Should I tell my boyfriend or not? Watch
Why even ask? Leave Mr. Psycho-girlfriend-mistreater and go on your merry way.
you should never be with someone who will intentionally try to hurt you, emotionally or physically, if you love someone you dont want to hurt them, at all, especially not out of spite or revenge.
This was posted from The Student Room's iPhone/iPad App
We had been together for ages but I was getting quite depressed because he was treating me very badly. I didn't want to break up with him because he was going through some very difficult personal issues. In the meantime for a year or so I was getting very close to another guy, we would text a lot, flirt and joke around but my boyfriend knew about this and it never felt like cheating (even though in hindsight it obviously was) because I was very open about it and just saw him as a good friend. He ended up staying the night one night when I was feeling particularly low after my boyfriend had mistreated me and nothing happened but my partner found out, went mad and dumped me. After he dumped me I felt a sense of relief as I did not love him or want to be with him. I continued things with the other guy and we ended up sleeping together. We never dated but we continued to see each other for months. Now my ex is back in my life, he appears to have sorted himself out and he says the break did him good. I feel the same and I am ready to give him another chance. However, he says he is really happy that I never met anyone during our break (this is what I told him) and that it is as if we never broke up. If I tell him that in actual fact I slept with the same guy that led us to break up in the first place he will plunder into depression again and probably try and hurt me. What do I do? Do I owe him the truth?
If you do really think that getting back together with him is what you want then I think honesty would be important. You could keep it a secret but that's up to you, if you feel comfortable doing so. A fresh start should mean that, he should be able to accept what's happened when you weren't together if he really does want to be with you.