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    I realised recently that I'm not very affectionate after sex, and I wondered if that was weird.

    I have a friend with benefits and he usually reaches over for me after sex to hold my hand etc, and I don't resist but I've realised I'm not particularly responsive either. Is this normal?


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    It's not weird when it's a friends with benefits sex relationship.

    It's not even weird when it's a loving relationship to be honest - each to their own.
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    I'm always quite affectionate after - but, everyone's different I suppose I wouldn't worry about it unless it's a problem for your FWB.
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    Well if you're only fwb then it makes sense not to want to be all affectionate afterwards, imo anyway. I certainly wouldn't say that it's not normal.
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    It's probably because you're not in love with him; once the sex has happened then that's it, fun over.
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    It's normal. I'm not either and I'm in a relationship.
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    You can already foresee that he's gonna get hurt. Remind him it's FwB and that there's no hand-holding or cuddling, and that if he's looking for that, he needs to find someone else for a relationship instead.
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    (Original post by RichyFrench)
    You can already foresee that he's gonna get hurt. Remind him it's FwB and that there's no hand-holding or cuddling, and that if he's looking for that, he needs to find someone else for a relationship instead.
    This!
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    I personally love cuddling after sex, and affection. Unfortunately most guys dont.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I personally love cuddling after sex, and affection. Unfortunately most guys dont.
    Awww!

    I love to cuddle, too, in general though.
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    (Original post by RichyFrench)
    You can already foresee that he's gonna get hurt. Remind him it's FwB and that there's no hand-holding or cuddling, and that if he's looking for that, he needs to find someone else for a relationship instead.
    It may be part of his sex experience, like the cigarette after. Doesn't necessarily mean he is overly attached to OP.
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    (Original post by RichyFrench)
    You can already foresee that he's gonna get hurt. Remind him it's FwB and that there's no hand-holding or cuddling, and that if he's looking for that, he needs to find someone else for a relationship instead.
    I think it's just because he's used to having girlfriends so he's used to having that intimacy after sex; he's also what you would call a gentleman. He's not looking for a relationship.


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    I don't think it's normal to be affectionate after sex with a stranger or fwb. Affection is saved for people I care about or have romantic feelings towards.
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    Never had a fwb relationship. But presume there needs to be some form of rapport for it to be worthwhile.. Consequently wouldn't rule out affection.. But agree there could a hidden agenda and risk of getting hurt.
 
 
 
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