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Issues with women's expectations of a mans manhood, and superficial society Watch

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    Hello all,
    I'm just posting this as a general rant really- let off some steam and also gauge people's viewpoints.
    Basically I've noticed a lot of women these days desire a mans penis to be pretty big or above average, and whilst this might not reflect all women and it may not relate to every single woman on this planet it bothers me a lot.
    I dunno, it just seems there's a lot more superficiality around in terms of expectations of a man (in sexual terms, I.e. his d**k size, body, looks). Now I understand my argument might have set me up for some sort of sexist related assumption on readers part, or that people could assume that all men are after a curvy, athletic woman with large breasts. But...I am no such guy, I am happy with an average girl, but most importantly her personality must be desirable more than the look of her p**sy or breasts. In opposition, to many women's viewpoints of the athletic well endowed man which so many women seem to drool for and in the process offend the perfectly averse looking guy, whom might have an averse size package. Yet, doesn't quite match up to their expectations.

    I feel that there are many women (too many) that maybe are a little bit demanding in terms of what they are after. And no, I am not jealous or bitter or resentful of such men with bigger equipment. What I am saying is, that men have a lot to live up to in our modern society in terms of sexually pleasing a woman. For e.g. I was watching a program about a bloke who was from california. His wife loved him etc, but she said his penis is "far...far to small at 7inches, and he doesn't sexually pleasure her". To which I found disgusting...I am under the impression that at 7 inches this bloke is well above the average size. Yet his selfish wife wants more, of which this poor bloke can't give, it ain't his fault. Nature provided this. So in spite of it all he was off in for an OP to increase its size...wrong if you asked me, this made me very angry.

    Okay, fair enough some women set high targets of getting blokes with big d**ks, good look to ya! But isn't this abit unfair to the guys that average 4-5inches (a size which is perfectly fine)? The thing is, men can't really do much about their size, it's the way it is (other than a risky OP), so I think it's a very vain suggestion for women to maybe be so insulting as to be this way.
    Men cannot do a great deal about there package, but it seems women can do much much more, in terms of appearance, breast size, vaginal reconstruction. The area seems much more explored than for men.

    ---okay finally here's the questions I wish to ask the ladies....what size would you all consider average in a male partner? Is 5inches considered small, 6inches?
    I just want to gauge an opinion about all this. By the way, I consider my size to be of adequate size, and thus I am not in this in efforts to compensate. My GF is perfectly happy so she tells me.
    By the way, apologies in advance if this seems like I attacking women...because I'm not just annoyed with people's superficiality. And not giving those blokes a chance, unless they are gigantic. Many thanks.
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    The vast majority of potential partners could not care less about your penis size. It is, as you say, absolutely normal. They will have made the decision to sleep with you long before they knew what it was.

    There are of course some people who demand a partner's *thing* be at least / no more than *whatever*, whether that's penis, chest size, height, width, number of previous partners, IQ or anything else. But honestly, who cares what they want? It means sensible people have a wider choice of partners...
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    As a woman, i personally couldnt give two ****s about the size of a ****, unless its unpleasantly big..
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    The **** size thing is silly. Most girls I know complain about dicks being too big, never heard a complaint about a guy having too small of a ****. Maybe thats just me

    The thing which is more understandable is the athletic, fit, toned body for both men and women in a partner. Tbh, as far as I'm concerned, there are a few logical conclusions which you can reach from somebody looking after their body:

    Good health
    Pride in self-appearance
    Self-confidence
    Determination to maintain a healthy appearance
    An ability to protect for the more primal-minded girls

    There are no real excuses seeing as any girl can get toned, and any guy can put on muscle and strip fat.
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    Nah, someone who is happy with their body - whatever shape it is - is sexier than anyone who puts themselves through several sorts of hell in order to match a stereotype of 'fit'.

    (If you want to do it, fine, but few of the people who I see suffering are doing it for themselves.)
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    Nah, someone who is happy with their body - whatever shape it is - is sexier than anyone who puts themselves through several sorts of hell in order to match a stereotype of 'fit'.

    (If you want to do it, fine, but few of the people who I see suffering are doing it for themselves.)
    I understand what you're saying, but why does someone have to be doing it for themselves?

    There's a quote from Abraham Lincoln in which he debates personal autonomy, and says 'but personal autonomy to do what exactly?'. What he's getting at is that everything someone thinks they do for themselves, rarely only effects themselves. So I bet while some people think they're doing it for their own health, they're also loving the benefits of that guy eyeing them up or that hot girl staring at your muscles.

    I get some people have strokes or heart disease and need to get fit in order to save their own lives. But I genuinely think at this age, you only have people who admit they do it to look good to others, and people who say they don't but actually do.

    You're right in a sense, I lift and run and swim to look good, but I've had a girlfriend for the last two years who self-admittedly wouldn't dump me if I was overweight and I still do it, so it can't just be for show.

    For some people like me, being fit is just a way of life. It also brings discipline to my life, I can shape my day around uni (the mental) and exercising (the physical).
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    I think some women are just after certain things in men. It's like asking why a guy would choose a skinny girl over a fat girl. Or why a guy would choose a girl who has a tight p*ssy* over one whose is loose (irrespective of sexual promiscuity or whatever). Or why a guy would choose someone with larger breasts over smaller breasts. Or blonde hair over brown. Or pretty over ugly. Or happy over sad. Or funny over *****y.
    Sorry for such crude examples.
    There are some women who clearly look for a larger package than a small package..regardless of all the other attributes some women are attracted to instead.
    I once saw a tv program of a man who would not accept it if his wifes waist was not smaller than a certain size. She had to be so slim in order to keep him. So what is the justification in that for this poor woman? You have to put up with the requests of the people you choose to be with or you get rid of them.

    You mentioned how it is not up to them to choose their size-its up to nature but yet women "can do much much more, in terms of appearance, breast size, vaginal reconstruction."
    I just would like to point out it is hard to fix having small breasts-men are not satisfied with fake breasts-they much prefer the real thing so how can women help this either?

    If you ask me you are unfairly trying to place blame on women who are trying to choose what they would like in their partner. You "men" cannot deny you are picky aswell, moving so quickly to the next woman because she is prettier or funnier or for whatever reason. Why do we not get a choice? Why must accept what we are given for the sake of not hurting your feelings when there is so much expected from us already? We deserve a choice. Whether it is for a man with long blonde wavy hair, or for some, a man with a larger penis?
    you can also not ignore the fact that porn sets a high standard for each gender. Women in porn tend to have large breasts, perfect tiny bodies and pretend to or maybe do enjoy being jackhammered into. Some men idealise these kinds of women. Just as men look for their perfect sex toy straight out of a porno..women may also look for the jackhammer they see in porn. I don't really know what is it that these women love so much about a huge ****-but they have the right to want it just as much as you have the right to find scarlette johanson more attractive than rosie odonell or vice versa.
 
 
 
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