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    I am worried that it will be hard for me to make friends...did u all find it easy or hard??
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    yes very easy! I've made quite a few good friends at university despite living at home.
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    More so than anywhere else.
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    I've made some good friends at uni, perhaps not as many as i'd like, but i'm still in touch with people from school. I'd been with them for 7 years so it would take something to stop us seeing each other. My head of 6th form said that uni was for 'making new and better friends' - new friends definitely, but not better friends as yet.
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    You certainly get a chance to meet lots of new people - its amazing how many people you just start randomly talking to while queuing for something, waiting in the laundrette, having a snowball war...
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    (Original post by ruthiepoothie)
    I am worried that it will be hard for me to make friends...did u all find it easy or hard??
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    yeah, its simple, i know of noone who doesnt have a large circle of friends.

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    Its very easy with you all being away from your friends and family and looking for pastures new. There are plenty of social events too which are good for socialising.

    (Original post by ruthiepoothie)
    I am worried that it will be hard for me to make friends...did u all find it easy or hard??
    (to those already @ uni)
    you will meet a lot of people in the first couple of weeks but after that effort really has to be made to keep in touch. by the end of the second semester you will know who your friends *really* are and will hopefully have met a lovely bunch of people to live with in your second year

    i would say i have three people here who i am really close to but i still think its a good idea to stay in close contact with your school friends, you'll be going home before you know it and have a summer ahead of your without your uni buddies
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    Making friends at uni is definately a lot easy that making them anywhere else seeing as everyone else is in the same boat in the first few weeks trying to get to know as many people as possible. You still have to make the effort though.
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    (Original post by ruthiepoothie)
    I am worried that it will be hard for me to make friends...did u all find it easy or hard??
    (to those already @ uni)
    Its the easiest place to make new friends because noone knows each other so its not as if you need to get to know new people when they're already in an established group. In the first few weeks noone knows any one and everyone is really eager to make new friends so they're not on their own. Also university is such a socially orientated environment its very hard not to amek friends.
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    I'm due to start uni in September and this has been worrying me. I never really found any people I clicked with at school, so I had a pretty miserable time and I'm worried this curse will follow me into university. Is it really easy to find a group of friends?
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    (Original post by Mioniel)
    I'm due to start uni in September and this has been worrying me. I never really found any people I clicked with at school, so I had a pretty miserable time and I'm worried this curse will follow me into university. Is it really easy to find a group of friends?
    Different people find it easier to make friends than others, - its different for everyone. I can't say that its really easy to find a group of friends, - just that its a lot easier than other situations.
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    (Original post by ruthiepoothie)
    I am worried that it will be hard for me to make friends...did u all find it easy or hard??
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    I've had the same, very close circle of friends since I was about seven, so the thought of having to sort of start from scratch, when I started at uni really worried me too. I'm not exactly shy, but also not the greatest at striking up conversations with strangers, and I had this awful image of me leaving home (going to another country) and just feeling really lost.

    But then I had my interview in Cambridge in December, (which I made a total mess of, by the way - got horribly tongue-tied, started to stammer...needless to say I didn't get in *grin*)...but it was a really good experience in the sense, that I met a whole bunch of really nice people while i was there. Everyone was in the same situation - we were all nervous and we didn't know anyone, which is exactly the same situation everyone will be in when they start at uni (minus feeling quite so nervous of course)...To my surprise, I had never found it so easy to talk to people, and everyone was really friendly and so on (of course it helped that "so, where are you from?" and "what have you applied for?" were the two easiest conversation starters ever, but then it'll be just the same when we start at uni)......so, basically, I realised, that I didn't have as much to worry about on the "making friends" front, as I thought - and I'm sure you won't either!

    Anyway, good luck in October...
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    I think it depends which uni you go to. It's really easy here because everyone lives together in college, and virtually nobody knows anyone else. However, I know people who have gone to places like Manchester and because they already know loads of people they have hardly met anyone else because they've just been hanging around with their friends from 6th form. I would hate that.
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    (Original post by hildabeast)
    I think it depends which uni you go to. It's really easy here because everyone lives together in college, and virtually nobody knows anyone else. However, I know people who have gone to places like Manchester and because they already know loads of people they have hardly met anyone else because they've just been hanging around with their friends from 6th form. I would hate that.

    i am going to go to birmingham... i know about 2 other people who are there already....i am considering living at home.....am looking to join societies and stuff tho.....
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    im thinking about living at home and going to birmingham too, but im really undecided as what to do.
    Livin there and at home both have benefits.
    Problems with livin there obviously include cost etc, but also the fact that cos we're in the B postcode we get put on the waiting list for accomodation.
    I'm a bit concerned that if i live at home i wont meet as many people and have as good a time.
    Having said that thought living at home im only bout 20 mins away, 25 max, i could have my own car, wud always have money cos of few overheads etc.
    I dunno really i guess ill go on the waiting list and see what happens, i can always make my mind up later.
    What u studying by the way?
    im applying for political science.
    And I also am looking to join societies etc and get stuck in lol. I'm quite opinionated and I'm into debating etc, but I'm also a bit of a comedian so I'd like to get involved with Uni radio etc.
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    (Original post by shilling)
    I've had the same, very close circle of friends since I was about seven, so the thought of having to sort of start from scratch, when I started at uni really worried me too. I'm not exactly shy, but also not the greatest at striking up conversations with strangers, and I had this awful image of me leaving home (going to another country) and just feeling really lost.

    But then I had my interview in Cambridge in December, (which I made a total mess of, by the way - got horribly tongue-tied, started to stammer...needless to say I didn't get in *grin*)...but it was a really good experience in the sense, that I met a whole bunch of really nice people while i was there. Everyone was in the same situation - we were all nervous and we didn't know anyone, which is exactly the same situation everyone will be in when they start at uni (minus feeling quite so nervous of course)...To my surprise, I had never found it so easy to talk to people, and everyone was really friendly and so on (of course it helped that "so, where are you from?" and "what have you applied for?" were the two easiest conversation starters ever, but then it'll be just the same when we start at uni)......so, basically, I realised, that I didn't have as much to worry about on the "making friends" front, as I thought - and I'm sure you won't either!

    Anyway, good luck in October...
    xxx
    Oh I know absolutely!!!!!!

    I can't tell you how much I agree with that. I am a VERY shy person - I've only ever had a few close friends, if at all. Before interviews, I used to be so worried about making new friends, but when I went down to Cambridge everything was amazing. I got talking to so many applicants there, (it really was more easy than anywhere else...and that coming from someone who cant say hi to a stranger muct mean a lot) Me and my group all got along so well that we even exchanged contact details and still talk regularly!

    Don't worry about university - I doubt it's anything like school...people will generally be maturer, more accepting and hey the lack of monotony that you find in a school wont be there as a university population is so diverse that you're bound to find people you get along with.

    At least I hope so anyway!

    Good luck - where are you intending on going?
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    (Original post by ruthiepoothie)
    I am worried that it will be hard for me to make friends...did u all find it easy or hard??
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    its really easy as everyone is in the same boat. People are all nice because everyone is scared - whether they admit it or not. You'll have super fun I guarentee it
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    you're all in the same boat-scared teenage wannabe adults who get their first taste of freedom-scary!

    your course means you will find like-minded people, also societies will have like-minded people too!-people who share your taste in music could be a good place to start.

    If you stay in halls i've been recommended to just leave your door open when you are unpacking, soon people will start saying hello, bring choc biscuits etc too, hand out to people in your hall.

    be inventive in your conversations, very easy to ask the same Q's (what did you get in your A-levels?!) again and again, (and again)

    Buy people drinks.....

    Comprimise, dont get an instant reputation of being snobby

    blah blah blah...
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    (Original post by benjammin)
    im thinking about living at home and going to birmingham too, but im really undecided as what to do.
    Livin there and at home both have benefits.
    Problems with livin there obviously include cost etc, but also the fact that cos we're in the B postcode we get put on the waiting list for accomodation.
    I'm a bit concerned that if i live at home i wont meet as many people and have as good a time.
    Having said that thought living at home im only bout 20 mins away, 25 max, i could have my own car, wud always have money cos of few overheads etc.
    I dunno really i guess ill go on the waiting list and see what happens, i can always make my mind up later.
    What u studying by the way?
    im applying for political science.
    And I also am looking to join societies etc and get stuck in lol. I'm quite opinionated and I'm into debating etc, but I'm also a bit of a comedian so I'd like to get involved with Uni radio etc.
    Birmingham accomodation is really expensive
 
 
 
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