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    Don't get me wrong, I like guys and have urges from time to time, but they aren't strong and it's just really not a big deal. I rarely feel like going to the bother of acting on them. I don't know if I could live without companionship or love, but I'm pretty sure I could happily live without sex the rest of my life.

    Sometimes I suspect my lack of sex drive might be down to depression, which I battle with fairly often, but I'm not really sure. Do you think the two are likely linked, or am I am I just naturally not that bothered? I used to have a lot of fantasies and be a lot more into the idea when I was younger, before I had any experience, but now I just don't feel it much at all. :dontknow:

    Yeah, any advice? It's not a huge issue, but I'd rather be more into it so it doesn't feel like so much effort every time I do anything with my boyfriend. I feel like I should enjoy that sort of stuff, and while I do eventually, it's hard for me to work up the enthusiasm.
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    (Original post by theorangebox)
    Don't get me wrong, I like guys and have urges from time to time, but they aren't strong and it's just really not a big deal. I rarely feel like going to the bother of acting on them. I don't know if I could live without companionship or love, but I'm pretty sure I could happily live without sex the rest of my life.

    Sometimes I suspect my lack of sex drive might be down to depression, which I battle with fairly often, but I'm not really sure. Do you think the two are likely linked, or am I am I just naturally not that bothered? I used to have a lot of fantasies and be a lot more into the idea when I was younger, before I had any experience, but now I just don't feel it much at all. :dontknow:

    Yeah, any advice? It's not a huge issue, but I'd rather be more into it so it doesn't feel like so much effort every time I do anything with my boyfriend. I feel like I should enjoy that sort of stuff, and while I do eventually, it's hard for me to work up the enthusiasm.
    It can definitely be linked with depression, my boyfriend is never in the mood when he is suffering with it, I think that can often be a big part of the problem. If you sort the depression the sex drive may well come with it. As for suggestions other than that I don't really know I'm afraid
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    (Original post by redferry)
    It can definitely be linked with depression, my boyfriend is never in the mood when he is suffering with it, I think that can often be a big part of the problem. If you sort the depression the sex drive may well come with it. As for suggestions other than that I don't really know I'm afraid
    Thanks for the reply! Yeah, I think it might be. I mean I have no fears or issues with sex at all, and I'm definitely attracted to my boyfriend, I just never feel up for it. The rare times I do is usually after something quite good has happened in my life, which would suggest the two are connected.

    I'm sorry about you and your boyfriends situation. I hope he can move past it.
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    (Original post by theorangebox)
    Thanks for the reply! Yeah, I think it might be. I mean I have no fears or issues with sex at all, and I'm definitely attracted to my boyfriend, I just never feel up for it. The rare times I do is usually after something quite good has happened in my life, which would suggest the two are connected.

    I'm sorry about you and your boyfriends situation. I hope he can move past it.
    Ah we're all good, he tends to only get it around exams/times of intense stress so we have had a depression free relationship since August which has been wonderful I hope you can move past it in a similar way!
 
 
 
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