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I want a girlfriend, but girls get a 'gay vibe' from me? watch
- 17-03-2013 00:07
- 17-03-2013 00:08
Seems like you're just friendzoning yourself with the girls you talk to? It also seems like you haven't even tried to ask someone out yet; for the most part to be successful you have to advertise yourself as a potential partner rather than a potential friend from day 1 of knowing someone. You currently are advertising yourself as "That generous guy with virtually no friends".... not exactly attractive is it?
- 17-03-2013 00:09
Well the obvious question that I need to ask you is: Are you sure you aren't gay for a start? If you are confident that you have no sexual/emotional attraction to males, then we need to look at why girls get this 'gay vibe' from you.
You say you lack male friends. That is a potentially huge factor. Guys who are constantly surrounded by girls all the time, however is never attempting to 'make a move', is usually perceived as gay.
As said, have you actually been told that you give off a 'gay vibe' or are you just assuming?
The biggest thing that I must stress is to BE YOURSELF. You don't need to change yourself for people. If you are sure you are not gay, then just stay as you are. There will be a girl who wants you as a boyfriend and likes you for who you are. Just be patient.
Please don't feel like you have to start football to get a girlfriend or anything like that!
- 17-03-2013 00:11
[B]I am not a person who tells people things, you people probably know more about me than most of my sixth form[/B]
- 17-03-2013 00:18
Sounds like a close friend of mine. He has all the characteristics you describe including the fashion thing; some of our friends jokingly refer to him as gay even though when asked he always says he isn't. I've talked to some of my girl friends in private, who genuinely suspect he is gay. However, I personally find all those characteristics you describe that he has appealing, trust him when he says he's heterosexual, and would go out with him if the situation ever went that way. I can understand you being worried, but don't lose hope; you can definitely get a girlfriend because you sound like a nice guy, which is by far the most important thing.
- 17-03-2013 00:20
From what I read in your post, at least, they did not say this:
So it's fine.
- 17-03-2013 00:54
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- 17-03-2013 08:14
- 17-03-2013 14:02
Like Is it a confidence issue when people are around u?
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(Original post by Anonymous)
- 17-03-2013 14:55
Saying that, I don't really get on with anyone at sixth form, and there are just two people who I feel a friendship connection too, both of these people are girls. Despite the fact they've known me for over a year now, they just ignore my presence when they discuss weekend plans ect, which I don't mind, but it's clear they really don't like me.
(Original post by SnoochToTheBooch)
that's the red flag for me. All that other stuff you've mentioned doesn't necessarily scream gayness, more just being a sensible, mature person - but the more a man take care of his appearance, the further towards that "potentially gay" threshold he moves.
(Original post by superduper9)
- 17-03-2013 16:36
Mate, its all in your head. No one said that being a guy means you have to love football, swear a lot, say crude things to women you think are hot and dress like a slob. You will find that there a lot of guys who like all sorts of different sports or activites, treat girls with respect, only banter with their good mates and dress well depending on the occassion. That doesn't make any guy less manly and it definitely doesn't make him feminine or gay. Goodness, if every guy was the typical "man", then the world would be .... well, screwed.
You need to be comfortable with your likes, dislikes, behaviour, attitudes and personality. You don't have to be bullied into being something you're not. Girls, it would seem, appreciate self confidence and someone who can hold his own, not collapse under pressure. You can be just the way you are and find a nice girlfriend - most likely, the ideal match for you, which may be a unique girl of sorts, hasn't crossed paths with you. Just stay true to yourself mate.