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    I have had social anxiety for years and I am now 23, still living at home and not even started a degree yet.

    I am trying to get my s**t together and set some goals to banish this demon once and for all.

    In the past I have set many goals and achieved them, the only thing I've not managed is socialising with other people which is the hardest thing for me to do. So now is the time I want to commit to some goals to overcome my fear of socialising.

    I just can't think of what would help. Most people would say volunteer, go the gym to improve confidence, go to college, get therapy and/or meds, get a job etc, but I've done all of those things but I've still somehow maintained this high level social anxiety, so I need some help on what else I could actually do that might work.

    Any ideas?
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    You could find it benefical to speak to a councellor about your social anxiety and they might help you with how to overcome this on more of a mental level as this seems to be what you need most work on rather than physically trying to overcome this. My shyness was dramatically improved when i decided to volunteer abroad in Africa over the summer, this boosted my confidence up massively and so i volunteered again last summer in Asia. Another aspect of my life that has helped me is work...it allows you to deal with people every day face to face which eventually you will just naturally learn how to feel more easy around people etc as it becomes the norm. Another suggestion I would say is joining clubs/societies etc that you enjoy so you will be more relaxed around people who have the same interests as you etc. Also a big boost on conversation starters if you both enjoy the same things
    Good luck
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    My own method was to use alcohol to dull my nerves when I had to meet people at social events - it worked, sort of. But not the ideal solution, especially during the daytime!

    Perhaps try 'mindfulness' http://bemindful.co.uk/, which can be very helpful for anxiety and depression.
 
 
 
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