should i call?? please help!

Have you had a text back? If no, then do not call. If yes, then call.

In not seeing him for two days you've already texted him once and now want to call him? Chill out a bit.

Remember, if he wanted to get in contact with you then it would. If he hasn't then he doesn't want to.

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Flank Runner

hmm i'd personnally say call, at the end of the day all your doing is saying hello and apologising for something that technically is not your fault, you cant help it if two mates find you attractive, lucky you :wink:

, but yeah give the guy a call, if there best mates then they'll both work things out and hopefully you and him might start your own wonderful friendship :biggrin:

, good luck and just be calm, cool, confident and most importantly, yourself

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

i don't think you read my post properly. i'm guessing that he hasn't texted back because of the situation with his friend (he liked me and asked me for my number and i brushed him off badly). i think he doesn't want to betray a friend, type of thing. is it that un-chilled to text once and call once in two days?

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

i meant that last comment to blackhawk, btw, not flank!

i hate the rules of dating :frown:

it's just this situation is so awkward, and i have so many regrets in not going up and talking to him earlier. he seemed so sweet, and we couldn't stop staring at each other! :frown:

Reply 5

Flank Runner

With all due respect to the rules, screw em, in love/dating there are no rules, just do what feels right and makes YOU happy, you did nothing wrong in the situation, your just caught in the middle but all i'm gonna say is if you leave it he'll think you dont want to try and have a relationship so give it a go, call and see where it goes

Reply 6

Anonymous

i'm guessing that he hasn't texted back because of the situation with his friend

Well, frankly, that is a very childish reason.

There is no reason why he couldn't have texted back and said something along the lines of 'Yeah had a nice time the other night.'

If he hasn't texted it is because he doesn't want to respond. Harsh I know, but he may also have had the impression that you aren't interested. (Unlikely as you gave him your number and texted him)

I think by guessing that he hasn't texted back due to his friend is wishful thinking. But then again, he could have no credit, be in hospital, has been hit by a bus.....

Point is, you can think of 101 reasons why he hasn't texted back, but I do think it is 'un-chilled' to call and text in 2 days.

But what have you got to lose....

Reply 7

cavronne

have you considered the fact that maybe HE'S caught up in all these "relationship rules"? maybe he feels he has to wait a couple of days after your text to respond?
Don't bother with that.
I think it's ok for you to call and say you were checking his number and wanted to clarify things, because the whole "text or no text?" games were getting you confused. be honest! ask whether he's interested, and if he's not, say you understand and it's too bad.
you could also propose that he talk to his friend. you know, it's tough, but why should both of you suffer because his friend likes you? it wouldn't be betrayal... it's just the way it goes!

Reply 8

Don't bother in calling him. If he really cared about you he would have called you back, asap. But it sounds to me as he's really not all that interested in you. Just keep trying to find a guy, that will care for you. Forget about this creep.

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username54863

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Lyndzxx

Don't bother in calling him. If he really cared about you he would have called you back, asap. But it sounds to me as he's really not all that interested in you. Just keep trying to find a guy, that will care for you. Forget about this creep.

Harsh maybe? Anyways I would say wait, what rush is there? Enless he's going abroad soon or something then keep calm, you don't want to give him to much security, he has to have some uncertainty that you fancy him, keeps people keen, sure people will disagree this is necessary, and I wouldn't say it absolutely is, but I know I've been too forward before and scared people away (though obviously sexes are reversed so it's less helpful than it could be). Hope that helps anyway, good luck!

Reply 10

I don't think of what i said there was harsh. It was keeping her options open for anyother guy to appear. I mean she can't keep being hang up on a guy who is making her wait for her to talk to him. So what i was trying to say is is a guy who really liked her he would have called her by now and not making her wait for him.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

it's ok, you weren't being harsh - i called, and was rejected because of his friend, or so he says. perhaps he really wasn't interested, but he did sound very definite about his friend.

i just wish i'd gone up and talked to him earlier. it could have turned out so differently :frown:

Reply 12

Lord Derfel Cadarn

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I would wait a couple ofo days longer, but if the reason he is not talking to you is because of betraying his friend then you could try getting his number and talking to him about it. Then he might tell the guy that you like it will be okay if you two like each other.

And as the guy that you like said he did want to give you his number in the first place, he mught just be shy because he did not come to you before his friend did. He might probably not know what to do either!

Reply 13

Anonymous

it's ok, you weren't being harsh - i called, and was rejected because of his friend, or so he says. perhaps he really wasn't interested, but he did sound very definite about his friend.

i just wish i'd gone up and talked to him earlier. it could have turned out so differently :frown:

Oh okay, i would just say then just move on. He sounds as if he does not care that much about you. You don't seem all that bothered about it, which is a good thing. I would just move on, and learn from you mistakes. Remember there are other guys out there, who will care for you better than he did.

Reply 14

Anonymous

it's ok, you weren't being harsh - i called, and was rejected because of his friend, or so he says. perhaps he really wasn't interested, but he did sound very definite about his friend.

i just wish i'd gone up and talked to him earlier. it could have turned out so differently :frown:

No you don't, because that is what we call an excuse. If he was really into you then he would have at least made an effort to get to know you a bit more, not instantly say no because of his mate.

He wasn't interested, so he made an excuse.

Reply 15

Lyndzxx

Remember there are other guys out there, who will care for you better than he did.

Christ, he was a guy she spoke to at a party, not exactly a long term relationship. Bit over the top don't you think?

Reply 16

Love_Hearts

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have you checked its not flirt divert from radio1??
....but on a serious note if he didnt want to give you his number he wouldnt have, therefore he must want to see you again etc. prehaps with you saying you understand if he doesnt text you back hes lost interest thinking you werent that keen ? meh i dont know

edit: damn just read your entry about you calling him! o well plenty more fish in the sea and all that jazz

Reply 17

Ron Stoppable

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OP, your problem is not what to do, but choice.

Meet more people, get more numbers, have more options - and you'll have so many that you can just practice, or even muck around, with how you approach phone calls.

Give yourself abundance of something and you'll subconscious handle the details. :wink:

Reply 18

envious

Well you have nothing to lose by giving him a ring really. :smile:

In the worst case scenario, he may be slightly annoyed that you are pestering him and tell you that he's not interested. In this case, at least you would know for sure and can move on with your life.

Alternatively, he could just have been too shy to text back or whatever and he could actually like you. By ringing him, you make it easy for him to tell you he likes you (if he does) and he won't feel like he's initiated it and therefore been disloyal to his friend.

Good luck if you do decide to ring him :biggrin:

Ooops sorry didn't realise you'd already rang him.... teaches me to read threads more thoroughly...

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