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    I'm a 20 year old female and ever since I've been sexually active, I've never had sex with someone outside of a relationship.

    I don't judge/condone people that do, it just wasn't for me. I've continuously spurred dates and ONS away because I didn't want that.

    Tonight I met up with this guy I've been speaking with (for about a month or so.) I have feelings for him but it's early days, but tonight we had sex.

    I'm really confused as to how to feel and I feel guilty/did something wrong. This is a complete one off and new experience to me. He hasn't spoken to me since he left (about 11pmish) even though he was online afterwards. I guess I'm just worried that I was used...


    What do you feel about someone who puts on the first night? and how long do you leave it before texting a girl if you're interested in her, after sex?
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    Did you appear upset or let your guilt show whilst he was there, if so he might be giving you some space. You could try talking to him and see how it goes.

    Only extremely stupid and ignorant people are against other people having ONS. As long as you are being safe and fully consent then there is nothing wrong with it. At the same time if you feel uncomfortable then there is nothing wrong with making guys wait.
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    Did you appear upset or let your guilt show whilst he was there, if so he might be giving you some space. You could try talking to him and see how it goes.

    Only extremely stupid and ignorant people are against other people having ONS. As long as you are being safe and fully consent then there is nothing wrong with it. At the same time if you feel uncomfortable then there is nothing wrong with making guys wait.
    No, it didn't really hit me until an hour or so later. I might try tomorrow.

    I do usually that's the the thing... I'm not sure why I did this time. I don't particularly regret it, it's just unusual to me.
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    No, it didn't really hit me until an hour or so later. I might try tomorrow.

    I do usually that's the the thing... I'm not sure why I did this time. I don't particularly regret it, it's just unusual to me.
    Yeah I think you should try and talk to him again tomorrow, if it turns out that he was just using you for sex, then although it sucks and you might feel ****ty, you just have to realise that he is obviously a **** and not worth your time anyway.

    And there's totally nothing wrong with ONS and anyone that tells you otherwise is an idiot.
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    I got nothing against people who have one night stands, not an issue as long as people are careful. I guess best thing to do is talk to him
 
 
 
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