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    Let me phrase this like Joey Essex, you're well jel.
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    It all depends of if she appreciates it or not, as she says shes not spoilt, she is.
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    Privileged - yes.

    But I disagree with the term 'spoilt' to mean 'privileged and rich'. You can call finances ruined, but you wouldn't call an unprivileged, poor child 'ruined'. A person exists outside of their financial situation, and suggesting that a person is unavoidably tainted by their living situation is quite judgemental. She is spoilt if she brags about it, and whines when she doesn't get her own way, and cries unreasonably for more things from her parents.
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    (Original post by chelsea cheese)
    ok before anybody asks, this isnt about me. its about my cousin who is the exact same age as me but believes she's not spoilt we were having a family discussion at the weekend and i accused of her of being spoilt. just want to make sure i haven't said anything that's untrue. what would be your opinions if you met a girl who had this?:


    17 years old
    no job (does occasional babysitting)
    reasonably valuable car (£3-4k) with private reg name number plate
    insurance paid for by parents. £800 worth of driving lessons paid for by parents.
    apple macbook pro her parents (my Auntie and Uncle) paid for the majority
    apple iphone on contract paid for by parents
    apple tv in her bedroom
    ipad and imac which are her parents' but she can use whenever
    ralph lauren clothes, jumper, coat, polos etc
    2 pandora bracelets full of charms, a thomas sabo bracelet and a michael kors watch, none of which she bought herself.
    Always has nice clothes, converse, vans, levi jeans, blazers, timberland boots, nice coats and bags etc
    salon studio GHDs
    clinique and mac make up
    going on two european holidays this summer with friends and staying in 4/5* hotels, she paid for with own money but from her savings
    been all over the world, asia, middle east, north america etc
    parents have a mercedes amg (sport thing idk) and a porsche S as well as a 4x4
    going to uni in september and living at home but parents are paying for her train fare
    might do a year abroad which parents will pay for


    she thinks she's normal like everyone else but i tried to tell her she's quite spoilt. i think she knows she has a lot of stuff but can't see just how much. i don't mean she brags about everything she has because she doesnt and you wouldnt really know if you met her but i want her to see just how much stuff she has. would you think she was spoilt or do you think i was being unfair??

    She's not spoilt, she just comes from a well privileged family who like to provide for her and make sure she has what she needs. If her family have worked hard for their money they are perfectly entitled to do what they want with it, especially when it comes to providing for their children. I'd probably do the same for my children as long as they knew you'd have to work hard for it and that money doesn't grow on trees. As soon as they started getting bratty and snobbish then i'd stop.

    Shes educated (going to university) so she doesn't sound lazy at all.
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    does this make anyone else feel incredibly poor
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    It's perfectly normal. I noticed people in the UK see parents helping their child as some kind of a bad thing. In many countries it is seen as normal or almost as an expectation to help your child get the best education possible and then be independent. Studying alone is not easy and it's unfortunate that some people have to work instead of spending their precious time on studying.

    You should get over yourself and be happy that her parents and her are so fortunate.
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    yeah but when you go on her Facebook an see all the albums of her holidays throughout the years surely thats bragging?
    and if you go on her instagram too its evident to see shes well off i mean i don't know if its bragging because i know people post pictures of their stuff all the time on instagram but you can tell she has a lot of stuff so that could be a bit braggy?
    i will private message people her username to prove that i have a valid point
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    (Original post by beansontoast93)
    does this make anyone else feel incredibly poor
    exactly!
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    Yep spoilt
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    (Original post by iPhone)
    Yep spoilt
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    (Original post by chelsea cheese)
    yeah but when you go on her Facebook an see all the albums of her holidays throughout the years surely thats bragging?
    and if you go on her instagram too its evident to see shes well off i mean i don't know if its bragging because i know people post pictures of their stuff all the time on instagram but you can tell she has a lot of stuff so that could be a bit braggy?
    i will private message people her username to prove that i have a valid point
    Why do you care so much to go to these lengths to try and get people to agree with you?
    She's from a family who are well off. Why not just be happy for her and live your own life?
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    Yeah, I'd say she's a bit spoilt. But you can be proud of the fact that you work for what you have instead of being jealous
    One day, when she moves out, she will get a bit of a shock that she has to work hard to pay for things herself.
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    (Original post by Lukev)
    Why do you care so much to go to these lengths to try and get people to agree with you?
    She's from a family who are well off. Why not just be happy for her and live your own life?
    I am happy for her i just wanted to make sure i hadn't said anything unfair
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    (Original post by SpottedZebra)
    Yeah, I'd say she's a bit spoilt. But you can be proud of the fact that you work for what you have instead of being jealous
    One day, when she moves out, she will get a bit of a shock that she has to work hard to pay for things herself.
    Very true
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    (Original post by the mezzil)
    Yup sounds spoilt. However, nobody should resent her, instead pity her for being so sheltered and out of touch with the real world.
    No need for the envy or the moral high horse.
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    You're clearly not happy for her, or this thread wouldn't exist.
    Putting holiday pics on Facebook is not bragging, it's what people do after going on holiday. She may not realise she has it so good if she's always been in that environment.
    Do you feel she looks down on you for having less?
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    I don't think it's any of your business. I don't understand why kids of this generation are so obsessed with analysing other kids' background, what their parents buy them, etc. They are still people and do not need interrogation such as "she has her own car - spoiled. Ralph Lauren clothes - spoiled". Her parents seem to be buying it for her but it is their choice to, what would you want instead? Limits on the number of gifts her parents can get her? Like anything in life, judge on characteristics, not things like wealth as then it implies you dislike them because of this wealth.

    This wasn't directly to you OP, just in general.
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    (Original post by Lukev)
    You're clearly not happy for her, or this thread wouldn't exist.
    Putting holiday pics on Facebook is not bragging, it's what people do after going on holiday. She may not realise she has it so good if she's always been in that environment.
    Do you feel she looks down on you for having less?
    Not so much look down i just think sometimes if she does something like organises a holiday it has to be the best she can make it etc and even if you didn't really know her and just followed her on instagram or sometimes twitter you could probably tell she had a good life so surely that means she's not all modest about it
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    (Original post by chelsea cheese)
    im not jealous i just think its a bit stupid like getting train fare paid for her even when shes an adult
    Lots of people with well-off parents get financial help like for things that when they are older than 17 (quite a lot older in some cases!), it's pretty common. TBH you do sound a little bit jealous, I would suggest focus on your own goals and ambitions and don't worry too much about what others have, there's a temptation to be upset when it looks like some people 'have it easy', but it isn't generally a useful thing to be upset about.
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    (Original post by Lukev)
    You're clearly not happy for her, or this thread wouldn't exist.
    Putting holiday pics on Facebook is not bragging, it's what people do after going on holiday. She may not realise she has it so good if she's always been in that environment.
    Do you feel she looks down on you for having less?
    Some people would argue Facebook is mainly for bragging about holidays, but maybe that's a minority view. :rolleyes:
 
 
 
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