If I am having a crisis academically and cannot cope,can tutors or counsellors help? Watch

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I am in my final year and I have not managed to keep up with the pace of the course. My work is backlogged and I am missing all my tutorials. I failed to hand in an assignment. I am struggling to motivate myself and get out of bed everyday, let alone go to tutorials and study on my own. I feel like a failure, obviously, and I hate myself for letting my life come to this. I obviously have no desire to talk to anyone and be social or anything, so I am isolated and I am by myself, and I didn't make any friends anyway which is another separate issue. I don't know how I'm going to cope with the exams for this year since it is the final year, or the rest of the work I have to hand in, and I am scared.

I would appreciate it if someone could tell me whether, if I went to a tutor or the counselling service, and told them what I just wrote, would they be able to help? Or would they tell me that it's up to me to get myself motivated and be an adult and sort my life out myself? What kind of help could they offer? Could I, for instance, be allowed to make a late submission of my assignment? I'm so scared of asking for help and opening up about these feelings that I have not told anyone about this. I even lie to my family about my situation. I just tell them I'm finding it hard but everything is ok. I feel a lot of guilt.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated even if it may sound harsh to me or whatever. I need some guidance and perspective from an objective view, desperately.
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They will almost certainly not tell you that it's up to you to get yourself motivated and be an adult. It's part of what they are there to help with, and they'll be very used to students with similar difficulties.

They may offer you a late submission of your assignment, or there may be other things they can suggest - some universities offer concessions, so that the mark isn't included or they take the circumstances into account. They might ask you to get a supporting statement from your GP/counselling service if they did that, but they tend to be very helpful.

It is definitely worth asking for help, you sound like you're struggling and they are there to help - they don't want a student to fail.

Is it worth making a list of the work you need to hand in, and breaking into up into smaller sections to complete, and giving yourself a break in between. Talk to your tutor about the difficulty you're having with the pace of the course - there may be workshops etc at your uni that can help, e.g. time management and academic support groups.
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(Original post by gs3)
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Yes of course they can help. Universities wouldn't spend hundreds and thousands of pounds every year on a Counselling Service if all it did was tell people to MTFU. They are very professional services, who specialise in exactly the issues you describe - things that happen to students at university. They will be able to offer you all sorts of support, coping mechanisms, alternative ways of thinking, of working, of planning, how to talk to your parents etc. They can also engage with the academic staff on your behalf to a certain extent, and help you negotiate an academic solution that is best for you.

Shimmy on down there tomorrow before the weekend starts. Even if it takes a while to get a first assessment appointment, they will have leaflets and literature that will reassure you that you aren't the first to get into this situation and that there is plenty of help to be had if you ask for it.
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