the above is not quite the same as what you meant, having a good partner could certainly help and provide extra 'energy' (even if there are limited/no sexual relations).

    But I do see what you mean about goals and partners. Personally, I would not even seek to be tied down with a partner/family until I'd greatly secured myself financially, personally, spiritually (not in the religious sense) and whatnot.



    Withdrawal symptoms are entirely possible. If you really, really feel (it must be certain!) that they would harm your preparation for, and performance in, your exams; then I am prepared to give you leeway to return after them. However, from my personal experience (in that four month period that I forever mention! ), fapstinence helped greatly in the exams!

    Good luck! :top:



    It IS possible. You could stop if you tried. Your adamance that it is not at all possible is the only thing that's stopping you. Get through that and I'm sure you'd do well.

    I fully intend to do the entire year - I could have never foreseen the impact that this thread/movement/society/network would have, both on my own self and others.... :moon:
    YOU could maybe but I know that I couldn't and I've actually tried before to see how long I'd last and I got to about 5 days and had to do it. I have willpower to a degree but not with regards to this.
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    (Original post by Sai4)
    I think I'm doing it for a good reason, I want to completely give up watching porn
    Why don't you just do it and not watch porn? I'd be surprised if you couldn't get off without actually watching it and couldn't use your head to get you there.
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    Figured that fapping isn't the problem, it's porn. I haven't done it yet.

    So I'm going to make the no fapping rules apply to not watching porn as I think that's my actual problem with the challenge and not the actual fapping. It wouldn't make any sense if I'm using that as a visual stimulus, maybe I'm no longer associating sex with porn by masturbating to it but I reckon that's the real mode for me.

    So starting from today I'm cutting out porn as well. The Hard mode isn't hard, I'm not the best with girls anyway and tbh it should be an incentive for me to have sex with more girls etc with the self control boost.

    (Original post by theonefrombrum)
    Why don't you just do it and not watch porn? I'd be surprised if you couldn't get off without actually watching it and couldn't use your head to get you there.
    I struggle to get off watching it. Maybe not so much now since I've spent about a week not fapping. But when I fap regularly I find imagination hard as I use porn as a visual stimulus.
 
 
 
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