Feeling's of sadness after masturbation

Please don't laugh, this is serious and abit embarrassing. I've noticed something that every time I masturbate, I get depressed after it, I mean I start to cry that is everytime after I've finished feeling horny and stuff. I usually masturbate for like an hour or more, several times and then straight after feel very low like for the rest of the day until someone cheers me up or cry myself to sleep and wake up in the morning and Im a different happier person. It's not that I feel guilty about doing it, cos I dont feel guilty at all after I've done it, I dont think masturbation is wrong. But just feeling so sad, crying and getting upset, its so weird. I cant really explain it. But I know it does happen, I've noticed it alot recently, I'm soo high for awhile and then I go so low after it, whats wrong with me? Does this happen to anyone else?

Reply 1

newmdb

4

A lot of people apparently get post-coital depression, masturbating is a form of sex, so you may just get that. Do you feel like you need human contact, as in after sex people usually hug and stuff? It could just be a natural reaction, from the really good feeling of sexual stimulation to the comparable dull feeling of everyday life may be whats causing it.

Reply 2

username36063

11

You really have some worries dont you.

Oh dear.

Are you at uni, most unis have a personal counciller that I think you should go see about instead of asking us amateurs on here.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

I dont know maybe I do. But to think I'd be used to it by now by not being in a relationship (almost 2 years), or having cuddles after sex for soo long infact I dont think Ive ever had a cuddle after sex, lol. So it is common then? I'm not the weird one here?

Reply 4

username36063

11

Nah, I think you are fine. just a wee bit lonely.

your heads right, dont worry bout that.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

I dont think I would want to speak to a counciller about masturbation, I'd be too embarrassed. So its nothing? Then how come it doesnt happen to other single people?

Reply 6

Lauren Hart

3

its ok, it happens to me, but i dont orgasm which is possibly the issue there. but i never get it after sex or anything, so i think its just maybe that i want to cuddle up to someone.

Reply 7

silverbolt

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Lauren Hart

its ok, it happens to me, but i dont orgasm which is possibly the issue there. but i never get it after sex or anything, so i think its just maybe that i want to cuddle up to someone.

how come you dont orgasm

Reply 8

Anthonyjm71

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Anonymous

Please don't laugh, this is serious and abit embarrassing. I've noticed something that every time I masturbate, I get depressed after it, I mean I start to cry that is everytime after I've finished feeling horny and stuff. I usually masturbate for like an hour or more, several times and then straight after feel very low like for the rest of the day until someone cheers me up or cry myself to sleep and wake up in the morning and Im a different happier person. It's not that I feel guilty about doing it, cos I dont feel guilty at all after I've done it, I dont think masturbation is wrong. But just feeling so sad, crying and getting upset, its so weird. I cant really explain it. But I know it does happen, I've noticed it alot recently, I'm soo high for awhile and then I go so low after it, whats wrong with me? Does this happen to anyone else?

Yes I do feel exactly the same , after I've masturbated hate being single??

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

I'm glad I'm not alone in this, not that what I said is a good thing.

Reply 10

halfoflessthan50p

12

When you've had an orgasm hormones (i dont know which ones) are sent to your brain (i think :smile:

) and that affects how you feel. It affects different people in different ways. Sometimes you feel really relaxed, sometimes a bit kinda... hollow, regretful? i dunno, i guess your just getting this but a bit more severe than most people.

You should talk to your councillor, im sure that he/she would do everything to try and make you feel as little embarassed as possible. There might well be a really simple answer to your problem. You could always talk on the phone or even write an anonymous letter I guess. They're there to help you, not embarass and make you feel uncomfortable

hope that helped mate :biggrin:

Reply 11

Love Sheep

1

Hey it's OK, I get that too. It's because I feel lonely, and get depressed about being single, thinking 'hey, I should be sharing this moment with someone.' Maybe that's why you feel sad?