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    (Original post by manty)
    So good to hear from you. Your worries are my worries too! My issue is that i was well at college had a good group of friends, so it may be a lot harder to make friends.

    The looking ill thing i worry about too, i have black lines constantly under my eyes and when i've overdone it they become glassy, making me look distinctly 'ill'.

    I'm also going to use the financial support, think for taxi's and anything that will make my energy go further.

    I've been ill for 9 months now, so i disagree about the depression thing, although for sure i have been borderline, at times even thinking about suicide, stessing the thinking. As for me suicidal thoughts came about from comparing my current life to my old life, how i used to love playing sports, loved socialising, loved going to the gym. But what i have learnt to do, is to not compare my current life to what i used to have, being hard on yourself isn't fair, as it's not something you are able to control/affect.

    I did in fact go to uni, just after i became ill, unaware of the seriousness of the illness. And it became exponentially worse, till i couldn't get out of bed. I felt very socially isolated, as i couldn't party and would have hated it had i not met people i had already knew!

    I will go to uni, but like yourself the course i plan to study, Law is especially hard work, hopefully i will be okay, make the best of a bad situation.

    Thank- you for your reply!

    Hi, No problem!
    I understand how hard it must have been for you to adapt, with me..my illnesses were gradual, as in i developed symptom after symptom but gradually if that makes sense, but I fit all the requirements for M.E/CFS 'mild' as i still have my mobility in tact, although my doctors thus far have been well...rather crappy to say the least and attribute everything to being 'all in my head' therefore i've never been able to get a referal to a specialist clinic.

    Anyway, to be honest I think you will be FINE making friends, as long as you get it out that that you're ill but this doesn't change you as a person, you still have the same likes and dislikes and opinions and hobbies, albeit you may not be able to partake to the same extent in such hobbies but you still wish to and suddenly haven't gone off of them. You know I think people appreciate honesty and it's far better to have them judge you based on facts than assumptions. As people often assume I am ill but with something like Anorexia as one of my symptoms is gut related(I.B.S) therefore I can't really absorb nutrients and end up having to eat sooo much just to maintain my weight, but people can't tell what you have just by looking at you, so often they will naturally assume the 'obvious' answer because it's easier and simpler for them to process in their brains. However, give 'em the benefit of the doubt and let them know who you are, warts 'n' all and i guarantee you'll find some special people who'll support you and make you laugh when you're down, i found a few at college and am hoping that as University is rather much larger, i'll find a damn sight more of those lovely friends At the end of the day just focus on what you do have, and pace yourself like you said, and be adamant with doctors, don't let them patronise you or tell you it's all in your head.

    Good luck, am here to PM if you wish
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    Hi, No problem!
    I understand how hard it must have been for you to adapt, with me..my illnesses were gradual, as in i developed symptom after symptom but gradually if that makes sense, but I fit all the requirements for M.E/CFS 'mild' as i still have my mobility in tact, although my doctors thus far have been well...rather crappy to say the least and attribute everything to being 'all in my head' therefore i've never been able to get a referal to a specialist clinic.

    Anyway, to be honest I think you will be FINE making friends, as long as you get it out that that you're ill but this doesn't change you as a person, you still have the same likes and dislikes and opinions and hobbies, albeit you may not be able to partake to the same extent in such hobbies but you still wish to and suddenly haven't gone off of them. You know I think people appreciate honesty and it's far better to have them judge you based on facts than assumptions. As people often assume I am ill but with something like Anorexia as one of my symptoms is gut related(I.B.S) therefore I can't really absorb nutrients and end up having to eat sooo much just to maintain my weight, but people can't tell what you have just by looking at you, so often they will naturally assume the 'obvious' answer because it's easier and simpler for them to process in their brains. However, give 'em the benefit of the doubt and let them know who you are, warts 'n' all and i guarantee you'll find some special people who'll support you and make you laugh when you're down, i found a few at college and am hoping that as University is rather much larger, i'll find a damn sight more of those lovely friends At the end of the day just focus on what you do have, and pace yourself like you said, and be adamant with doctors, don't let them patronise you or tell you it's all in your head.

    Good luck, am here to PM if you wish
    You sound like a special person.
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    (Original post by modalsoul)
    Hi, No problem!
    I understand how hard it must have been for you to adapt, with me..my illnesses were gradual, as in i developed symptom after symptom but gradually if that makes sense, but I fit all the requirements for M.E/CFS 'mild' as i still have my mobility in tact, although my doctors thus far have been well...rather crappy to say the least and attribute everything to being 'all in my head' therefore i've never been able to get a referal to a specialist clinic.

    Anyway, to be honest I think you will be FINE making friends, as long as you get it out that that you're ill but this doesn't change you as a person, you still have the same likes and dislikes and opinions and hobbies, albeit you may not be able to partake to the same extent in such hobbies but you still wish to and suddenly haven't gone off of them. You know I think people appreciate honesty and it's far better to have them judge you based on facts than assumptions. As people often assume I am ill but with something like Anorexia as one of my symptoms is gut related(I.B.S) therefore I can't really absorb nutrients and end up having to eat sooo much just to maintain my weight, but people can't tell what you have just by looking at you, so often they will naturally assume the 'obvious' answer because it's easier and simpler for them to process in their brains. However, give 'em the benefit of the doubt and let them know who you are, warts 'n' all and i guarantee you'll find some special people who'll support you and make you laugh when you're down, i found a few at college and am hoping that as University is rather much larger, i'll find a damn sight more of those lovely friends At the end of the day just focus on what you do have, and pace yourself like you said, and be adamant with doctors, don't let them patronise you or tell you it's all in your head.

    Good luck, am here to PM if you wish
    I also wish you all the best for your recovery and hope you meet those special people at university.
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    (Original post by manty)
    I also wish you all the best for your recovery and hope you meet those special people at university.
    Thank you, All the best to you too.
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    Gogogo! I was in the same situation. Met a friend who also had some health issues and we bonded. Although our health issues comprised a large part of our personalities then we overcame them as we became better friends, with the health issues as an accepted and normal part of us as a character trait like "bad at spelling" might be and we now basically disregard that and are just normal friends. It was hard for me to tell my old friends too but I eventually did, since my new friend have given me a "fresh start".Yes I know it's depressing to think of how life was before. Forget about that. You are STILL you, feel sorry for yourself, talk about it, and then move on, feeling sorry for too long is counterproductive. Things will be harder now but in a while life will plateau and seem easier again. DO NOT WORRY. Of course my time there felt horrible and there were many days where I couldn't even crawl out the door (IBS/anxiety/depression all led to extreme fatigue that I imagine must suck to have all the time) but I still made it through, I felt bad most of the time, but being done, I'm proud that I finished with okay grades, I feel that I was brave, even when I didn't want to be, and that has made me a stronger person. I also connected with people (once you start talking they might admit they have some issues too and you'll realize a lot of other people are on the same boat.) The right things are often hard to do. Good luck.
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    Hi there. I'm in a very similar situation as well. I was studying at a top uni and one of the hardest courses, but I got very ill-chronic pain, and despite pushing through at uni for as long as possible, eventually felt drained and absoultely unable to go on with life anymore, let alone uni, so I took a year off in an attempt to get better. My situation has improved somewhat and I am still trying my best everyday to see how I can get through this because I desperately want to go back (even though I have no idea if I will be able to manage, but I hope to somehow!) because staying at home and crying and having literally nothing to do or no one to talk to isn't a life I can see myself living with. Doctors have been absolutely useless, and every improvement I have been able to make has been to my own efforts-still by no means able to do or be as happy as I used to but I feel I NEED to push myself and go back, so i'd reccomend doing the same!
    xx
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    I have a CPC and I've spent today googling stuff to try and find help groups / forums about young people with chronic pain. I came across the vlog below and it has really helped me. The girl speaks with such honesty, even in such a small amount of time. you should watch it xx

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bTMLMd6revI
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have a CPC and I've spent today googling stuff to try and find help groups / forums about young people with chronic pain. I came across the vlog below and it has really helped me. The girl speaks with such honesty, even in such a small amount of time. you should watch it xx

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bTMLMd6revI
    Yes, its very tough being young with chronic pain. No one understands what it is like
    Thanks for the vid. xx
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    Yes, its very tough being young with chronic pain. No one understands what it is like
    Thanks for the vid. xx
    She's an inspiration to us all.
 
 
 
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