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    There's nothing wrong with watching porn, but he really needs to be more private about it!

    Its upsetting to be forced to see your parents sexuality like that, maybe ask him to be more discrete in future, or set up an auto-delete for the history on the family computer.

    Please dont worry though, some people like porn and some people get really uncomfortable about it. Both reactions are absolutely fine.
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    I wouldn't read too much into it.
    Men just find the need to please themselves from time to time. Even men in a longstanding, healthy, married relationship will frequently masturbate, even if they are very much sexually active.
    If your Dad is masturbating, your Dad is masturbating. Try not to let it bother you. Obviously, if he's playing it full blast and the whole house can hear it, just let him know that it's distracting. But if he's at least trying to be subtle, just leave him.
    If you are male, and I may be assuming a bit much here, but chances are you masturbate from time to time. If your Dad walked in on you, what would you want from him?
    I know if my Dad walked in on me masturbating, I'd want him to leave the room immediately, and just never speak to me about it again.

    So yeah, in short: don't worry, he's a man, that's what men do. Don't think it's a sign of your parents' relationship breaking down or anything, because chances are it isn't.
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    I have to ask... What pain would this bring to your family?

    Porn is just porn. If your mum doesn't want to get it on with him as often as he wants to get it on with her, what's the problem with him enjoying himself alone? It's not like he's cheating or anything...

    And why is it any of your business? Just knock before you enter the room in future, and stop getting involved.
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    You know at least one of the two are probably true:

    Your mum knows.

    Your mum also watches it, maybe even with him.

    I really wouldn't worry, just don't jump into the middle of your parents sex life.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I had no idea about adult life and pictured everything to be black and white.
    So it was interracial porn?
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    Pfft, not a big deal. Tell him to be more discreet and get over yourself a bit, I'm sure you've watched it before.
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    (Original post by chapmouse)
    So yeah, in short: don't worry, he's a man, that's what men do. Don't think it's a sign of your parents' relationship breaking down or anything, because chances are it isn't.
    Excuse ME. Women do it too.
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    Tell all his friends.
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    = Lad!
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    (Original post by ChocoCoatedLemons)
    Excuse ME. Women do it too.
    Ah, here she is the top gal herself!
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    (Original post by manty)
    Ah, here she is the top gal herself!
    :giggle: Glad to know my reputation seems to be preceding me...

    Ooer, are you remembering me from that thread about masturbating?
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    (Original post by ChocoCoatedLemons)
    :giggle: Glad to know my reputation seems to be preceding me...

    Ooer, are you remembering me from that thread about masturbating?
    I am indeed, wherever you are ChocoCoatedLemons i appreciate your liberal sexual stance, you are an example to all women!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have caught my dad watching porn quite frequently on his laptop and ipad but always tries and hides it when I enter the room (obviously) and I just can't bring myself to confront him due to the pain it will do to my mum and family. On one occasion I caught him watching porn and loaded up the internet history and confronted him on one occasion. He then cooly just deleted the history in front of me and made up an excuse as to why he did it, even though we both know the real reason. To be fair, I haven't caught him watching it in over 6 months but whenever he is on a computer i have a gnawing feeling as to what he is doing. He is a brilliant, fantastic dad who always does everything to support us and does everything humanely possible for my family so it was a real shock when i found him watching porn. What should I do or not do? Have you had any exp with this and how common is it?
    So what? It's none of your business if he watches porn.
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    (Original post by manty)
    I am indeed, wherever you are ChocoCoatedLemons i appreciate your liberal sexual stance, you are an example to all women!
    Why thank you It's providing a public service, I'm sure.

    SIDE NOTE EVERYONE: I would just like to clarify. I'm not a ****. I've never had casual sex, I'm just very open about self-service. That is all.
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    (Original post by ChocoCoatedLemons)
    Why thank you It's providing a public service, I'm sure.

    SIDE NOTE EVERYONE: I would just like to clarify. I'm not a ****. I've never had casual sex, I'm just very open about self-service. That is all.
    Is this flirting? i feel we have a connection! pm me!

    hear hear, just a great TSR user
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    There's nothing wrong with him watching porn. It would be wrong if he would be on sex chats with other women or using sex chat cams. Who knows maybe he wants to learn something from those videos or there's simply not much of a fire between your parents in erm bed. Just don't put pressure on him and also have you tried to talk with him? I think you should try talking with him even though it's weird but still it's better than stalking on what your dad does.
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    Anyone else hoping this thread would be about the rather more amusing subject of someone who'd spotted their dad actually starring in some porn?
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    What's the problem? Just as long as he's being subtle, don't confront him! It's just porn, it's not like he's cheating.


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    As long as your Dad's watching porn and not in it, i'd say it's much ado about nothing.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am a male and I understand that everyone has to have a quickie here or there but I first caught him when I was 9 and that really ruined my trust as I had no idea about adult life and pictured everything to be black and white. I understand that it is normal but I can't help think that he should do it so much more privately as if I caught him in numerous occasions, imagine the chances of my mum catching him. ever since I caught him, I picture how he is betraying the trust of my mum and family and the complete hypocrisy he spouts about truth etc. that is what does it for me, the way he is lying to me and my family. If you have been caught man up and face the consequences
    Oh ok. Just tell him to download google chrome and go incognito then.
 
 
 
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