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    Please keep anon as I know people who use this site from work.

    Basically I work in a small company and we're going put for a work do. This'll be the first time I've seen my workmates outside of work and in a non professional capacity. I'm friendly with all of them but not really "friends" per se; a lot of them are much closer to each other than they are to me. I'm worried that this work do is going to be really awkward for me and I'll be the person who people aren't really interested in talking to!! I do actually come across as a fairly confident person but the whole idea makes me so anxious. I realize I may be overthinking it and many people would relish the idea of being put into that kind of setting. Just want thoughts on this and any tactics to make myself feel less awkward and less of a spare part when the day comes around because its getting to the point where I really want to go but won't for fear of feeling uncomfortable. Thanks in advance.
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    I felt the same when I first started my new job and we all went out for a birthday do. I wouldn't worry too much, you've met them all before so you kind of know what they're all like. Just be yourself, if your manager hired you its because he/she probably feels you are suitable for that sort of team. In my last job, as well as having the correct experience, after becoming very good friends with my manager, she told me she first hired me because she felt I was a perfect fit for the sort of team I would be working with (personality wise). If you're all going to a bar/pub then a drink will probably calm your nerves a bit, but the best advice I can give you is to be yourself completely. Nervousness is normal too, to this day when I go meet up with friends from my previous job that I left over a year ago, I still feel nervous as I don't often see them but once I'm with them and we're laughing and having a few drinks I'm completely fine. I'm sure you will be too. Hope it goes well and you have fun!
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    Bump, thanks.
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