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    Grr this is gonna sound so lame lol

    There's a guy who I've had a 'crush' on for like nearly 8 months now at college, but I have this very fixed view that he's not gay/bi/pans and just straight. My view is only fixed on the stereotypical 'gay' and he doesn't seem to match that and I know I shouldn't hold stereotypes but I really can't help it 'cause based on my personal experience, most gay men I've seen are really feminine and only seem to mix with females. He's very masculine and hangs around with men only.

    Problem isss, I've never actually spoken to this guy so it's just going to appear really awkward and difficult if I walk up to him and ask him out or whatever. I'm into him 'cause he's quite attractive ngl and he doesn't seem like a complete ****, he genuinely appears to be a nice guy from what I've seen.

    I have caught him staring at me a few times but if we try and make eye contact one of us usually breaks it instantly (aka usually me ) and IM SO CONFUSED.

    I'm really considering telling him I have feelings for him when I go back to college in a few weeks but I don't know whether that's sensible or not, cause if he's not gay [and I don't think he is] then he's going to react awfully and my self-confidence will be shattered. (final note, I am reallyyyyy sorry if I offended people with those stereotypes I know I shouldn't have them but eurgh).

    Should I tell him?
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    i'd try making friends first, with no ulterior motives or expectations, and then you'd probably get a better gauge on how he's feeling - but it can be very hard to just be friends with someone you have feelings for
 
 
 
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