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I have just broken up from a long term relationship (2.5 years) and life is feeling a bit bad at the moment.

i was wondering it there was anyone in swansea uni in the same situation as me who wants to talk. I know how hard it is and maybe we could help each other, we dont have to talk about anything involved - randomness is fine with me.

I hope this will seem an ok idea, i know i just want to talk to someone, ive been talking to a lot of random ppl about anything recently.

My name is Dave Wragg and im a first year here. so i have a fair amount of free time to listen.

Reply 1

Anemos

1

I'm there in september....can't help till then.

Reply 2

thegreenmonk

OP

cool - ull have fun here. Keep touch on here.

Reply 3

CherryGarcia

1

I just saw that no one answered heer and decided to write. unfortunately I am not at ur Uni, but I understand ur feelings. I am myself in relationships for 2,5 years now. So, I can imagine how might be hard it is to lose someone like this close. If you want to talk about this PM me and we can chat on msn!!! Hope u will feel better and cheer up!

Reply 4

*Claire*

1

I'm not at Swansea Uni but I broke up with my bf after 3 1/2 yrs & I know how hard it is! I'm still finding it hard now & it happened in Nov

Reply 5

silverbolt

19

due to the length of your relationship it will hurt for awhile due mainly to the simple sense of loss after being so close to someone or so long.
it will get better i promise claire

Reply 6

El Scotto

15

thegreenmonk

I have just broken up from a long term relationship (2.5 years) and life is feeling a bit bad at the moment.

i was wondering it there was anyone in swansea uni in the same situation as me who wants to talk. I know how hard it is and maybe we could help each other, we dont have to talk about anything involved - randomness is fine with me.

I hope this will seem an ok idea, i know i just want to talk to someone, ive been talking to a lot of random ppl about anything recently.

My name is Dave Wragg and im a first year here. so i have a fair amount of free time to listen.

gotta think of the positives. you could of spent longer with someone who wasnt right. You'll also save money 3 times a year (bday, xmas, val's day) you wont have to report back to anyone... and that thing that annoys her that you do with your mates, that she moans about. you wont have to hear that again!

Reply 7

thegreenmonk

OP

Cheers guys for all your comments, i thought ppl would feel awkward talkin on a forum abt it.

Your right i should tthink of the positives but a relationship that long is difficult to wipe out, esp when she live nxt room over.

Ive been give so much help and advice recently and i guess ill just pass it on,
they say that in the end, past is past and getting on with life it the best way. I think this is a bit impossible but i guess i understand that life goes on. someone said that life is wat happens to you while you make plans. whihc was kinda cool :smile:

Anyone who wants to talk is welcome to PM me and ill give them my msn.

Sorry i havnt replied sooner, ive been trying to keep busy and i realised that the best thing to have is friends around you. and not to run away from things.

I generally talk, or write better and more helpful, so PM me an ill get on msn, it just feels more comfatable.

Cheers , and i guess just remeber that life hasnt stopped, you r still you and all have really good lives.

(this is so bad- i really write better than this)

Reply 8

thegreenmonk

OP

Hell, its getting worse. She seems to rub things in my face. And the thing that feels worst is that she is doing things now that she didnt want to with me.

Reply 9

El Scotto

15

thegreenmonk

Hell, its getting worse. She seems to rub things in my face. And the thing that feels worst is that she is doing things now that she didnt want to with me.

Ignore her. Do the treat em mean and pretend you dont care.

She can only rub it in your face if you let her.

Reply 10

strawberry

13

plug your ears when she does that.
like ^ said, she can only get to you if you let her get to you :smile:

Reply 11

keenya2006

It feels like the end of the world but it's not. You're so young. I doubt she was 'life partner' material anyway...well obviously not. Don't dwell on it. Do something constructive.

Reply 12

thegreenmonk

OP

thanks guys, everyones being really helpful. Its kinda hard to get on with life, but im trying anyway. I have to avoid her at the mo but its difficult when she lives in the nxt room over and shares lots of the same friends. But im trying to get on.

Im trying new things and meeting lotsa ppl. A week has gone now so, im just taking it day by day

Reply 13

glisten

1

thegreenmonk

thanks guys, everyones being really helpful. Its kinda hard to get on with life, but im trying anyway. I have to avoid her at the mo but its difficult when she lives in the nxt room over and shares lots of the same friends. But im trying to get on.

Im trying new things and meeting lotsa ppl. A week has gone now so, im just taking it day by day

I finished with my boyfriend of 6 months about 3 weeks ago. Like you I felt depressed etc but now I feel much better. I've talked to my ex a few times on msn because I would still like to be friends with him and keep in contact, trying to get on really helps. Taking things day by day has really helped too.

Also trying new things and meeting new people are good ways of helping you get over the relationship. Your doing the right thing :smile:

. I've been trying 'Give it a Go' programs at uni doing things I've never done before and have really enjoyed it. It's helped me meet new people. Also go out with friends, good nights out help. Trust me.

I've got a date on Tuesday afternoon with another guy, we are going for a drink at the union etc. This may help (it's making me feel better and move on), but don't take my word for it. You was with your ex girlfriend longer then I was with my ex, so it may take you longer to feel ready. Don't do it unless you feel ready to move on. Hope I helped and hope everything works out well for you :smile:

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Reply 14

XavierTroy

1

I'm sure being at Swansea University must be hard for you.. I wish you the best of luck :biggrin:

Reply 15

strawberry

13

glisten

I finished with my boyfriend of 6 months about 3 weeks ago. Like you I felt depressed etc but now I feel much better. I've talked to my ex a few times on msn because I would still like to be friends with him and keep in contact, trying to get on really helps.

I finished with my boyfriend of 8 months about three months ago and he told me to leave him alone! you're a lucky girl y'know that? I wanted to keep in contact and on friendly terms with him but then he went all JERK on me. *sigh* I miss him terribly...but obviously he doesn't care about me anymore

Reply 16

thegreenmonk

OP

Cheers guys and lasses for your help so far. Im still getting my head round it, but after a week it seems easier. i just wish she would be a bit more friendly to me, but im not gonna ruh things. She is happy (i hope) at the moment and thats all i really want. Im going out tonight and meeting more ppl so should be fun. definately wont be looking for a while though. Gotta learn to be more patient. but in the end i just want my friend bk, in wat ever degree she wants to be friends.

Thanks

Reply 17

thegreenmonk

OP

hey, just an update for anyone who, still reads this. The ex and I are gettin on fine now, after lots of stress and a lot of time apart. Thanks to everyone who helped. You can congratulate urselfs that you all were right :biggrin:

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