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My mum wanted to kick me out over a tattoo...help!
Hmm, i guess i'm just venting! I got my first tattoo today, i got two words written across my left inner wrist. This is not something i rushed in to. I've wanted a tattoo for a few yrs, and had this particular design in mind for over 6 months. I researched the whole process and all my local tattoo shops, artists, their skills, and the cleanliness. I made 3 visits beforehand just going over the design with the guy. I'm 19 and paid for this myself. I have never been in trouble with the police, i don't drink much at all, never taken drugs, went to a school where at least 20 girls were pregnant by the time we left, and doing decent in college. I don't think I cause that much concern!
This tattoo meant and still means something to me. I was vv ill in 2005, i had to leave college and give up offers to study medicine. I couldn't really leave the house and things went downhill. This yr I'm kinda back on track and if i learnt anything from 05, it is what is written on my wrist. I explained all this to my mum prior to getting it. She had said numerous times she wasnt a fan, didnt want me to get it but i could do as i wished and she wouldnt be funny with me.
SOOOO...
i come home and...she FLIPPED! she called me allsorts,slammed things, cried, screamed,raised her hand as tho she was gunna hit me, hit my tattoo (not nice) said it was a rubbish tattoo anyways, said no1 would fancy me with it, i wouldnt get a job blah blah blah. my dad wasnt bothered and said to her i could do as i wanted, she said i could, but somewhere else, she doesnt want me here! now shes not tlking to me, and wont be in the same room.
i know i got this for a purpose and it means something. if i regret it then its my fault! i dnt think i will because it will always symbolise a specific time in my life (but u can never b 100% certain). i am becoming my own person and my friends keep reassuring me. the thing is, me and my mum hav always had *issues* and lately theyve improved a lot! now i feel like ive ruined that. i feel like a bad person for hurting her =( i really didnt know she react in this extreme way.
opinions, comments or anything appreciated! sorry for the rant, hope thats ok!
gem xXx
p.s. any1 have experiences with tattoos and parents to share?!?!?
This tattoo meant and still means something to me. I was vv ill in 2005, i had to leave college and give up offers to study medicine. I couldn't really leave the house and things went downhill. This yr I'm kinda back on track and if i learnt anything from 05, it is what is written on my wrist. I explained all this to my mum prior to getting it. She had said numerous times she wasnt a fan, didnt want me to get it but i could do as i wished and she wouldnt be funny with me.
SOOOO...
i come home and...she FLIPPED! she called me allsorts,slammed things, cried, screamed,raised her hand as tho she was gunna hit me, hit my tattoo (not nice) said it was a rubbish tattoo anyways, said no1 would fancy me with it, i wouldnt get a job blah blah blah. my dad wasnt bothered and said to her i could do as i wanted, she said i could, but somewhere else, she doesnt want me here! now shes not tlking to me, and wont be in the same room.
i know i got this for a purpose and it means something. if i regret it then its my fault! i dnt think i will because it will always symbolise a specific time in my life (but u can never b 100% certain). i am becoming my own person and my friends keep reassuring me. the thing is, me and my mum hav always had *issues* and lately theyve improved a lot! now i feel like ive ruined that. i feel like a bad person for hurting her =( i really didnt know she react in this extreme way.
opinions, comments or anything appreciated! sorry for the rant, hope thats ok!
gem xXx
p.s. any1 have experiences with tattoos and parents to share?!?!?
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You should definitely talk to your Dad about the whole thing. And if he's on your side, then ask him to talk about it with your Mum, and find out what she really thinks (because from the looks of it, it'll be incredibly difficult to talk with your Ma yourself...).
And in the end, it doesn't really matter what she thinks. If she doesn't understand that it's important to you, then she's not really as good a mother as she thinks she is - and with that whole thing about 'no-one fancying you' suggests that she thinks VERY highly of herself as a mother.
And in the end, it doesn't really matter what she thinks. If she doesn't understand that it's important to you, then she's not really as good a mother as she thinks she is - and with that whole thing about 'no-one fancying you' suggests that she thinks VERY highly of herself as a mother.
* feel like a bad person for hurting her *
How can she be so easily hurt? A tattoo woudn't hurt anyone, it's not like that you brought shame to the family or whatever. Parents, especially mums sometimes care for you TOO much which may make them seem unreasonable. She's probs just a traditional person, that's all. The tension won't last very long, trust me, parents are the ones who will love you always. I had a massive row with my dad a few years agao and we literally fought (he hit me so i hit him back... lol), but like a week later we were just back to normal. Don't worry too much.
How can she be so easily hurt? A tattoo woudn't hurt anyone, it's not like that you brought shame to the family or whatever. Parents, especially mums sometimes care for you TOO much which may make them seem unreasonable. She's probs just a traditional person, that's all. The tension won't last very long, trust me, parents are the ones who will love you always. I had a massive row with my dad a few years agao and we literally fought (he hit me so i hit him back... lol), but like a week later we were just back to normal. Don't worry too much.
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Hmm, i guess i'm just venting! I got my first tattoo today, i got two words written across my left inner wrist. This is not something i rushed in to. I've wanted a tattoo for a few yrs, and had this particular design in mind for over 6 months. I researched the whole process and all my local tattoo shops, artists, their skills, and the cleanliness. I made 3 visits beforehand just going over the design with the guy. I'm 19 and paid for this myself. I have never been in trouble with the police, i don't drink much at all, never taken drugs, went to a school where at least 20 girls were pregnant by the time we left, and doing decent in college. I don't think I cause that much concern!
This tattoo meant and still means something to me. I was vv ill in 2005, i had to leave college and give up offers to study medicine. I couldn't really leave the house and things went downhill. This yr I'm kinda back on track and if i learnt anything from 05, it is what is written on my wrist. I explained all this to my mum prior to getting it. She had said numerous times she wasnt a fan, didnt want me to get it but i could do as i wished and she wouldnt be funny with me.
SOOOO...
i come home and...she FLIPPED! she called me allsorts,slammed things, cried, screamed,raised her hand as tho she was gunna hit me, hit my tattoo (not nice) said it was a rubbish tattoo anyways, said no1 would fancy me with it, i wouldnt get a job blah blah blah. my dad wasnt bothered and said to her i could do as i wanted, she said i could, but somewhere else, she doesnt want me here! now shes not tlking to me, and wont be in the same room.
i know i got this for a purpose and it means something. if i regret it then its my fault! i dnt think i will because it will always symbolise a specific time in my life (but u can never b 100% certain). i am becoming my own person and my friends keep reassuring me. the thing is, me and my mum hav always had *issues* and lately theyve improved a lot! now i feel like ive ruined that. i feel like a bad person for hurting her =( i really didnt know she react in this extreme way.
opinions, comments or anything appreciated! sorry for the rant, hope thats ok!
gem xXx
p.s. any1 have experiences with tattoos and parents to share?!?!?
This tattoo meant and still means something to me. I was vv ill in 2005, i had to leave college and give up offers to study medicine. I couldn't really leave the house and things went downhill. This yr I'm kinda back on track and if i learnt anything from 05, it is what is written on my wrist. I explained all this to my mum prior to getting it. She had said numerous times she wasnt a fan, didnt want me to get it but i could do as i wished and she wouldnt be funny with me.
SOOOO...
i come home and...she FLIPPED! she called me allsorts,slammed things, cried, screamed,raised her hand as tho she was gunna hit me, hit my tattoo (not nice) said it was a rubbish tattoo anyways, said no1 would fancy me with it, i wouldnt get a job blah blah blah. my dad wasnt bothered and said to her i could do as i wanted, she said i could, but somewhere else, she doesnt want me here! now shes not tlking to me, and wont be in the same room.
i know i got this for a purpose and it means something. if i regret it then its my fault! i dnt think i will because it will always symbolise a specific time in my life (but u can never b 100% certain). i am becoming my own person and my friends keep reassuring me. the thing is, me and my mum hav always had *issues* and lately theyve improved a lot! now i feel like ive ruined that. i feel like a bad person for hurting her =( i really didnt know she react in this extreme way.
opinions, comments or anything appreciated! sorry for the rant, hope thats ok!
gem xXx
p.s. any1 have experiences with tattoos and parents to share?!?!?
Give your mum time, she'll come to terms with it and your relationship will get back on track.
bless ty for the replies =)
DH: the tattoo is only these two words and some lines to give it shape written on my left inner wrist. its like 2 inches by 3 inches (i think!)
izzy: i hope so. i know my mother, she's not typcial were her reactions and subsequent actions =/ we've been thru way worse tho!
persian bunny: good question! i think maybe it was more about me doing something she didnt want. tbh, i think its v much about control, or more lack of it over me =/
jayk: my dad doesnt care, well like isnt bothered either way,he wudnt get totally involved, i'll try tho! thanks!
thanks guys
DH: the tattoo is only these two words and some lines to give it shape written on my left inner wrist. its like 2 inches by 3 inches (i think!)
izzy: i hope so. i know my mother, she's not typcial were her reactions and subsequent actions =/ we've been thru way worse tho!
persian bunny: good question! i think maybe it was more about me doing something she didnt want. tbh, i think its v much about control, or more lack of it over me =/
jayk: my dad doesnt care, well like isnt bothered either way,he wudnt get totally involved, i'll try tho! thanks!
thanks guys
well as long as its not offensive then i have no idea why she could have flew off the handle other than she doesn't think it's right and so you shouldn't either. 
talk to your dad about it being as he sides with you, maybe ask what the main problem is and try and figure a way to resolve it.
although you will want to cover it for interviews and the likes, although given its size and position that shouldn't be too hard
talk to your dad about it being as he sides with you, maybe ask what the main problem is and try and figure a way to resolve it.
although you will want to cover it for interviews and the likes, although given its size and position that shouldn't be too hard
she thinkgs its huge!! its really not, can be coevered by sleeves or thick strapped watches!! or bangles, or anything, she says its bad enuf, but i shudda got it somewhere covered. they rnt offensive, they say "Know Yourself" =/ she thinks tattoos look common and always says oo ur aunties got them and had them remvoed....but that was because they had lots or their bfs names!
Hmm i understand your problem because I also got a tattoo and the parents flipped! Although i was only 17 and i didnt ask permission becos i knew they wld say No...so i can understand why they went mad. But they calmed down after a day or two, im sure yours will do the same ESPECIALLY as it's legal for you to have a tattoo!! Theres no point creating trouble when no one can do anything to change what happened, your mum will soon realise this!
if it can be easily covered there is no problem, at least it has a deeper meaning than some tacky design. Reminds me of how my Mum reacts when she gets upset. Ignore her best you can and your her daughter so she loves you really. Whatever u do don't fight her back (my experience)
sounds nice i want 1 
did you actualy ask or atleast tell her you were planning on getting and in fact going? plus bad experience/knowing of having them removed might contribute as to why she is behaving the way she is.
leave her for a while and then try and act normal with her. at leat then your trying
i want 1 did you actualy ask or atleast tell her you were planning on getting and in fact going? plus bad experience/knowing of having them removed might contribute as to why she is behaving the way she is.
leave her for a while and then try and act normal with her. at leat then your trying
hey
STIS: aw bless! im glad they calmed down, im hoping my mum will!!
laura: thank you for the kind words =)
DH: yea i did! for months b4! and as i was goin out the door this morning! i will try!
oo does any1 know how to post pics?! then at least u can see how bad/not bad it is!
STIS: aw bless! im glad they calmed down, im hoping my mum will!!
laura: thank you for the kind words =)
DH: yea i did! for months b4! and as i was goin out the door this morning! i will try!
oo does any1 know how to post pics?! then at least u can see how bad/not bad it is!
To post pictures you'd have to upload them to an image hosting site which allows external linking...eg photobucket. Set up a free account, then upload, then post the link or hit the little yellow button with mountains in the message taskbar and insert the link and the picture will appear in your post.
Oh and if taken with digi cam resize as well or it'll be huge!
Oh and if taken with digi cam resize as well or it'll be huge!
my dad said if I ever get a real tattoo, I'm not to come home. But nowadays I've been thinking of getting a tattoo when I'm in university...
I'm sure your mum will come around
My mum didn't mind when I had my 3 tattoos... However, my grandparents wouldn't talk to me for a week when I had my first 2 done...
My mum didn't mind when I had my 3 tattoos... However, my grandparents wouldn't talk to me for a week when I had my first 2 done...
Hmmm, still no told my rents sbout my tats. Though after this thread I might think about telling them sooner. When I can think about an easy way to tell them!
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