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    Been seeing this guy that I met through a friend. We've only been seeing each other as friends. Things like him coming to mine and just chatting for hours, about everything. Going out to the cinema, the gym together and so on.

    He texts me every morning and all throughout the day.

    All good signs- signs that make me think he likes me.

    Problem is, he keeps telling me about this ex he had about 5 years ago who he thinks is his soulmate and hes gutted he let her go and he wants to try again with her.

    But at the same time, he tells me things like he thinks im attractive and flirts with me a bit. He also says things...for example, if I say I like a guy who has a certain attribute, he seems to try and prove how he has that attribute at a later time.

    I just dont know what to do! I really like him, we have only known each other about a month, but we get on really well, if it wasnt for him telling me how much hes likes his ex still I really would have thought id have a chance.

    Does this mean Im friend zoned?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Been seeing this guy that I met through a friend. We've only been seeing each other as friends. Things like him coming to mine and just chatting for hours, about everything. Going out to the cinema, the gym together and so on.

    He texts me every morning and all throughout the day.

    All good signs- signs that make me think he likes me.

    Problem is, he keeps telling me about this ex he had about 5 years ago who he thinks is his soulmate and hes gutted he let her go and he wants to try again with her.

    But at the same time, he tells me things like he thinks im attractive and flirts with me a bit. He also says things...for example, if I say I like a guy who has a certain attribute, he seems to try and prove how he has that attribute at a later time.

    I just dont know what to do! I really like him, we have only known each other about a month, but we get on really well, if it wasnt for him telling me how much hes likes his ex still I really would have thought id have a chance.

    Does this mean Im friend zoned?
    Ask him?

    His giving you mixed messages which isn't fair.
    I have a boy-friend and our friendship (which is years longer than yours) was exactly the same as yours here. If it wasn't for me going uni, i'd probably be in a relationship with him today.

    It's early days so either ask him where it's going or just wait and see.
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    he's using the d.e.n.n.i.s system all wrong.
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    (Original post by consumed by stuff)
    he's using the d.e.n.n.i.s system all wrong.
    Haha, what's the d.e.n.n.i.s system?!
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    (Original post by KMStudent94)
    Ask him?

    His giving you mixed messages which isn't fair.
    I have a boy-friend and our friendship (which is years longer than yours) was exactly the same as yours here. If it wasn't for me going uni, i'd probably be in a relationship with him today.

    It's early days so either ask him where it's going or just wait and see.
    hmm, that does not contradict itself
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    (Original post by KMStudent94)
    Haha, what's the d.e.n.n.i.s system?!
    this is the dennis system, enjoy

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZuOKUrwoys

    he's not displaying value.
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    (Original post by McFlury)
    hmm, that does not contradict itself
    With "boy-friend" she meant a male friend. Use your common sense.
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    (Original post by McFlury)
    hmm, that does not contradict itself
    What's your point?
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    (Original post by consumed by stuff)
    this is the dennis system, enjoy

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZuOKUrwoys

    he's not displaying value.
    please will you describe it, youtube is not working for me and I am intrigued
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    (Original post by Aquar)
    With "boy-friend" she meant a male friend. Use your common sense.
    well that's a lot clearer
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    (Original post by McFlury)
    please will you describe it, youtube is not working for me and I am intrigued
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    D – Demonstrate Your Value
    E – Engage Physically
    N – Nurturing Dependence
    N - Neglect Emotionally
    I – Inspire Hope
    S – Separate Entirely
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    (Original post by consumed by stuff)
    in short



    D – Demonstrate Your Value
    E – Engage Physically
    N – Nurturing Dependence
    N - Neglect Emotionally
    I – Inspire Hope
    S – Separate Entirely
    ta.
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    in short



    D – Demonstrate Your Value
    E – Engage Physically
    N – Nurturing Dependence
    N - Neglect Emotionally
    I – Inspire Hope
    S – Separate Entirely
    can you explain how hes doing it/doing it wrong please?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    can you explain how hes doing it/doing it wrong please?
    he displays value by showing that a) he has had a serious relationship i.e reliability stability etc etc b) he says stuff like soulmate i.e making him sound deep or spiritual.

    but he keeps talking about his inabilities. therefore nnot following the system.
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    Maybe he's just trying to make you jealous to see if you like him?
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    I think he's just trying to make you jealous because guys don't friend zone girls.
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    in short



    D – Demonstrate Your Value
    E – Engage Physically
    N – Nurturing Dependence
    N - Neglect Emotionally
    I – Inspire Hope
    S – Separate Entirely
    I never thought I'd live to see the attempted practical use of this.


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    (Original post by AtlasCanTakeIt)
    I never thought I'd live to see the attempted practical use of this.


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    i'm gonna make it happen.
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    A moments silence for a brother in the friendzone.
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    i'm gonna make it happen.
    I salute you sir.


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