She thinks Im not a virgin

ok so far im a virgin.

Ive always messed around with girls, grinding and snogging but no more. Honestly I was scared and felt shameful if I slept with someone, and the other reason is theres nwowhere proper to do it. And I never stick around with a girl long enough to get to that stage.

Most girls and people I meet assume im not a virgin by the way I go around and talk and act, of course its the opposite. And you dont really wanna be a virgin nowadays, its really embarrassing. When people ask me how many girls I slept with, I just say something stupid like lost count, too drunk to remember etc. Cant really handle the shame of being a virgin.

So ive met this new girl recently, I kind of like her, only as an object though, no feelings, just her body and face, really pretty eyes. Shes obviously been around, slept around and stuff.

She seems quite eager, while we 'mess about' (i.e. kiss and hold hands etc, thats all i want really) she keeps trying to grab my penis, obviously because Im a virgin im pretty hard on. But I know something sexual is going to happen soon, i cant stop it, shes too eager for it not to happen, and im not gonna let someone that fit get away too quick.

We are definitely going to either do it or she will go down on me. The problem is whatever we do shes going to find out im a virgin by how quickly i finish, so i need to somehow finish late and this is where i need advise. I almost feel like im being peer pressured by a girl, i think i need to man up.

Cant let her find out im a virgin, it would ruin me honestly. Help.

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Reply 1

Amanbabbar./

Why would it ruin you?
How old are you?
Rather petty if you ask me. Just tell her you're a virgin and stop lying to people. It's not a bad thing if you haven't had sex yet.
It doesn't mean anything, it just means you haven't felt comfortable enough to do it with anyone yet which means you aint a slut, going around with girls just for sex is a bad thing. And if that's what you want to be because you're embarrassed of what people will think of you because you've not ****ed anyone yet, then you have a weak mind.

Hope this helped :')

Reply 2

Arnob204

Original post by Amanbabbar./

That's easy for girls to say. Most non-virgin girls would find a virgin love interest a big turn-off (inb4 hundreds of girls come in saying "It wouldn't bother me!!!")

Reply 3

Amanbabbar./

Original post by Arnob204

That's easy for girls to say. Most non-virgin girls would find a virgin love interest a big turn-off (inb4 hundreds of girls come in saying "It wouldn't bother me!!!")

Yeah okay, like you know most girls on this planet.
A lot of girls prefer it if a boyfriend didn't have a sexual history.
Although, I can't speak for every girl, but I do know a lot of girls who think that a guy who hasn't had sexual relationships is better than a guy who has.
I don't understand why losing your virginity is a priority nowadays.

Reply 4

Lemonzaz

What's wrong with being a virgin? My boyfriend was a virgin before he met me - didn't make a difference, aside from him gaining more respect from me.
I cant think of anyone who would want a guy thats slept around with a lot of women. It would feel like you're just being used for sex, not to mention the possibility of catching sti's :/

Reply 5

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Tell her the truth. No one cares if you're a virgin or not and if they do then why the hell are you hanging out with people like that?

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Reply 6

Gladbags2012

Whats so embarrasing about being a virgin? Why do people hold it with such shame? Theres nothing to be a shamed of.
People can be so rude, asking such personal questions I think. People should mind their own business when it comes to thesr things.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

i dont think you guys understand in my circle of friends there are no virgins, its a sign of weakness.

Anyone has any tips to 'appear' experienced when it happens?

Reply 8

Emily115

Original post by Anonymous

dont think you guys understand in my circle of friends there are no virgins, its a sign of weakness.

Anyone has any tips to 'appear' experienced when it happens?

Then maybe you're hanging round with the wrong people, that's ridiculous. Do you mind me asking how old you are?
Also, there's plenty of girls who couldn't care less whether you're a virgin or not..

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Reply 9

Speckle

I thought I'd only last a few seconds the first time I had any kind of sexual contact. But in reality I didn't even finish during the 10 mins or so of oral and the sex lasted probably below average but not ridiculously low - just below 10 mins I'd guess.

Reply 10

unprinted

Original post by Anonymous

i dont think you guys understand in my circle of friends there are no virgins, its a sign of weakness.

There are - do you really think you are the only one lying about this?

Anyone has any tips to 'appear' experienced when it happens?

Ask what she would like you to do for her, because you're experienced enough to know that different people like different things and there is no way to know without asking. Then, do whatever it is, starting gently and slowly unless and until she says to do it harder and faster.

Or, if you are feeling lazy, let her do all the work. You can pretend you're being cool.

Coming quickly is no proof of inexperience, and it's just as likely that - because it feels different from the years of masturbating - you won't come at all.

Reply 11

JediArron

How pretentious. How sad.
You seriously deceive people because it'd ruin your social image? LOL

Just tell people.

Reply 12

Sgt.Incontro

Original post by JediArron

How pretentious. How sad.
You seriously deceive people because it'd ruin your social image? LOL

Just tell people.

Reply 13

JediArron

Original post by Sgt.Incontro

Omg your avatar is so cute :3

Reply 14

Truflais

Maybe it would be best to just come clean, you'll get a bit of stick at first but then nobody will care.

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Reply 15

Sgt.Incontro

Original post by JediArron

Omg your avatar is so cute :3

Its the doodle jump animal thingy :cool:

Reply 16

Gladbags2012

Original post by Anonymous

i dont think you guys understand in my circle of friends there are no virgins, its a sign of weakness.

How ridiculous, childish and immature!

If they were any sort of true friend, they would respect you for who you are, not what you are pretending to be...

OP, explain to us why you consider it a so-called 'weakness' to be a virgin. How did you come to this conclusion?
For gods sake, its not like you're being sentenced for high treason or something! Get over it, its no big deal.

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Reply 17

kunoichi

Original post by Gladbags2012

This

why is it such a problem being a virgin? There is nothing wrong with it whatsoever!

My boyfriend didnt tell me he had been a virgin until we were three months in and i was a bit upset because if he had told me i could have made his first time far more special.

Also guys dont necessarily finish quick on their first time, so dont assume this

I think you should tell her OP, if she looks down on you for being a virgin she isnt worth being with anyway and you could lose it to a far better, more accepting person.

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

there are different pressures in different social groups in society. mine is as explained above.

Also i have a tiny bit of a reputation of being a player, i dont know why but girls seem to like players more than non players, i know many girls who wanted my company more after thinking i have a few on the go.

I hate the fact that girls back chat so much its so stupid. If she finds out im a virgin, straight away shel b lyk to her mates 'omg gues what, ... flopped on me, hes a virgin' and thus the word will spread. I know because i have heard of this happening to other guys. But the problem is I have a decent rep round here.

To be honest id rather lose it after i get hitched, but thats not gonna happen because girls are too dam on it nowadays.

So thats why and I cant change my friends, i need them for so many things. And some of the mates get few girls round and invite me for these threesomes and foursomes, it seems thats the latest thing nowadays. But i always decline their invite, but it makes me a look a bit gay.