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    Hi,

    Just thought I would talk about my experience, for the all adult virgins out there. I lost my virginity to a prostitute and would say it was a valuable experience. It was kind of like seeing a sex therapist; sex is an important issue in a man's life after all.

    The experience did jolt, or remind me about whats important in life: to have fun, to be playful, to relax, to experience the physical closeness of another person. It is perfectly understandable how seeing prostitutes could become an easy way to live your life, therefore not addressing the root problem of why you are not able to form intimate relationships with people.

    It cannot replace real sex in loving relationships; but when your self-esteem stops you from able to form properly intimate relationships with women, it is a worthwhile experience.

    In summary, seeing a prostitute can help you see whats valuable in life and what to aim for. Some people may end up feeling cheap about themselves, but I think that is just negative rumination; beating yourself up over practically nothing. After the fact, there is nothing you can do to change the choice you made, so you should see the positive in it.

    Good luck to all those people with low-self esteem, social anxiety, general anxiety etc...
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    The strange thing is, when the issue of losing your virginity to a prostitute is brought up, girls tend to be against the idea whilst guys say that is could be beneficial.

    I'm considering losing my v-card to a prostitute in Amsterdam. I sucks that I've never had my first kiss, but it's reaching the point where I feel like no-one will ever be interested in me.
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    I would advise young guys who've had no luck getting laid to consider/fully pursue all other options first but once you've made a decision and done the dirty, no point looking back on it as owt other than a learning experience tis true - although you need to ensure that one of the lessons learnt isn't that it's ok to treat women as objects/commodities in the main, only the ones that whore themselves
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi,

    Just thought I would talk about my experience, for the all adult virgins out there. I lost my virginity to a prostitute and would say it was a valuable experience. It was kind of like seeing a sex therapist; sex is an important issue in a man's life after all.

    The experience did jolt, or remind me about whats important in life: to have fun, to be playful, to relax, to experience the physical closeness of another person. It is perfectly understandable how seeing prostitutes could become an easy way to live your life, therefore not addressing the root problem of why you are not able to form intimate relationships with people.

    It cannot replace real sex in loving relationships; but when your self-esteem stops you from able to form properly intimate relationships with women, it is a worthwhile experience.

    In summary, seeing a prostitute can help you see whats valuable in life and what to aim for. Some people may end up feeling cheap about themselves, but I think that is just negative rumination; beating yourself up over practically nothing. After the fact, there is nothing you can do to change the choice you made, so you should see the positive in it.

    Good luck to all those people with low-self esteem, social anxiety, general anxiety etc...
    I've considered this myself, how do you find a reputable prostitute if you don't mind me asking
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    I've considered this myself, how do you find a reputable prostitute if you don't mind me asking
    In UK, google escorts

    or go to netherlands or germany, where prostitution is more public. You can get this information on google.


    Another point is that, it is not THE solution to personal problems, I think only Counselling and self-development, in everyday circumstances will truly help. However, it can be a positive experience.
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    (Original post by anon117)
    The strange thing is, when the issue of losing your virginity to a prostitute is brought up, girls tend to be against the idea whilst guys say that is could be beneficial.

    I'm considering losing my v-card to a prostitute in Amsterdam. I sucks that I've never had my first kiss, but it's reaching the point where I feel like no-one will ever be interested in me.
    Its probably because that advice is coming from someone who had the good fortune to have been able to form intimate relationships. If that's what you're on the verge of being able to do, then I think it would be reasonable to wait, to have that special moment. So it is a personal decision.

    The flip side is you could be waiting forever... until your 30's or something, maybe never, which is kind of sad (not as a person, but purely, in the not experiencing it).

    A counter argument could be that you will miss out on losing your virginity to someone you love. Which is true, but hell, there's lots of stuff that I will never have experienced due to my own personal demons. Its more likely that a partner will assume your not a virgin anyway... Virginity is over-rated in that sense, making love is what it is, whether it was your first time or not; its the connection thats important.
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    I personally would hate to sleep with someone who had ever shagged a prostitute


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    I was always of the opinion that your first time should be with someone you care about and cares about you. My views currently on sexual relationships are such that it should only be in the confines of a proper relationship - no sleeping around/fwb nonsense. It loses its meaning as an emotional bridge then, IMO and becomes a less personal thing like drinking booze or smoking a cig. I'd say if you haven't lose the v-card, keep it in the pants til you find someone you care about.
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    (Original post by Lala_1234)
    I personally would hate to sleep with someone who had ever shagged a prostitute


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    Guys are unlikely to advertise it...

    I don't know if I could ever go through with it, even if I wanted to. I went to Amsterdam and found it really disturbing, though that might have something to do with me sampling Dam's other delights.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi,

    Just thought I would talk about my experience, for the all adult virgins out there. I lost my virginity to a prostitute and would say it was a valuable experience. It was kind of like seeing a sex therapist; sex is an important issue in a man's life after all.

    The experience did jolt, or remind me about whats important in life: to have fun, to be playful, to relax, to experience the physical closeness of another person. It is perfectly understandable how seeing prostitutes could become an easy way to live your life, therefore not addressing the root problem of why you are not able to form intimate relationships with people.

    It cannot replace real sex in loving relationships; but when your self-esteem stops you from able to form properly intimate relationships with women, it is a worthwhile experience.

    In summary, seeing a prostitute can help you see whats valuable in life and what to aim for. Some people may end up feeling cheap about themselves, but I think that is just negative rumination; beating yourself up over practically nothing. After the fact, there is nothing you can do to change the choice you made, so you should see the positive in it.

    Good luck to all those people with low-self esteem, social anxiety, general anxiety etc...

    lol I see where your coming from and I got a pal who not only lost his virginity to a prostitute but had about 15 sexual encounters with the same prostitute thereafter to improve his "practical skills" so when he hooked up with a girl he liked he could give it to her good.

    to quote the 40 year old virgin "If it's your first time you don't wanna do it with someone you like"
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    (Original post by Lala_1234)
    I personally would hate to sleep with someone who had ever shagged a prostitute


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    What about girls who sleep around like a prostitute and claim to be 'sexually liberated'? Just not being payed to do so?

    No-one wants to nail the town/city bicycle.
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    I was always of the opinion that your first time should be with someone you care about and cares about you. My views currently on sexual relationships are such that it should only be in the confines of a proper relationship - no sleeping around/fwb nonsense. It loses its meaning as an emotional bridge then, IMO and becomes a less personal thing like drinking booze or smoking a cig. I'd say if you haven't lose the v-card, keep it in the pants til you find someone you care about.
    Its a valid perspective, if not a little stuffy with respect to having sexual fun (one night stands etc)

    Special relationships make sex special. Not sex is special, so it should only be done in special relationships.
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    (Original post by Lala_1234)
    I personally would hate to sleep with someone who had ever shagged a prostitute


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    I'm sure that there aren't any guys who have ever lied about their sexual history.
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    Keep yerself clean and pure, the human body is inherently dirty. Concentrate on being a good citizen, a decent neighbour then worry about the filth later.
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    (Original post by Willbean)
    What about girls who sleep around like a prostitute and claim to be 'sexually liberated'? Just not being payed to do so?

    No-one wants to nail the town/city bicycle.
    Same with that too. Honestly, I am quite a jealous person, and I have a low self esteem, so I don't think I would like to be with anyone with a large number of previous sexual partners as it would just disturb me.
    The whole not wanting to sleep with someone who has slept with a prostitute, is purely cos I think prostitution is dirty, you don't know if that person has any diseases or infections, it's just wrong.


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    I'm sure that there aren't any guys who have ever lied about their sexual history.
    Huh?


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    Was she worth the money?
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    I'm a girl, and have no problem with prostitution. I actually think it should be legalised.

    If you wanna shag a prostitute, just make sure you're protected and they're reputable, that's all.
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    (Original post by bennies4life)
    Keep yerself clean and pure, the human body is inherently dirty. Concentrate on being a good citizen, a decent neighbour then worry about the filth later.
    Morality is needed for a secure mind.
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    I think that sleeping with a prostitute should definitely be considered a viable option. As a girl, I would personally have no problem with sleeping with a guy that had done so. In my personal opinion it is tragic that prostitution is so frowned upon and I think that the sooner it is legalised the better, only then can we begin to irradiate the unjust stigma that has been attached to prostitution due to the patriarchal society that we have lived in for too long.
    I would also have a lot of respect for a guy who made that decision; obviously I don't think we should all go running to prostitutes. But accepting and making an educated decision about it should not be frowned upon. In fact, by concealing it I think people make it seem as though it is something to be ashamed of. If you make the decision to do it you should own it. In all fairness, most girls that are against guys who have slept with prostitutes are the ones that tend to **** off girls that sleep around as well, and are most likely highly insecure about their bodies and sex. In some cases girls are scared of the idea of sleeping with a guy who may have been with a more experienced girl in case they disappoint. Personally, I think promiscuity in a girl (if she is doing it for herself) should not be frowned upon. After all it is their decision, and as long as everyone is aware of STDs etc and makes sure they get checked out regularly, it shouldn't be an issue. Yeah that was a bit of a rant, but I think sleeping with a prostitute is completely okay, it seems silly to say otherwise.


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