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    Basically, I've been going out with my bf for about a month, short I know, but the problem is that he just thinks about sex. I didn't think this as a problem to start with, but now, I don't know. I only really realized this today, when I basically said no to anything more than kissing, and he went into a sulk. To be fair the first time I went round his - after two weeks, we had sex. Now I'm wondering if i should have held off, like I wanted to do to start with and then I wouldn't be in this situation. And should I hang onto this relationship as it is only very young and hope it improves?
    BTW he's my first boyfriend and so I don't know what I should do.
    Sorry, a bit of a rant. Any ideas of what to do would be helpful.

    He's probably a bit confused about why you had sex first then suddenly now don't want to...maybe explain that you think you rushed into it and that you want to wait and take things slow. If he sulks about that and is being pushy then dump him-it is your first relationship after all, he should understand

    Just say you want to take things more slowly. If he's a reasonable bloke he'll surely understand. You should understand though, he might have a high sex drive which might make it hard on him.

    I think it is a touch confusing if you embark on a sexual relationship and then back off. And enthusiastic sex is, in my view, a fairly normal expectation of a new and promising relationship. Maybe the chemistry isn't there - and sulking in the early days isn't a good sign, so perhaps call it a day...

    Yep I think it's because you had sex with him so early.. Just explain to him that you felt you jumped into it too early and don't want things to be just about sex. He should understand, if he doesn't kick him to the curb

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    Sit down and talk to him. If you find that in these early days you can't find a common ground of understanding then break-up. He's probably a bit confused as to what you want right now.
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