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    Hi everybody,

    I've been planning for almost a year now to do a sponsored head shave, to raise money for a couple of local charities. I currently have mid length, boring mousy hair, that is absolutely nothing special - if anything because I'm lazy, I just scrape it back in a ponytail most days and don't make any special effort unless it's a really nice occasion. I've wanted to shave my head for ages just because I like the way it feels (all fuzzy and soft!) and I figured doing so and raising money for charity would be a really good and selfless thing to do.

    However, I've got a fair bit of backlash from friends and older family members for suggesting the idea. I don't know if it's because I'm female, and traditionally women don't cut their hair that short, or just because they don't like the idea. I understand that some people will never understand (my grandparents are just too conservative to get it) but would you judge a woman for shaving her hair off for charity?

    I don't know if it's just gender stereotypes (nobody bats an eyelid if a man shaves his head) but some friends have called it "attention seeking" and said things like "you'll just look like a butch lesbian". I'd get it if I was doing it to seek attention, but really I'm fed up of having long hair and having to take an extra 20 minutes to dry it after a shower, and I figured if I cut it short it'll always just grow back, and raising money for charity can't be a bad thing, no?

    I'd like to hear your opinions

    Edit: not sure why I've been negged, perhaps somebody doesn't like bald ladies...
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    I don't get the big deal about women shaving their heads, full stop.

    It's your hair and no-one elses. If you want to shave your head, go ahead and do it. I wouldn't judge anyone who did this.
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    Yes, you probably will look like a butch lesbian. But I'm pretty sure these stunts are for the purposes of sacrificing something; sort of like a sponsored leg waxing.
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    I don't think the point of a sponsored head shave is how you look after it. It doesn't matter. You'll have raised money for a good cause, if people around you don't think that's a good idea then that's not your concern.

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    Are you sure you wouldn't regret it? It would take years to grow back to mid-length. Why not try going short without completely shaved from mid-length? You say you have 'backlash' from friends and family - to be honest I would try and talk a friend out of it too - not because there is anything wrong with it but because I would worry they would regret it.

    In answer to your question - would I judge someone? Well, no. But plenty of people would and you would get lots of comments about it I'm sure. If these things don't bother you then there's no reason why you shouldn't - obviously good to do things for charity but there are plenty of other things you can do to raise money.

    Personally, I don't really understand why people have started shaving their heads for charity - I am more impressed with people doing challenges like runs, bike rides, climbs etc.
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    (Original post by Madam, I'm Adam)
    Are you sure you wouldn't regret it? It would take years to grow back to mid-length. Why not try going short without completely shaved from mid-length? You say you have 'backlash' from friends and family - to be honest I would try and talk a friend out of it too - not because there is anything wrong with it but because I would worry they would regret it.

    In answer to your question - would I judge someone? Well, no. But plenty of people would and you would get lots of comments about it I'm sure. If these things don't bother you then there's no reason why you shouldn't - obviously good to do things for charity but there are plenty of other things you can do to raise money.

    Personally, I don't really understand why people have started shaving their heads for charity - I am more impressed with people doing challenges like runs, bike rides, climbs etc.
    I have tattoos that I regret, and I'm stuck with them til I can afford the hundreds it'll take to remove/cover them up. Those are really permanent, but they don't bother me so much. Hair grows back, and given how fast mine grows I'd guess it wouldn't stay shaven for long.

    I've had short hair before, pixie cuts and the like, and loved it - my hair is only its current length because I've been too lazy/poor to go to a hairdresser in the past 3 or so years. I also get the feeling that to raise the optimum i.e. the most amount of money for charity, I need to do something that has a shock factor - shaving your head from longer hair is a much bigger deal than shaving a pixie cut, it's making a statement I guess.

    Frankly, I really really want to shave my head, and have wanted to for ages. Doing it for charity just means I can do some good along with it - I would do it now if I could, but I'd rather wait a bit and help a good cause in the process.

    I'm not trying to jump on a bandwagon, I know Jessie J just shaved her hair off for comic relief (think it really suits her actually, more than the butt-ugly black bob and fringe combo) but I've wanted to do this for a good few years now, I've just not really got around to it.

    I know I'll get bad comments and judgements, but surely that'll just show me who my real friends are - I don't see how it can offend some people so much, they seem to take it personally when really it's just my hair, maybe it's just that I'm doing something unconventional that they don't like it? :confused:

    Oh and to the poster further above who said I'd look like a butch lesbian, I wear Doc Martens and I'm a feminist, so I get called a butch lesbian as an insult fairly frequently anyway, doesn't bother me - I like lesbians
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    (Original post by edithwashere)
    I have tattoos that I regret, and I'm stuck with them til I can afford the hundreds it'll take to remove/cover them up. Those are really permanent, but they don't bother me so much. Hair grows back, and given how fast mine grows I'd guess it wouldn't stay shaven for long.

    I've had short hair before, pixie cuts and the like, and loved it - my hair is only its current length because I've been too lazy/poor to go to a hairdresser in the past 3 or so years. I also get the feeling that to raise the optimum i.e. the most amount of money for charity, I need to do something that has a shock factor - shaving your head from longer hair is a much bigger deal than shaving a pixie cut, it's making a statement I guess.

    Frankly, I really really want to shave my head, and have wanted to for ages. Doing it for charity just means I can do some good along with it - I would do it now if I could, but I'd rather wait a bit and help a good cause in the process.

    I'm not trying to jump on a bandwagon, I know Jessie J just shaved her hair off for comic relief (think it really suits her actually, more than the butt-ugly black bob and fringe combo) but I've wanted to do this for a good few years now, I've just not really got around to it.

    I know I'll get bad comments and judgements, but surely that'll just show me who my real friends are - I don't see how it can offend some people so much, they seem to take it personally when really it's just my hair, maybe it's just that I'm doing something unconventional that they don't like it? :confused:

    Oh and to the poster further above who said I'd look like a butch lesbian, I wear Doc Martens and I'm a feminist, so I get called a butch lesbian as an insult fairly frequently anyway, doesn't bother me - I like lesbians
    You do sound like you have really thought it through over a long time, and are prepared for the comments you might get - and if you are quite experimental and alternative it will probably suit your style.

    I don't know that it 'offends' people so much as it having the shock factor as you say yourself. If someone I knew decided to shave their head (for charity or not) I would be shocked to an extent, maybe try and talk them out of it but can't see that anyone would actually be 'offended' by it. If they are then they need to get over it, frankly.
    As for taking it personally, they are probably put out that their attempts to talk you out of it haven't worked!
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    (Original post by Madam, I'm Adam)
    You do sound like you have really thought it through over a long time, and are prepared for the comments you might get - and if you are quite experimental and alternative it will probably suit your style.

    I don't know that it 'offends' people so much as it having the shock factor as you say yourself. If someone I knew decided to shave their head (for charity or not) I would be shocked to an extent, maybe try and talk them out of it but can't see that anyone would actually be 'offended' by it. If they are then they need to get over it, frankly.
    As for taking it personally, they are probably put out that their attempts to talk you out of it haven't worked!
    Yeah, I do think it's something you shouldn't rush into, particularly if you're a sensitive soul - at the end of the day some people bully other people for being different, and if anything I'd like to think by shaving my head, I'd be able to spot those types a lot easier. For example, when I cut my hair shorter (pixie cut), I got a fair few comments from guys asking why I'd make myself "more unattractive" by doing that, which I thought was a bit weird, as I think I look great with shorter hair, and I don't cut my hair for the justification of others, but because I want to cut my hair.

    I guess what I'm really worried about is people who I thought were my friends, stopping being my friend because of a hair cut. It's not hurting anybody else, and I'm not doing it to upset people, I'm just doing it because I want to do it. Then again, I think the type of people who stop being friends with somebody because they changed their hairstyle aren't friends at all...

    *I should also note it's a positive thing for me, it's something I'd like to do and that I think would make me happy. This isn't a mental breakdown Britney style situation, just incase anybody thought that
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    (Original post by edithwashere)
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    You sound like you really want to do this, so I think you should go for it! Hope it turns out well
    If your friends treat you differently because of it, they aren't worth your time.
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    (Original post by Witty Username)
    You sound like you really want to do this, so I think you should go for it! Hope it turns out well
    If your friends treat you differently because of it, they aren't worth your time.
    Thank you! And I LOVE your sig picture, such cute little guineas :love:
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    I would definitely judge you...as being absolutely awesome the whole point of it is that it's a sacrifice, so people saying about how you'd look is completely irrelevant. If it was something less extreme then it would be pointless and no one would sponsor you.


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    (Original post by edithwashere)
    Hi everybody,

    I've been planning for almost a year now to do a sponsored head shave, to raise money for a couple of local charities. I currently have mid length, boring mousy hair, that is absolutely nothing special - if anything because I'm lazy, I just scrape it back in a ponytail most days and don't make any special effort unless it's a really nice occasion. I've wanted to shave my head for ages just because I like the way it feels (all fuzzy and soft!) and I figured doing so and raising money for charity would be a really good and selfless thing to do.

    However, I've got a fair bit of backlash from friends and older family members for suggesting the idea. I don't know if it's because I'm female, and traditionally women don't cut their hair that short, or just because they don't like the idea. I understand that some people will never understand (my grandparents are just too conservative to get it) but would you judge a woman for shaving her hair off for charity?

    I don't know if it's just gender stereotypes (nobody bats an eyelid if a man shaves his head) but some friends have called it "attention seeking" and said things like "you'll just look like a butch lesbian". I'd get it if I was doing it to seek attention, but really I'm fed up of having long hair and having to take an extra 20 minutes to dry it after a shower, and I figured if I cut it short it'll always just grow back, and raising money for charity can't be a bad thing, no?

    I'd like to hear your opinions

    Edit: not sure why I've been negged, perhaps somebody doesn't like bald ladies...
    I actually know someone who's doing a sponsored head-shave this summer. A few weeks ago, she created a Facebook group explaining what she was doing and why, and invited us to donate. It was quite out of the blue. As far as I know, everyone is really impressed and we all think it's a pretty awesome thing to do. I think she's raised about £600 so far, in just a few weeks, which just shows how supportive people are being.

    So to answer your question, no, I wouldn't judge someone for shaving their head. As long as you're raising money for a good cause, I don't see why anyone would criticise you to be honest.

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    I'd judge you as a caring, considerate person Go for it, then show us the pictures.

    Slight side note: I have a "Cancer Pact" with one of my best friends. If either of us gets cancer, the other must also shave her head.
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    I'd judge you as a caring, considerate person Go for it, then show us the pictures.

    Slight side note: I have a "Cancer Pact" with one of my best friends. If either of us gets cancer, the other must also shave her head.
    I will do! Do you think it'd be worth linking my justgiving page on here when I make it to try and get the lovely folks of TSR to donate, or would that be cheeky?

    Oh and that cancer pact is a great idea, one of my friends at school got cancer when she was 15, sadly she died a couple of years later from it but lots of people did a sponsored head shave then to raise money for her. It didn't raise as much money as the sponsored skydive did though.
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    Yes I would. Silly, moronic thing to do.
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    Yes I would. Silly, moronic thing to do.
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    It is indeed because you're a girl.

    Definitely do it. It's a good cause.

    Also, consider donating your hair to a charity that makes wigs for children who've lost theirs due to cancer ect.

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    Just do it, it's only hair and it will grow. Why care if your baldness offends others, says more about them than it does about you.
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    (Original post by AyeFaye)
    It is indeed because you're a girl.

    Definitely do it. It's a good cause.

    Also, consider donating your hair to a charity that makes wigs for children who've lost theirs due to cancer ect.

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    Oh yeah I am, planning to donate it to The Little Princess Trust http://www.littleprincesses.org.uk/

    Just wish it wasn't so damaged from chemical dyes, but it should hopefully be alright if I take care and condition it a lot for the next few months.
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    (Original post by edithwashere)
    Oh yeah I am, planning to donate it to The Little Princess Trust http://www.littleprincesses.org.uk/

    Just wish it wasn't so damaged from chemical dyes, but it should hopefully be alright if I take care and condition it a lot for the next few months.
    If you explain you're donating it to a cause like that from the off, I've experienced people are far more supportive.

    I think it's a really lovely thing you're doing.
 
 
 
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