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    i love him a lot, but he's pushing me to have anal & he says i must do it for him if i really love him..i really do , but am afraid it will hurt..what should i do ?
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    (Original post by emmaq8)
    i love him a lot, but he's pushing me to have anal & he says i must do it for him if i really love him..i really do , but am afraid it will hurt..what should i do ?
    Leave him.
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    (Original post by emmaq8)
    ..what should i do ?
    Poop beforehand.
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    You do not have to do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. Sit down with him and tell him your concerns, and you do not fancy it. If he loves YOU, surely he'll see that it's not fair to push you into it
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    Tell him to not emotionally blackmail you to prove he really loves you, of course.
    At the end of the day it is your body. Your sexuality. Your embodiment.

    You cannot allow him to dictate that you must do sexual acts to prove your love to him. It's beyond manipulative. You are not a possession. You are not something to be owned by him.

    I urge you to say no, and to tell him that if does anything like that again you'll tell his family what he said to you.
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    If you don't wanna do it then don't is the obvious answer. If you do do it, some say it can be very enjoyable.
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    (Original post by emmaq8)
    i love him a lot, but he's pushing me to have anal & he says i must do it for him if i really love him..i really do , but am afraid it will hurt..what should i do ?
    Tell him you're not mentally there.. If he loves you he'll wait if not well..


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    What a pathetic man. OP you are dating a loser. Enjoy.
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    (Original post by emmaq8)
    i love him a lot, but he's pushing me to have anal & he says i must do it for him if i really love him..i really do , but am afraid it will hurt..what should i do ?
    If he loves you, he wouldn't be pushing you do to something you weren't comfortable with...
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    leave his ass

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    Seriously, don't do it unless you're sure you feel comfortable with it. It's ok to suggest new things to your partner in a relationship, that's how you find out about each other's likes and dislikes, but it's wrong to pressure you. If he loves you, he won't pressure you to do anything you don't want to.
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    (Original post by emmaq8)
    i love him a lot, but he's pushing me to have anal & he says i must do it for him if i really love him..i really do , but am afraid it will hurt..what should i do ?
    Turn this around on him. Go to bed one night with a strap-on, rub it against him and tell him to prove his love for you.
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    Tie him up, bend him over and shove a ten inch strap on up his backside, see how much he likes it!! Joking aside, never do anything that you are not comfortable doing. If he does not like this fact, get rid.
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    (Original post by emmaq8)
    i love him a lot, but he's pushing me to have anal & he says i must do it for him if i really love him..i really do , but am afraid it will hurt..what should i do ?
    What an absolute ****. Dump him and go find someone who doesn't pressure you to perform sexual acts you feel uncomfortable with to 'prove your love'

    Either that or let him do it and **** all over him then leave.
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    Turn this around on him. Go to bed one night with a strap-on, rub it against him and tell him to prove his love for you.
    Ah, you just beat me to it
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    I'm just basically going to say what everyone else has. You shouldn't be pressured into doing something you don't want to do or are not comfortable with to 'prove' your love. If he loves you, he should respect the fact you don't want to do it, leave it at that and do things that you both enjoy
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    If he really does love you then he will respect your decision and not try to pressure you into doing something you don't want to do...
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    If you like the idea do it. If you don't, don't.
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    (Original post by there's too much love)
    Tell him to not emotionally blackmail you to prove he really loves you, of course.
    At the end of the day it is your body. Your sexuality. Your embodiment.

    You cannot allow him to dictate that you must do sexual acts to prove your love to him. It's beyond manipulative. You are not a possession. You are not something to be owned by him.

    I urge you to say no, and to tell him that if does anything like that again you'll tell his family what he said to you.

    Pardon the pun, but he's being an ********
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    Everyone else has already covered most of it; it is in no way fair for him to push something like this on you, and emotional blackmail is not okay. If he loves you, he wouldn't try and force this out of you.

    I just wanted to add something myself; I was in a long term relationship (of 5 years), and when things weren't going great he said exactly the same thing to me. I felt guilty, because things weren't great between us, and let him basically blackmail me into doing it, and I've always regretted that.
    Not just because we're not together now, I regretted it while we were together. It really hurt, he didn't seem to care, and it was just generally a horrible experience.

    Your experience may not the the same; if it's something you want to do, by all means do it. But don't allow yourself to be bullied or emotionally blackmailed into it, because it will not end up a nice experience for you this way at all.
 
 
 
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