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    I have this burning feeling of my own mortality. Of the fact that I won't be young with very few responsibilities for much longer. I'm painfully aware that I need to make the most of every day.

    I'm at university; you'd think that was the kind of place where someone feeling like I do could indulge themselves in countless drunken nights out, one night stands, hang out with friends between lectures during the day, etc, etc. And that stuff is going on all around me, but I'm not part of it, or if I am it's only for a brief moment, the miracle that I manage to get out the house.
    It turns out university is a roll of the dice; it all depends on who you get to live with in first year. Maybe a few people form other friendship groups who do stuff together, but I haven't been so lucky. In general you go out with your housemates, and you see people you know once you're out.
    My luck would have it that I've ended up living (I'm in second year now) with a group of people who would rather stay in on a Saturday night and watch come dine with me than go clubbing. So that's why I'm here, feeling restless as ****, smoking a joint to calm myself down (although it's not a saturday, but I won't be going out saturday, or friday... In fact I have absolutely nothing to do but coursework all weekend...and no lectures on Friday, aren't most students pleased by that? Not me, doubt I'll be leaving the house).

    Anyone else in a similar situation? I literally spend all my time in my room apart from going to lectures, just watching stuff on my laptop. Even when I meet cool people, it's like, their friendship groups are made already, they're satisfied. Sure they'd chat to me if I saw them out, but they're not going to invite me round for predrinks or text me to hang out on campus. I feel trapped. University has not turned out how I would have liked...
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    university is really what you make of it, why don't you invite some of these people out that you say hello to, muscle your way into their friendship groups by being a cool friend and inviting them to do loads of interesting stuff. Join some societies and make friends there, or how about unplug the tv in your flat and say to your flatmates "right lets go out and do something fun" they might surprise you. Everything is really down to you, however I get that it's hard and once you start getting into a routine of not doing anything it's hard to break but if you're in uni surely everyone is willing to make an extra friend if you say you'll buy the first round and are friendly/helpful/kind/interesting/understanding/enthusiastic.
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    (Original post by crazysourz)
    I have this burning feeling of my own mortality. Of the fact that I won't be young with very few responsibilities for much longer. I'm painfully aware that I need to make the most of every day.

    I'm at university; you'd think that was the kind of place where someone feeling like I do could indulge themselves in countless drunken nights out, one night stands, hang out with friends between lectures during the day, etc, etc. And that stuff is going on all around me, but I'm not part of it, or if I am it's only for a brief moment, the miracle that I manage to get out the house.
    It turns out university is a roll of the dice; it all depends on who you get to live with in first year. Maybe a few people form other friendship groups who do stuff together, but I haven't been so lucky. In general you go out with your housemates, and you see people you know once you're out.
    My luck would have it that I've ended up living (I'm in second year now) with a group of people who would rather stay in on a Saturday night and watch come dine with me than go clubbing. So that's why I'm here, feeling restless as ****, smoking a joint to calm myself down (although it's not a saturday, but I won't be going out saturday, or friday... In fact I have absolutely nothing to do but coursework all weekend...and no lectures on Friday, aren't most students pleased by that? Not me, doubt I'll be leaving the house).

    Anyone else in a similar situation? I literally spend all my time in my room apart from going to lectures, just watching stuff on my laptop. Even when I meet cool people, it's like, their friendship groups are made already, they're satisfied. Sure they'd chat to me if I saw them out, but they're not going to invite me round for predrinks or text me to hang out on campus. I feel trapped. University has not turned out how I would have liked...
    It saddens me to think that your idea of enjoying your youth is one-night-stands and clubbing and drunken nights. But then again, if that's your ideal for a university experience, then more power to you.

    If you feel you've been handed a raw deal because your housemates are less sociable, tough. Not everyone thinks university is the things you've described. Either muscle your way into friendships with people with common interests as you (as the OP above suggested) or learn to deal with your lot and get over it. The choice is yours as you know.
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    I don't know why people think the point of university is to go out and have a good time. Those things just get in the way of the only reason for going to uni, the degree.
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    One of my mates said the same thing (he moved out for final year) living with people who dont do anything other than just smoke and sit on their laptop. Just try to make the best of it?, be more open meet new people chat to anyone and everyone it improves. But just concentrate on your degree too.
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    (Original post by crazysourz)
    I have this burning feeling of my own mortality. Of the fact that I won't be young with very few responsibilities for much longer. I'm painfully aware that I need to make the most of every day.

    I'm at university; you'd think that was the kind of place where someone feeling like I do could indulge themselves in countless drunken nights out, one night stands, hang out with friends between lectures during the day, etc, etc. And that stuff is going on all around me, but I'm not part of it, or if I am it's only for a brief moment, the miracle that I manage to get out the house.
    It turns out university is a roll of the dice; it all depends on who you get to live with in first year. Maybe a few people form other friendship groups who do stuff together, but I haven't been so lucky. In general you go out with your housemates, and you see people you know once you're out.
    My luck would have it that I've ended up living (I'm in second year now) with a group of people who would rather stay in on a Saturday night and watch come dine with me than go clubbing. So that's why I'm here, feeling restless as ****, smoking a joint to calm myself down (although it's not a saturday, but I won't be going out saturday, or friday... In fact I have absolutely nothing to do but coursework all weekend...and no lectures on Friday, aren't most students pleased by that? Not me, doubt I'll be leaving the house).

    Anyone else in a similar situation? I literally spend all my time in my room apart from going to lectures, just watching stuff on my laptop. Even when I meet cool people, it's like, their friendship groups are made already, they're satisfied. Sure they'd chat to me if I saw them out, but they're not going to invite me round for predrinks or text me to hang out on campus. I feel trapped. University has not turned out how I would have liked...
    Drop out, get yourself a job with absolutely no pressure or responsibilities, and live the way you want to live. You do not need to be at university at all.
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    (Original post by evantej)
    Drop out, get yourself a job with absolutely no pressure or responsibilities, and live the way you want to live. You do not need to be at university at all.
    That sounds really great... Sadly the reality would be living with my parents cut-off in a village, working in Tesco in a depressing little town full of idiots trying to be Joey Essex. So probably going to stay and get my degree if I'm honest.
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    (Original post by Bill_Gates)
    One of my mates said the same thing (he moved out for final year) living with people who dont do anything other than just smoke and sit on their laptop. Just try to make the best of it?, be more open meet new people chat to anyone and everyone it improves. But just concentrate on your degree too.
    haha my housemates aren't even fun enough to get high with me... I have become a committee member of a society, and made a few new friends on my course, but my university life is still nothing like what I'd want it to be
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    (Original post by CJG21)
    I don't know why people think the point of university is to go out and have a good time. Those things just get in the way of the only reason for going to uni, the degree.
    If clubbing and one night stands aren't for you that's fair enough... But seriously you're saying the only reason people should be at uni is to get their degree? **** you must be boring.
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    (Original post by CJG21)
    I don't know why people think the point of university is to go out and have a good time. Those things just get in the way of the only reason for going to uni, the degree.
    :rolleyes: and you can't do both?

    Sure the main reason you go to uni is to get a decent education and to further yourself. However furthering your self comes in more than one manner. Making friends, going out be that to a pub / club or doing something else like sport, watching a film etc do not get in the way of education. They'll also help make you a more rounded person who isn't all work, work, work.

    There is much more to life the studying, working etc. Sure there important but don't miss out on other great experiences.

    Plenty of people find a balance between work and social life...
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    (Original post by CJG21)
    I don't know why people think the point of university is to go out and have a good time. Those things just get in the way of the only reason for going to uni, the degree.
    I'm pretty sure most people are going to the uni for the degree, however that's like saying 'I don't know why people in employment go to the pub, these things get in the way of your job.' If you didn't have any time to relax and enjoy yourself you'd go stir crazy, which would likely affect your ability to learn, plus if all you did was work you'd develop no social skills, making life boring.
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    (Original post by robert365)
    university is really what you make of it, why don't you invite some of these people out that you say hello to, muscle your way into their friendship groups by being a cool friend and inviting them to do loads of interesting stuff. Join some societies and make friends there, or how about unplug the tv in your flat and say to your flatmates "right lets go out and do something fun" they might surprise you. Everything is really down to you, however I get that it's hard and once you start getting into a routine of not doing anything it's hard to break but if you're in uni surely everyone is willing to make an extra friend if you say you'll buy the first round and are friendly/helpful/kind/interesting/understanding/enthusiastic.
    People really aren't that open to new members of friendship groups in second year to be honest :/ I should have a job in third year which might improve things, try and make friends, smoke more weed
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    (Original post by dave_123)
    :rolleyes: and you can't do both?

    Sure the main reason you go to uni is to get a decent education and to further yourself. However furthering your self comes in more than one manner. Making friends, going out be that to a pub / club or doing something else like sport, watching a film etc do not get in the way of education. They'll also help make you a more rounded person who isn't all work, work, work.

    There is much more to life the studying, working etc. Sure there important but don't miss out on other great experiences.

    Plenty of people find a balance between work and social life...
    You can still have a good time and be social at university, but choosing a university based on merit of socialising rather than degree is ridiculous, and I know for a lot of people that this is the case.
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    (Original post by justanotherposter)
    I'm pretty sure most people are going to the uni for the degree, however that's like saying 'I don't know why people in employment go to the pub, these things get in the way of your job.' If you didn't have any time to relax and enjoy yourself you'd go stir crazy, which would likely affect your ability to learn, plus if all you did was work you'd develop no social skills, making life boring.
    Exactly, to me life is about enjoying myself. Obviously you have to go out and make money or your aren't going to have very much fun. Luckiest people in the world - those who enjoy their job... Or those who are so rich they don't have to work :P
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    (Original post by CJG21)
    You can still have a good time and be social at university, but choosing a university based on merit of socialising rather than degree is ridiculous, and I know for a lot of people that this is the case.
    Yes i'd agree the course and degree it's self is the priority. I thought you where suggesting going out was simply a waste of study time. Which as an out look is pretty poor as there is so much more to life than that.
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    (Original post by crazysourz)
    haha my housemates aren't even fun enough to get high with me... I have become a committee member of a society, and made a few new friends on my course, but my university life is still nothing like what I'd want it to be
    Keep doing what your doing, it gets better
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    (Original post by crazysourz)
    That sounds really great... Sadly the reality would be living with my parents cut-off in a village, working in Tesco in a depressing little town full of idiots trying to be Joey Essex. So probably going to stay and get my degree if I'm honest.
    Why live with your parents then? Move out. Live on your own. Then you can drink, bring back girls, and do whatever you want.

    Of course I am being flippant, but that is because you are living in denial. You talk about wanting to live a certain way and wasting your precious time. But you are the one wasting your time smoking weed and complaining about how boring your house mates are on the internet. Stop making excuses and get on with it: live the life you want to live!

    Or you could accept that you along with lots of others had unrealistic expectations about university life, and feel the grass is greener on the other side (i.e. different friendship groups).
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    (Original post by evantej)
    Why live with your parents then? Move out. Live on your own. Then you can drink, bring back girls, and do whatever you want.

    Of course I am being flippant, but that is because you are living in denial. You talk about wanting to live a certain way and wasting your precious time. But you are the one wasting your time smoking weed and complaining about how boring your house mates are on the internet. Stop making excuses and get on with it: live the life you want to live!

    Or you could accept that you along with lots of others had unrealistic expectations about university life, and feel the grass is greener on the other side (i.e. different friendship groups).
    I want to live the life I want to live, but I feel trapped and unable to live it, which is frustrating. Maybe I'm too led by other people... Then again I'd say it was pretty creepy turning up to a club alone and trying to pull women...

    Currently 100% sure the grass is much greener elsewhere, my housemates can barely be called a friendship group, we never do anything together, everyone just sits in their rooms... That plus never going out... Yeah pretty much 90% of student houses have got to be more fun.
 
 
 
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