Will i make no friends in uni if i dont drink alcohol?

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Reply 40

Manchester United

"Stay shredded, stay sober".

Reply 41

tory88

Original post by Mycroft Holmes

So? You consider yourself an alpha male? No, lol. 99% of the time if a guy is drinking a vodka and coke he'll get laughed at for being a pussy.

You and I must mix in very different circles. I like to drink something different each round and just beer all night bores me. Naturally there's general ribbing every now and again, but any group which judges the worth of its members solely on what they drink sounds pretty dull to me.

Reply 42

Mycroft Holmes

Original post by Chief Wiggum

How about you just drink what you want to drink, and don't worry about what others think?

Being scared of others insulting a decision you make, and conforming to fit in doesn't strike me as something an "alpha male" would do...

You're missing the point. I do drink whatever I want (non-alcoholic usually) but I'm just saying the type of people who go out drinking all the time at university aren't getting smashed off vodka and cokes, so men aren't going to get away with drinking it and still being "respected" among a group and making friends out of it. Vodka and coke tastes too nice to be a "manly" drink, you need to drink **** like beer to make friends with the people who get drunk every other day. My advice is to just socialise with the people who aren't big on drinking if you're not a big drinker yourself.

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Reply 43

HopefulMidwife

Please don't tell me you're being serious? Do you think all university friendships are based on alcohol?

Reply 44

paulthompson94

Original post by peter12345

It's not that people will refuse to like you if you don't drink it is more that not drinking often excludes you from activities with these people hence removing your opportunity to befriend the. I have never come across someone who refused to be friends with someone simply because they didn't drink.

I have haha! It's pretty awful!

Reply 45

Poshboy2013

As a non drinker about to start university, I normally stick to coke or j2os during parties so I dont look out of place

Reply 46

muffingg

Original post by sarathellama

I'm 16 and i've never drunk alcohol just cause its not really my thing, my grandad was an alcoholic and thats just put me off.
But now im worried that because of my personal decision i won't make any friends at uni, im fine with clubbing etc. but i just dont want to binge drink :frown:

I don't drink and have never due to several reasons. When I was about to start uni everyone that already was at uni told me I'll start drinking after some time and I'm happy to prove them completely wrong and never having touched alcohol.

I still made lots of friends. And I don't even go clubbing. So, your perspectives should be better than mine since you have an additional source of making friends. Go out together with your hallmates to club nights and you'll already get to know people. Join a lot of societies that you have interest in and take part in their events and activities. Maybe try something exotic like skydiving, bungee jumping, or gliding or if you're not that much into this maybe if your uni has a mountaineering, caving, or travel society and go on trips and you are guaranteed to make friends. Just make sure you make the most of the first few weeks as groups start to settle and it's really difficult to get into those.

If there is a facebook page for your uni's freshers for this year, then join that and get talking to people. Sound really excited like everyone else and you'll make friends even before going there. I made a number of friends from Facebook and having completed my second year I can say that 2 of my closest friends were some which I got to know before uni and the others I got to know through them. Think of it: if you make some really good friends, you are almost guaranteed to make more friends by getting to know their friends. It's like a chain reaction.

Good Luck and hope that helps! :biggrin:

Reply 47

BlueSam3

No, not at all, in any way. Seriously, there are a lot more people that don't drink (or don't drink much at all) than you would expect if you were just going by reputation.

Just avoid our Rugby club :P

Reply 48

gijops

Original post by sarathellama

you don't have to binge drink... or drink at all for that matter, I've never seen anyone look down on a fellow student because they don't drink. and non-drinkers are more common than you think; they're the people that save a lot of money on nights out and have enough to eat more than beans and noodles in the skint months of december and march