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    Not really sure where to start with this....

    I'd actually say I'm generally quite a happy person. Not like totally happy, but then who is? But when I get upset about something, I get totally unable to cope with it. Like things that seem quite small to others, are the biggest thing ever to me.

    I know this sounds like a typical teenager but I really don't feel like it is. When I get sad I will cry for literally hours, and I can't stop or control my emotions at all. My boyfriend is the only person that can vaguely comfort me, and even then I cry and cry and cry. I get totally hysterical.

    I feel pretty embarassed about this, I feel like I should be able to control myself better and not get so upset. Whats wrong with me?
    Any help at all is greatly appreciated
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    It's fine to get upset especially with being a teenage girl (like me,) but you need to learn what cheers you up. It always help me when i clear my mind and occupy myself with something like an outing with friends or cooking with your mum or even just watching re-runs of you favourite TV programmes. Also, I know this sounds stupid but somehow read about or watch something about depressed people with sad lives and it will make you realise how lucky you are and how happy you SHOULD be. SMILEEE AND BE HAPPY
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    Is this only at certain times of the month, or all the time? If its only once a month- that's completely normal!
    If its all the time and happens often, like crying for hours two or three times a week, maybe you should talk to a professional? Have you always done this or is it just since you became a teen? Do you react the same way to major things?

    What finally makes you stop crying after a few hours? Is it a definite thing or do you just cry yourself out? If you have something that makes you "snap out of it" for lack of a better phrase it will obviously make this easier.

    Of course its okay to get upset about little things, and its normal for something that other people think is trivial to be a big deal to you, but if you know the things that are making you upset are minor in your life than you should talk to someone. It doesn't even have to be a counsellor or therapist, a school or university nurse or your GP should be able to help, especially if it turns out to have a medical root (of course, mental health is medical as well, but you know what I mean).
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    Is this only at certain times of the month, or all the time? If its only once a month- that's completely normal!
    If its all the time and happens often, like crying for hours two or three times a week, maybe you should talk to a professional? Have you always done this or is it just since you became a teen? Do you react the same way to major things?

    What finally makes you stop crying after a few hours? Is it a definite thing or do you just cry yourself out? If you have something that makes you "snap out of it" for lack of a better phrase it will obviously make this easier.

    Of course its okay to get upset about little things, and its normal for something that other people think is trivial to be a big deal to you, but if you know the things that are making you upset are minor in your life than you should talk to someone. It doesn't even have to be a counsellor or therapist, a school or university nurse or your GP should be able to help, especially if it turns out to have a medical root (of course, mental health is medical as well, but you know what I mean).
    I'd say it happens about once or twice a week. My parents say I was always quite an inconsolable child, when i got into my early teens i was diagnosed with depression and with that i felt really numb, never cried or showed any emotions really. It's since i got better that I've been like this again - i just get hysterical.

    When i stop crying after a few hours, it's just because i've tired myself out that much that I can't cry anymore. Often I will actually fall asleep from it, other times I just feel like a zombie....just way to drained to cry anymore.

    When major things happen, I just get even worse. I just totally can't cope.....but that's not as much of a concern to me because I feel like that's more of a 'normal' reaction.

    Are these things weird? What kind of thing could be causing this?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'd say it happens about once or twice a week. My parents say I was always quite an inconsolable child, when i got into my early teens i was diagnosed with depression and with that i felt really numb, never cried or showed any emotions really. It's since i got better that I've been like this again - i just get hysterical.

    When i stop crying after a few hours, it's just because i've tired myself out that much that I can't cry anymore. Often I will actually fall asleep from it, other times I just feel like a zombie....just way to drained to cry anymore.

    When major things happen, I just get even worse. I just totally can't cope.....but that's not as much of a concern to me because I feel like that's more of a 'normal' reaction.

    Are these things weird? What kind of thing could be causing this?
    Hmm. It's unfortunate about your depression and I'm glad you've recovered. I think it is very normal to freak out during major life events but crying for hours over minor things is a little worrying. Do you know if anyone else in your family has ever done this? I don't think there's anything wrong with you per se but clearly this is affecting your life. I don't have any training and seriously suggest you talk to a nurse, doctor or maybe a therapist (did you have one when you were depressed?).

    It could be that: your hormones are a bit out of whack, your still have a mild form of depression, you have an anxiety disorder or maybe you are just a very sensitive person. It could be something else entirely.

    Once again, I urge you to talk to people. If you google "crying over minor things" or "crying all the time" a lot of support forums and people describing similar circumstances will come up. Have a look around.

    Anyway, good luck.
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    (Original post by Imayormaynotexist)
    Hmm. It's unfortunate about your depression and I'm glad you've recovered. I think it is very normal to freak out during major life events but crying for hours over minor things is a little worrying. Do you know if anyone else in your family has ever done this? I don't think there's anything wrong with you per se but clearly this is affecting your life. I don't have any training and seriously suggest you talk to a nurse, doctor or maybe a therapist (did you have one when you were depressed?).

    It could be that: your hormones are a bit out of whack, your still have a mild form of depression, you have an anxiety disorder or maybe you are just a very sensitive person. It could be something else entirely.

    Once again, I urge you to talk to people. If you google "crying over minor things" or "crying all the time" a lot of support forums and people describing similar circumstances will come up. Have a look around.

    Anyway, good luck.
    Thank you I'm not quite sure about going to the doctors, just because I'm a bit worried that they'll think I have depression again....but you're right I should go.
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    Thank you I'm not quite sure about going to the doctors, just because I'm a bit worried that they'll think I have depression again....but you're right I should go.
    Yes, yes you should! Remember, being diagnosed with anything won't change what you're feeling, it will just make it easier for other people to help you. If you're diagnosed with depression again, it won't suddenly make you more depressed.

    Fingers crossed it isn't depression and this will get better. And if it is depression, that you have all the help you need to get over it.

    Good luck.
 
 
 
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