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Let me explain my situation briefly, 95% of the people i know are in relationships (inc the girl i'm deeply in love with), now this has had a very bad effect on me; been fighting depression for months now, contacted counciling at my uni. It's come to my attention that i am not enjoying the single life as much as i should be (despite that fact that i have always been single, ironic huh?); as all my heart really wants to find find a girl that likes me more than a friend basically i need some ideas on how to enjoy single life and maybe meet some new people

Should note that i don't like clubbing (hate the music), i do some sports but they are kinda run-a the mill now, and not a very exciting change in my life, i'm at university in Leicester so somethings to do round there would be grand
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As others will probably say on here, try and find activities you enjoy doing. Meetup is a great site for finding events/activities happening around you.

It can be frustrating being single however, sometimes if you stop trying so hard, the right person is likely to come along.

By joining more groups, you increase your chance of finding that someone.
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Let me explain my situation briefly, 95% of the people i know are in relationships (inc the girl i'm deeply in love with), now this has had a very bad effect on me; been fighting depression for months now, contacted counciling at my uni. It's come to my attention that i am not enjoying the single life as much as i should be (despite that fact that i have always been single, ironic huh?); as all my heart really wants to find find a girl that likes me more than a friend basically i need some ideas on how to enjoy single life and maybe meet some new people

Should note that i don't like clubbing (hate the music), i do some sports but they are kinda run-a the mill now, and not a very exciting change in my life, i'm at university in Leicester so somethings to do round there would be grand
I know how you feel. I was in the exact position last year, I was surrounded by couples. Every party with close friends was me + at lease 8 couples. And I have to admit it really started to get to me. I found it very difficult to be the odd one out particularly at 18 which I wouldn't have expected to be settling down age. I wasn't always single though I had a long term relationship till just before I turned 18.

So anyway.. ways to deal with it . I plan stuff. Like plan going to see people at various unis and holidays etc . Plus yeah, join loads of stuff so you're busy! Honestly just keeping busy and looking forward to it really helped. As it happened about half those relationships broke up at the end of last year so now we're planning interaliling round Europe with all the single ones! So maybe do something like that!

There must be people in Leicester though? It's my perfect uni but still haven't heard back. Is it not as good as I'm hoping??

You will be fine though. Being single is fun
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Things like a KING. I can do what ever i can, i can think whatever i can. I have no back turn. Set up your mind that you are the happiest person in the world. Good luck.
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Pornography, cigarettes, alcohol and junk food. Works for me.
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I know how you feel. I was in the exact position last year, I was surrounded by couples. Every party with close friends was me + at lease 8 couples. And I have to admit it really started to get to me. I found it very difficult to be the odd one out particularly at 18 which I wouldn't have expected to be settling down age. I wasn't always single though I had a long term relationship till just before I turned 18.

So anyway.. ways to deal with it . I plan stuff. Like plan going to see people at various unis and holidays etc . Plus yeah, join loads of stuff so you're busy! Honestly just keeping busy and looking forward to it really helped. As it happened about half those relationships broke up at the end of last year so now we're planning interaliling round Europe with all the single ones! So maybe do something like that!

There must be people in Leicester though? It's my perfect uni but still haven't heard back. Is it not as good as I'm hoping??

You will be fine though. Being single is fun
well there are two uni's in leciester, ofc only know what it's like for one of em, and frankly most of the thigns i wanna do arn't excatly gitl dominant (with the expection of Horse Riding and MAYBE salsa (when the people get back to me))
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Well I personally think the first step is don't think of yourself as living "single life" think of yourself as just living life!

So what do you enjoy doing? Are there things that you've stopped doing in the past few months because you've been feeling low? Start doing them again! Don't wait around man. Your life is happening now so enjoy it : )


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Well I personally think the first step is don't think of yourself as living "single life" think of yourself as just living life!

So what do you enjoy doing? Are there things that you've stopped doing in the past few months because you've been feeling low? Start doing them again! Don't wait around man. Your life is happening now so enjoy it : )


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havne't stoped doing anything apart from practising gutiar (time constraints)
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You have no one to worry about or judge your actions so yeah... Go wild. XO till we overdose that's the new motto

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havne't stoped doing anything apart from practising gutiar (time constraints)
Hmm. Well maybe think about things that you would like to do. All I'm saying man, is your time isn't unlimited and it ****ing sucks to be like "I wish I had spent more time doing X or Y"
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I know how you feel, I was in a relationship for 2 years just short off and we broke up back september, since then everywhere I go I see friends in couples and as for going out round town just isnt my scene.

So trying to recover from the breakup and settle as single proved challenging, part of me is getting over her still but otherwise I found myself trying new things, such as signing up to the gym and spending more time socially with friends.

Being single just means you have freedom to do what you like when you like, as for meeting your other half itll happen when the time is right.

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Let me explain my situation briefly, 95% of the people i know are in relationships (inc the girl i'm deeply in love with), now this has had a very bad effect on me; been fighting depression for months now, contacted counciling at my uni. It's come to my attention that i am not enjoying the single life as much as i should be (despite that fact that i have always been single, ironic huh?); as all my heart really wants to find find a girl that likes me more than a friend basically i need some ideas on how to enjoy single life and maybe meet some new people

Should note that i don't like clubbing (hate the music), i do some sports but they are kinda run-a the mill now, and not a very exciting change in my life, i'm at university in Leicester so somethings to do round there would be grand
Set you goals in life high. Realise that when you finish uni it is best not to have the worry of what another person is doing holding you back, and you can do whatever you want with your life, be that working abroad or living anywhere you like in the country. Work hard towards these goals and socialise as much as possible in your time off
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