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    I've never seen karma act quite so directly,
    You must have really been horrible to him.
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    (Original post by cl_steele)
    Remind me again why you dont deserve this after you bullied him for years?
    This, basically.

    Whilst two wrongs don't make a right, it sounds like you are or at the very least were a d1ck and you can have few complaints that you are being treated in pretty much the same way you treated others.

    Also, I don't really get why it annoys you that he brings your ex in to the restaurant because I could only see that as a problem if you were jealous, but if you're gay I can't see how you could be jealous..?

    Although come to think of it, I don't know how you managed to be in a relationship with her for 2 and a half years if you're gay... Are you bisexual?

    Anyhoo, welcome to the real world: where actions have consequences.
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    but exacly why did you have gay porn on your phone?
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    There's no way this is true.
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    (Original post by bestofyou)
    Isn't possible to get another job, there are few going around here right now and for the ones I already applied for I got rejected due to references...the references he gave them.
    That's really unfortunate...well then my only advice would be to ignore him and make it obvious to him that you don't care (it might it him off).
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    Hahahahahahahahaaaa
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    haha, you should get this published, fantastic!

    moral of the story: make sure you dont end up doing a menial job full time
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    You deserve it tbh. No sympathy for you.
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    People usually forget these things after school, you were 15/16 at the most! Sounds ridiculous, I'd tell him what you think, or just punch him.
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    (Original post by Jim-Jam)
    People usually forget these things after school, you were 15/16 at the most! Sounds ridiculous, I'd tell him what you think, or just punch him.
    Punching your boss is not a good idea!

    No, the only thing that might help would be to give him that long-due apology. After that you could ask for a helpful reference to enable you to work somewhere else.
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    (Original post by bestofyou)
    This all starts back in school, I was always a popular enough kid and I'll admit in my school days I thought I was above quite a few people in my year. This one guy in particular I for some reason didn't seem to like, he was always quite camp and I would tease him about it, nothing very serious but I guess it did annoy him. I was going out with a girl the year below me when I was 14, she was good looking but by no means stood out, by the time I got to my final GCSE year she was definitely the best looking girl in the school though, and she was only 16 at that point. Things have only gone downhill since.

    Well anyway me and the other guy both worked at the same restaurant after our GCSEs and I would taunt him there about being a waitress, it was mostly banter but at times I may have taken it too far and he'd get annoyed but I'd stop and say sorry (I did the bar or something prep chef). He left to go to another job that was in the city as he was studying there and didn't see him at all really after than.

    During that summer things took a turn for the worse. My girlfriend broke up with me and a couple months after that when I was in college someone found gay porn on my phone, basically lost all my friends over that, had to quit football etc due to it. My college grades suffered and I ended up dropping out. And going back the following year, I did ok but my subjects weren't getting me into the courses I wanted.

    He went to uni and did some hospitality management degree or something while I stayed in my job at the restaurant doing a foundation degree. Next thing I know our manager leaves to go back home and guess who gets made the manager? He does. And I knew from the second he saw I was still working there that he was loving it. Should have seen his face when I told him I'd be leaving the following year to go to uni, however I think now he is trying to get his revenge on me for taking the piss all those years before, however unlike myself, he is quite serious.

    First thing he did was take me off the bar and put me on the floor waiting tables, I am the only guy on the floor (other than one who is camp as Christmas) but what is worse is he brought in new uniforms. There are only 3 other guys working in the restaurant (2 on the bar) and he got uniforms that fit all of them including the other gay guy who is around the same build as me, yet none of the other uniforms would fit me. So he told me to go look through the girls box to find something. I laughed and he looked at me very seriously and said if I don't then I should just go home and that he'll order more guys uniforms when he gets a chance.

    The only sizes left where size 8 and much to his joy it fit me fine. Unlike the guys uniforms though, the female aprons are about the size of a mini-shirt whereas the male ones go to the ankles and aren't as wide so don't really over lap at the back. What this does is makes the bum clearly visible and basically every can see I am wearing girls trousers. Not that it matters as I'm sure they would notice the short apron long before that anyway.

    So maybe a week after all these changes he comes in to eat one night with his girlfriend...he is dating my ex, the one I went out with for 2.5years in school. I couldn't believe it, I wanted the world to shallow me up, here I was working in a minimum wage job, wearing girls clothes after being outed as gay several years prior and now I have to serve the guy I made fun of for being gay and my ex, probably the hottest girl I ever had.

    It must have caught her off guard also as she seemed as awkward as I did. He would come in regularly with her, almost as if he is gloating.

    Tonight he went too far though, when he asked me to go clean up a mess in the toilets in front of her. Then said, make sure you put up the cleaning notice, we all know who you can be with men and toilets, particularly when you are already on your knees. What made it worse was she tried to mask her laughter with 'oohh, stop it, that isn't nice' but you could clearly sense the laughter through the sentence and on her face.

    Can anyone advice me on what to do? I'll be leaving in half a year, but can anyone give me advice on how best to get through that time?
    if i were you I'd kidnap em both, tie them up and bury them alive.
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    (Original post by Noble.)
    Haha, it's a bit of a life lesson and really, it serves you right. Chances are whatever you did to him at school, or in the job, affected him a lot more than you thought or intended and now he's having the time of his life :lol:
    This. Sorry OP but I have no sympathy. If you can't take being picked on, don't dish it out to people in the first place.
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    (Original post by bestofyou)
    This all starts back in school, I was always a popular enough kid and I'll admit in my school days I thought I was above quite a few people in my year. This one guy in particular I for some reason didn't seem to like, he was always quite camp and I would tease him about it, nothing very serious but I guess it did annoy him. I was going out with a girl the year below me when I was 14, she was good looking but by no means stood out, by the time I got to my final GCSE year she was definitely the best looking girl in the school though, and she was only 16 at that point. Things have only gone downhill since.

    Well anyway me and the other guy both worked at the same restaurant after our GCSEs and I would taunt him there about being a waitress, it was mostly banter but at times I may have taken it too far and he'd get annoyed but I'd stop and say sorry (I did the bar or something prep chef). He left to go to another job that was in the city as he was studying there and didn't see him at all really after than.

    During that summer things took a turn for the worse. My girlfriend broke up with me and a couple months after that when I was in college someone found gay porn on my phone, basically lost all my friends over that, had to quit football etc due to it. My college grades suffered and I ended up dropping out. And going back the following year, I did ok but my subjects weren't getting me into the courses I wanted.

    He went to uni and did some hospitality management degree or something while I stayed in my job at the restaurant doing a foundation degree. Next thing I know our manager leaves to go back home and guess who gets made the manager? He does. And I knew from the second he saw I was still working there that he was loving it. Should have seen his face when I told him I'd be leaving the following year to go to uni, however I think now he is trying to get his revenge on me for taking the piss all those years before, however unlike myself, he is quite serious.

    First thing he did was take me off the bar and put me on the floor waiting tables, I am the only guy on the floor (other than one who is camp as Christmas) but what is worse is he brought in new uniforms. There are only 3 other guys working in the restaurant (2 on the bar) and he got uniforms that fit all of them including the other gay guy who is around the same build as me, yet none of the other uniforms would fit me. So he told me to go look through the girls box to find something. I laughed and he looked at me very seriously and said if I don't then I should just go home and that he'll order more guys uniforms when he gets a chance.

    The only sizes left where size 8 and much to his joy it fit me fine. Unlike the guys uniforms though, the female aprons are about the size of a mini-shirt whereas the male ones go to the ankles and aren't as wide so don't really over lap at the back. What this does is makes the bum clearly visible and basically every can see I am wearing girls trousers. Not that it matters as I'm sure they would notice the short apron long before that anyway.

    So maybe a week after all these changes he comes in to eat one night with his girlfriend...he is dating my ex, the one I went out with for 2.5years in school. I couldn't believe it, I wanted the world to shallow me up, here I was working in a minimum wage job, wearing girls clothes after being outed as gay several years prior and now I have to serve the guy I made fun of for being gay and my ex, probably the hottest girl I ever had.

    It must have caught her off guard also as she seemed as awkward as I did. He would come in regularly with her, almost as if he is gloating.

    Tonight he went too far though, when he asked me to go clean up a mess in the toilets in front of her. Then said, make sure you put up the cleaning notice, we all know who you can be with men and toilets, particularly when you are already on your knees. What made it worse was she tried to mask her laughter with 'oohh, stop it, that isn't nice' but you could clearly sense the laughter through the sentence and on her face.

    Can anyone advice me on what to do? I'll be leaving in half a year, but can anyone give me advice on how best to get through that time?
    Got what you deserve. Be thankful.
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    (Original post by cl_steele)
    remind me again why you dont deserve this after you bullied him for years?
    THIS
    I have no sympathy for you whatsoever. You were an absolute jerk to him, you deserve everything that's coming to you.

    I think anyone who was bullied at school will probably feel the same to be honest, I for one would LOVE to get my own back at the jerks who treated me like sh*t.
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    This tale was enjoyable and amused me. Please continue.
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    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IC8qPpnD0uE
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    (Original post by bestofyou)
    This all starts back in school, I was always a popular enough kid and I'll admit in my school days I thought I was above quite a few people in my year. This one guy in particular I for some reason didn't seem to like, he was always quite camp and I would tease him about it, nothing very serious but I guess it did annoy him. I was going out with a girl the year below me when I was 14, she was good looking but by no means stood out, by the time I got to my final GCSE year she was definitely the best looking girl in the school though, and she was only 16 at that point. Things have only gone downhill since.

    Well anyway me and the other guy both worked at the same restaurant after our GCSEs and I would taunt him there about being a waitress, it was mostly banter but at times I may have taken it too far and he'd get annoyed but I'd stop and say sorry (I did the bar or something prep chef). He left to go to another job that was in the city as he was studying there and didn't see him at all really after than.

    During that summer things took a turn for the worse. My girlfriend broke up with me and a couple months after that when I was in college someone found gay porn on my phone, basically lost all my friends over that, had to quit football etc due to it. My college grades suffered and I ended up dropping out. And going back the following year, I did ok but my subjects weren't getting me into the courses I wanted.

    He went to uni and did some hospitality management degree or something while I stayed in my job at the restaurant doing a foundation degree. Next thing I know our manager leaves to go back home and guess who gets made the manager? He does. And I knew from the second he saw I was still working there that he was loving it. Should have seen his face when I told him I'd be leaving the following year to go to uni, however I think now he is trying to get his revenge on me for taking the piss all those years before, however unlike myself, he is quite serious.

    First thing he did was take me off the bar and put me on the floor waiting tables, I am the only guy on the floor (other than one who is camp as Christmas) but what is worse is he brought in new uniforms. There are only 3 other guys working in the restaurant (2 on the bar) and he got uniforms that fit all of them including the other gay guy who is around the same build as me, yet none of the other uniforms would fit me. So he told me to go look through the girls box to find something. I laughed and he looked at me very seriously and said if I don't then I should just go home and that he'll order more guys uniforms when he gets a chance.

    The only sizes left where size 8 and much to his joy it fit me fine. Unlike the guys uniforms though, the female aprons are about the size of a mini-shirt whereas the male ones go to the ankles and aren't as wide so don't really over lap at the back. What this does is makes the bum clearly visible and basically every can see I am wearing girls trousers. Not that it matters as I'm sure they would notice the short apron long before that anyway.

    So maybe a week after all these changes he comes in to eat one night with his girlfriend...he is dating my ex, the one I went out with for 2.5years in school. I couldn't believe it, I wanted the world to shallow me up, here I was working in a minimum wage job, wearing girls clothes after being outed as gay several years prior and now I have to serve the guy I made fun of for being gay and my ex, probably the hottest girl I ever had.

    It must have caught her off guard also as she seemed as awkward as I did. He would come in regularly with her, almost as if he is gloating.

    Tonight he went too far though, when he asked me to go clean up a mess in the toilets in front of her. Then said, make sure you put up the cleaning notice, we all know who you can be with men and toilets, particularly when you are already on your knees. What made it worse was she tried to mask her laughter with 'oohh, stop it, that isn't nice' but you could clearly sense the laughter through the sentence and on her face.

    Can anyone advice me on what to do? I'll be leaving in half a year, but can anyone give me advice on how best to get through that time?
    He's in hospitality management; a crappy course, where he's got him into thousands of debt for a fairly ****ty job. I don't know if you know this, but some managers especially in retail will only earn sub 18,000 per year for th rest of their lives.
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    Are you bisexual then?
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    Why was gayporn in your phone when you're straight, why didn't you clear your history? Why did the guy convieniently become your manager? Why did he convieniently date your girlfriend? why did he conviniently take the piss out of you being gay when he clearly knows you are straight? I have seen enough movies/Lost, to know that your story is BS.

    (if it is then karma is s ***** you had it coming)!!

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    I'm feeling like this story is BS.. :/ but, I'm going to give you a serious reply anyway.

    I'm sorry to hear that things turned out this way, but, the outcome was kind of predictable? You pick on someone, you don't progress with your life, he does, he ends up on top. Now, whilst it's never ok to bully someone ever, you can't help but feel this is slightly deserved.
    I'm struggling here, I mean I've been bullied, horribly, and I can see why the boss would do that, but, I guess you've got to live and let lie. You've got to let things go. Making someone feel like dirt for the years they did the same, won't take away from the initial bullying, and it won't make you necessarily any happier. I think the boss should let it go, and move on with his life.

    But, I also think you should apologise, seriously. I'd suggest getting a new job before hand, just incase you apologising makes the boss become more vindictive, but also, so you too can move on, anyway, in this apology, mention how truly sorry you are for
    bullying him those years, mention how not a day goes by without you feeling guilt and anger for what you put him through, tell him you were an insecure idiot, tell him you
    don't expect forgiveness or friendship, but you just needed him to know that you're
    sorry, that you're really really sorry. Then say that at you're leaving so that your presence isn't a constant reminder of what you put him through.

    (I wish the people who bullied me said something like that to me, but they'd probably deny even knowing me/ that i existed, how cruel)

    Anyway, best of luck, and good luck with engineering.
 
 
 
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