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    (Original post by Sulphur)
    I'm...honored?
    haha
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    Oh my god how could anyone be okay with this haha?!
    These are girls he could actually be in contact with... He could easily message them, meet up and get it on!
    Nah, I'd be absolutely raging. Get him told.

    Its one thing getting off to a fake porn star or celebrity that he's never going to meet but when its a girl he actually knows it is NOT okay.
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    It is a normal guy thing dont worry. Pretty much all guys do this in relationships but it doesnt mean we dont love you or that we wish to be unfaithful. I would still choose my girlfriend over any other girl.

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    If you're unhappy, just tell him there is no two ways about it. If it is getting you down and making you feel uncomfortable around these other girls and him, then it is having a direct impact upon your life and he needs to change something. Breaking up with him over it does sound a bit drastic, but if you have spoken to him about it before and he has not changed, then you should probably think about it and find someone who will actually take on board and respect what you are saying. I don't think he would necessarily like it if he found out you have been creaming all over guys you both knew and were attractive!
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    (Original post by Lala_1234)
    I completely agree. We can be in the minority together
    I think couples who have sex while watching porn is a little odd, it makes me think that they can't turn each other on kinda thing?
    Finally some other people who see it like I do!

    Not sure who I'm talking to here, but if its Lala (sorry can't remember whole username) congrats on your boyfriend, he sounds like a lovely guy

    I pretty much had a similar thing with mine...
    He was totally inexperienced and at 16 I was his first relationship and first romantic experience really, I suppose I assumed he didn't, but on my birthday (bit sucky I know) I found porn pages on his internet history, which turned out to be from the first two months we were together, when it just didn't really occur to him to stop because he was in a relationship. I'm thankful he stopped of his own accord, but a year and a half in, it's still something which sometimes comes up and causes real upset.
    A few months into our relationship, he also suggested he stop jacking himself off, mostly because I couldn't finish him when I did it, which he did ^_^ all very well and good, hasn't solved that problem but still.
    I wouldn't really be opposed to it if he started again, seeing as he admitted it was over me during the later months, I think the only problem if any I would have with it would be the thought I couldn't do an adequate job myself/he could do it better than me...

    As for people saying our boyfriends are lying, it might seem innocent and naive but I believe mine and I think it's great that people on here believe theirs.
    They are few and far between, but sweet thoughtful guys who are different and just made to be boyfriends do exist! Mine had an imperfection, but he willingly sorted it and that's what counts
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    start a (closed) free love group with a few friends you both like?
    unless you're like: but I don't want other guys I only want him
    then perhaps you should consider that both of you aren't satisfied sexually
    you might be but perhaps he isn't.
    have you considered explaining to him:
    this is what i like sexually,
    now you tell me what you like sexually,
    go on, what ever it is that's fine,
    as long as you don't say variety!!!!!!!
    that being said if you feel the urge to masturbate you're not having enough sex/ sex that's satisfying.
    my suggestion is that you suggest that you both browse a few book stores looking for a book on sex that's most appealing to each of you (so you've chosen one each) and then you (get two copies of each) and read about and discuss the books together - and in doing so learn to make your sex lives more interesting and exciting.

    that being said is he capable of watching a movie with you that isn't one of his favourites too?

    perhaps one day you'll both say who needs facebook when you've got sex.
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    (Original post by Caits7)
    Finally some other people who see it like I do!

    Not sure who I'm talking to here, but if its Lala (sorry can't remember whole username) congrats on your boyfriend, he sounds like a lovely guy

    I pretty much had a similar thing with mine...
    He was totally inexperienced and at 16 I was his first relationship and first romantic experience really, I suppose I assumed he didn't, but on my birthday (bit sucky I know) I found porn pages on his internet history, which turned out to be from the first two months we were together, when it just didn't really occur to him to stop because he was in a relationship. I'm thankful he stopped of his own accord, but a year and a half in, it's still something which sometimes comes up and causes real upset.
    A few months into our relationship, he also suggested he stop jacking himself off, mostly because I couldn't finish him when I did it, which he did ^_^ all very well and good, hasn't solved that problem but still.
    I wouldn't really be opposed to it if he started again, seeing as he admitted it was over me during the later months, I think the only problem if any I would have with it would be the thought I couldn't do an adequate job myself/he could do it better than me...

    As for people saying our boyfriends are lying, it might seem innocent and naive but I believe mine and I think it's great that people on here believe theirs.
    They are few and far between, but sweet thoughtful guys who are different and just made to be boyfriends do exist! Mine had an imperfection, but he willingly sorted it and that's what counts
    Have you seen the amount of negs I have been given for saying that I believe my boyfriend doesn't masturbate... It's ridiculous. People are sooo negative and think everyone is a lying ****. I don't see what the problem is with me trusting my boyfriend, people on here just have to have their say about your relationships. So yeah I never really write on here anymore cos everyone is a bit of a ****.
    But thanks for agreeing me haha
    Your boyfriend sounds sweet too x
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    (Original post by LovinIt)
    start a (closed) free love group with a few friends you both like?
    unless you're like: but I don't want other guys I only want him
    then perhaps you should consider that both of you aren't satisfied sexually
    you might be but perhaps he isn't.
    have you considered explaining to him:
    this is what i like sexually,
    now you tell me what you like sexually,
    go on, what ever it is that's fine,
    as long as you don't say variety!!!!!!!
    that being said if you feel the urge to masturbate you're not having enough sex/ sex that's satisfying.
    my suggestion is that you suggest that you both browse a few book stores looking for a book on sex that's most appealing to each of you (so you've chosen one each) and then you (get two copies of each) and read about and discuss the books together - and in doing so learn to make your sex lives more interesting and exciting.

    that being said is he capable of watching a movie with you that isn't one of his favourites too?

    perhaps one day you'll both say who needs facebook when you've got sex.
    No, I don't agree with you. Just because someone masturbates in a relationship, doesn't mean they are unhappy with their sex life. It could just be that they are super horny?
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    (Original post by Lala_1234)
    Have you seen the amount of negs I have been given for saying that I believe my boyfriend doesn't masturbate... It's ridiculous. People are sooo negative and think everyone is a lying ****. I don't see what the problem is with me trusting my boyfriend, people on here just have to have their say about your relationships. So yeah I never really write on here anymore cos everyone is a bit of a ****.
    But thanks for agreeing me haha
    Your boyfriend sounds sweet too x
    Aha thanks! I think it's just because there seems to be a lack of genuinely good guys out there and the ones that do actually exist just seem to get friendzoned... And seriously I don't understand why you've been so badly shredded for this, we need more relationships with hard-earned trust around!
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    (Original post by Lala_1234)
    I think I am ridiculously lucky in how understanding my boyfriend can be... We have been together for 3 years now, and about 2 years ago he promised me that he would never ****...
    Not because he did it over people he knew or anything like that. We just somehow had a conversation about it and I said how for me, if he could withhold from having a ****, then I would feel like I pleasure him enough, it also means that because he hasn't pleasured himself, the sex is that bit more better.

    If I found out my BF was pleasuring himself over people he knew/had met, then I would feel weird about it, but I am a crazy jealous person... If I were you just talk to him about it. Does he have any sexy pictures of you? You could even make a sex tape for him to pleasure himself over Just an idea!
    Basic biology says he does.
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    (Original post by abhiksetia)
    Why would any guy prefer masturbate to anything when you can have sex/get a bj ?
    I've been dating someone for 3+ years and to be honest the only time I've ever masturbated is when we haven't seen each other in a while cause of travelling/being in different places.

    Obviously I'm attracted to other girls too, and though I think my gf is pretty and I love her, there definitely are other pretty and more attractive girls out there. Sorry to say, but from my perspective at least, what your bf is doing is a bit weird.
    This, when I was in a relationship, I masturbated at most once a week, about every other week not at all.
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    (Original post by Pete_Lawton)
    Basic biology says he does.
    Please just **** off now. I wish I never posted on this thread now cos people are ***** on it. I don't give a **** what you think. I don't give a **** about whether he does or doesn't, the fact is I trust him, and now I want everyone to just shut up. Thanks


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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    No, I don't agree with you. Just because someone masturbates in a relationship, doesn't mean they are unhappy with their sex life. It could just be that they are super horny?
    Maybe, I don't know for sure.
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    If it's just a fantasy it migth be better than cheating. Also the fact he may not want to masturbate over you could mean he loves you/respects you more.
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    Using facebook pictures crosses the line...I hope most guys don't actually do this!?
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    Yeah, thats not a good thing to do. He is disrepecting you in a big way.
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    Yes. I am divorcing my husband because of almost the same story. I tried to put it behind us but it never gets better, it gets worse. He will never stop doing it and he will never see you as attractive again.
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    I totally agree with you on that one. My boyfriend follows these nasty accounts on instagram and I found out from his friend that he masturbates to them. Knowing that made me cringe so much because it made me feel very insecure about myself. He also lied to my face about not jerking off to those girls in front of my face, which I am very upset about. I even asked him like why he follows them in the first place and he doesn't even know. So I too am not a 100% sure what to do about that.
 
 
 
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