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    Hi, I'm 19 years old in a commited relationship. In a very distressing situation.
    No birth control is suitable for me.
    Condoms - latex intolerant, partner can't keep erection using them so no point trying latex free, female condom too uncomfortable and unreliable
    Pill - tried 3 different ones. All have caused severe side effects. Been on cerazette 2 years and just stopped taking it as I was depressed to the point of suicide.
    Implant, IUS, patch, injection - all contain estrogen which I can't haveas I have migranes and am overweight.
    Cap, sponge, diapragm etc - all need spermicide that I can't use, and too much risk of TSS
    IUD - too much risk of perforation or expulsion plus most contain nickel which I'm allergic to
    What do I do now? My GP doesn't know what to suggest...
    I am severely depressed and stressed due to this and feel my relationship is really suffering.
    Can't have non penetrative sex as oral sex causes yeast infections (noone can explain why - partner is clean and hes taken antifungals just to be sure and no change... maybe due to the PH changes?!) and fingering is too painful.
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    You say most IUDs contain nickel... so some don't. Personally I would try to find one that doesn't and try it. The risk of perforation is really very, very low when fitted by an experience gynecologist.

    I think the only other option is for your partner to keep trying with non latex condoms and get past his problems, or sterilisation if you don't want children in future.

    I would get your GP to refer you to a gynecologist to help you with this. They may be more helpful.
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    Thanks for replying.
    Problem is, clinics only carry a small number of IUDs and I don't believe you are ever given a choice in which IUD you have fitted, due to the differences in size (obviously you have to get the one most suited for the size of your uterus and cervix) and which ones they have at the clinic at a time. Plus I can't seem to find any info online about the different brands - all I know is thankfully there are 10 brands available in the UK which is promising.
    As stated, I'm only 19 so they will definitely not sterilize me and it's unfair to tell my boyfriend he has to be sterilized!
    I have an appointment with my GP tomorrow and I am asking to be referred to an OBGYN as I've been suffering from repeated thrush for 2 years plus this issue too. Though I've heard they're very fussy about referring people to them
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    Go to a family planning clinic - there's a clinic finder on the fpa website. They know much more about contraception than most gps will because it's what they specialise in. They should be able to find you an IUD or point you in the right direction if they really can't.

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    Actually, I know for sure that the IUS and injection are progesterone-only. I have been on the injection for nearly two years myself, and am getting the IUS done tomorrow.
    Cerazette I've heard can make you low. I would go to a family planning clinic rather than GP... They do tend to know the ins and outs of contraceptives way more than GPs.. or at least in my experience thats the case.
    Good luck!
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    How important is it that you do not get pregnant? A combination of 'natural' methods - keeping track of your basal temperature, awareness of changes in your cervical mucus, knowing where you are in you menstrual calendar - should get you a good level of protection, especially if he doesn't come inside you.

    Is having anal sex an option?

    (Hmm, a thumbs down for this - do say why, person concerned)

    What about the copper coil? Go to family planning clinic much more knowledge then a gp has


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    I was in a similar situation (latex allergy, migraines, nickel sensitivity etc) but was okay-ed to use the IUS (Mirena coil) as it is progesterone only so not contraindicated for those who have migraines. I also have PCOS so struggle with my weight but I never experienced any unusually significant weight gain after it was fitted.
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    Has the OP thought about Nuvaring or its close cousins? A ring you stick in your vag for 3 weeks/ months
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    Thanks everyone for your replies.
    Nuvaring has estrogen so I can't use it.
    I've been recommended the Depo shot by my GP (I thought it had estrogen - my bad) but I'm a little concerned about taking it as if I have side effects you obviously can't remove it from your body!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks everyone for your replies.
    Nuvaring has estrogen so I can't use it.
    I've been recommended the Depo shot by my GP (I thought it had estrogen - my bad) but I'm a little concerned about taking it as if I have side effects you obviously can't remove it from your body!
    There's no way of knowing whether or not you'll have side effects. I do agree - bad side effects is the main reason why I'm wary of the injection - but all you can do is try it. I tried numerous different pills before I found one that suited me, only to find out I couldn't take it anymore due to migraines, then tried 2 different brands of the mini pill and finally ended up with Femulen, which is great.

    It's a horrible situation to be in and I'm sorry you've been going through this. I would try the contraceptive injection and see how it goes. Fingers crossed you have some luck. Also, the implant doesn't have oestrogen! Progesterone only.
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    I have the depo injection, I've been on it for over a year now and I find it great!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks everyone for your replies.
    Nuvaring has estrogen so I can't use it.
    I've been recommended the Depo shot by my GP (I thought it had estrogen - my bad) but I'm a little concerned about taking it as if I have side effects you obviously can't remove it from your body!
    What about the implant? It's progesterone only (no oestrogen) and can be removed easily if you're having problems with it.
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    Urrgh, just thought I'd update you guys... thanks for all your replies by the way, really appreciated...
    Unfortunately I never found a solution. I decided against the injection as I had such bad side effects from Cerazette which isthe same group of hormones and it stays in your system a lot longer than 3 months apparently. I also just got diagnosed with visual migraines (I just thought my eyes were weird but nope, apparently it's migraines!) and I don't think you can take it if you have those.
    My GP doesn't think an IUD/IUS would be suitable for me.
    I tried latex free condoms and they were just as painful as normal condoms (it can only be condoms as obviously I've done it without when I was on Cerazette and I had no problems with pain during sex) and I couldn't really feel anything. Can someone explain why condoms make such a difference?! I thought they werent meant to make any difference on the womans end...
    I'm worried about the implant due to the recent news stories about them getting lost in the body... also scared about getting it put in because they have to like cut your arm open and I'd probably faint... :/
    We tried fingering again but that failed miserably too. By the time I orgasm, because it takes so much pressure and time (like over an hour) I'm bruised and a layer of skin has been rubbed off, which is really, really painful and the pain lasts for days. It just isn't worth it. Same story with masturbation etc:/
    Unfortunately I think the boyfriend and I are just gonna have to abstain from any sexual activity permanently as I really can't seem to find anything that will suit me. I might try and pluck up the courage to get the implant but I dunno if I can :'(
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Urrgh, just thought I'd update you guys... thanks for all your replies by the way, really appreciated...
    Unfortunately I never found a solution. I decided against the injection as I had such bad side effects from Cerazette which isthe same group of hormones and it stays in your system a lot longer than 3 months apparently. I also just got diagnosed with visual migraines (I just thought my eyes were weird but nope, apparently it's migraines!) and I don't think you can take it if you have those.
    My GP doesn't think an IUD/IUS would be suitable for me.
    I tried latex free condoms and they were just as painful as normal condoms (it can only be condoms as obviously I've done it without when I was on Cerazette and I had no problems with pain during sex) and I couldn't really feel anything. Can someone explain why condoms make such a difference?! I thought they werent meant to make any difference on the womans end...
    I'm worried about the implant due to the recent news stories about them getting lost in the body... also scared about getting it put in because they have to like cut your arm open and I'd probably faint... :/
    We tried fingering again but that failed miserably too. By the time I orgasm, because it takes so much pressure and time (like over an hour) I'm bruised and a layer of skin has been rubbed off, which is really, really painful and the pain lasts for days. It just isn't worth it. Same story with masturbation etc:/
    Unfortunately I think the boyfriend and I are just gonna have to abstain from any sexual activity permanently as I really can't seem to find anything that will suit me. I might try and pluck up the courage to get the implant but I dunno if I can :'(
    I think you really need to get your doctor to refer you to a specialist gynecologist. I don't think your problems are simply a case of contraception. There has to be more to it.
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    I'm on the injection and don't have many side effects. I put on a little weight - so I go to the gym to counteract this. My mood is low sometimes but, again, exercising helps bring the mood level up.
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    Kabloomybuzz - my doctor is actually trained as a gyno, and I've been examined numerous times with no abnormalities found... so theres no reason for me to go to another clinic, plus the clinic only makes appointments within a week which really isn't convenient for me :/

    I give up anyways
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Kabloomybuzz - my doctor is actually trained as a gyno, and I've been examined numerous times with no abnormalities found... so theres no reason for me to go to another clinic, plus the clinic only makes appointments within a week which really isn't convenient for me :/

    I give up anyways
    You are entitled to a second opinion though... there may be tests and procedures your doctor may have not though of. They are only human and remember there are conditions that aren't well known. Don't give up. Don't just resign yourself to putting up with this or giving up on sex until you're sure you've covered all angles.
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    (Original post by Kabloomybuzz)
    You are entitled to a second opinion though... there may be tests and procedures your doctor may have not though of. They are only human and remember there are conditions that aren't well known. Don't give up. Don't just resign yourself to putting up with this or giving up on sex until you're sure you've covered all angles.
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    Your gp might not know of certain things or sometimes might not be allowed to prescribe things. Somebody else might have a better idea of what's going on.

    Have you tried female condoms?

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    Yeah, but seeing as the clinic is half an hour away and I don't drive, it would take some advance planning to be able to get there and take time off college (which I can't afford to do right now as I'm behind anyway) and they won't make appointments more than a week in advance so it's not really an option right now :/
 
 
 
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