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    I'm a little bit confused

    I'm 18 years old and untill about a year ago I always thought I was as straight as they come and then for whatever reason I started to watch gay porn and I slowly realised that I would quite like to have sex with a man, giving and receiving.

    I could never see myself in a relationship with a man, I think I could only truly love a woman but the idea of having sex with a man now really turns me on and that a friends with benefits type situation would be really good.

    Have you ever heard of my type of situation before, am I full on bisexual or does this have some other kind of name

    Thanks for your help
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    I don't think you should pressure yourself into falling into one of these categories (straight, gay, bisexual). You like what you like. I mean take me for example. I like girl on girl porn. I LOVE men ok, like i think men are gods gift to me, but the idea of having sex with a woman turns me on. But i don't put myself into any categories because of it. I think that you need to stay open minded about it. Don't feel pressured to be straight, or bi, or gay. Keep yourself open to love. Wow, I am on a soap box today. Pardon my outburst.

    I guess what i am saying be open minded. You never know whats around the corner.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a little bit confused

    I'm 18 years old and untill about a year ago I always thought I was as straight as they come and then for whatever reason I started to watch gay porn and I slowly realised that I would quite like to have sex with a man, giving and receiving.

    I could never see myself in a relationship with a man, I think I could only truly love a woman but the idea of having sex with a man now really turns me on and that a friends with benefits type situation would be really good.

    Have you ever heard of my type of situation before, am I full on bisexual or does this have some other kind of name

    Thanks for your help
    Sexual orientation isn't neat little boxes that we all fit into, unless there are 7 billion+ boxes
    Just call it what you want, or don't call it anything at all. You'd only really need to explain it to a potential partner to some degree - if you were interested in a male partner you should make it clear that you don't want a relationship so as not to lead him on - but I don't see why you need to put a label on it.
    Maybe if you've been in a situation with a male partner you'll see more what you want and you'll know what you want to call it, but if you don't know then don't try and put it in a box when there's no need to.
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    Don't rush to label yourself. Try things out in a safe and consensual manner. You'll find out what works for you sooner or later
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    I disagree with the concepts above that there's more than 4 categories (gay/straight/bi/a), or that sexuality is fluid as a overall statement.

    However, for some, there can be fluidity, and sexuality have a variety of nuances. People can be bisexual sexually, but only one way romantically or vice versa. That's okay. I agree with everyone's opinion that you don't need to run out to define yourself straight away - it might take a while to settle into understanding exact how your sexuality works.
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    My goodness. Just do what you like, watch any porn you can enjoy and stop worrying so much...
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    (Original post by lightburns)
    I disagree with the concepts above that there's more than 4 categories (gay/straight/bi/a), or that sexuality is fluid as a overall statement.
    I wouldn't call a man who fancies (and has relationships, sex etc., the whole thing) men in general but there is one woman in his entire life that he has done this with or wanted to a bisexual man, but I also wouldn't call him gay.
    I think in general we use labels to predict another person's behaviour. Calling him bisexual wouldn't predict his behaviour but, assuming the woman was someone he hadn't already been involved with, calling him gay wouldn't either. He's somewhere in between (although we could say he is very very close to being gay).

    For anyone more interested in this, see the Kinsey Scale.
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    Like everyone else has said - sexuality can range from never looking at someone the same gender in that way EVER, to only looking at people of the same gender in that way. So understandably, there are lots of places in between that you can be at, and although this can be very frustrating because you're sat there thinking "Well am I a little bit gay then?" it's totally nothing to worry about.

    Different stuff turns different people on, and if gay porn gets you there then so what! If you want a gay experience, just go for it. There's only one way to find out and it certainly doesn't mean you're full on bi, or full on gay. You're 18 - enjoy it!
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    I am a young man who has been in a lot of relationships with girls. I do love sex with woman but I have a lot of things going on in my head about men. I know this sounds mad but I would lo e to try sex with a man. I want to receive and give but don't want to kiss a man. Does this mean I am gay
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    I'll just say by the way, you might find this evolves.
    I originally found myself being romantically and physically attracted to girls and developed a physical attraction towards guys too. I eventually decided that i could have sex with guys but never a relationship, anyway, short version: by boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 months now.

    Whatever you are is okay, but make sure you're discovering what you are and not deciding it
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    (Original post by johndoranglasgow)
    I'll just say by the way, you might find this evolves.
    I originally found myself being romantically and physically attracted to girls and developed a physical attraction towards guys too. I eventually decided that i could have sex with guys but never a relationship, anyway, short version: by boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 months now.

    Whatever you are is okay, but make sure you're discovering what you are and not deciding it
    Sound advice. :yy:
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    I think sexuality is fluid and we all have different attractions throughout our lives. I went from having no interest in either gender, to heterosexual and now I'm bisexual. As previous people have said, don't think you have to fit into a neat little box, life isn't like that at all. Three ways which sexuality is classed are desire, behaviour and identity. These don't necessarily match each other. Enjoy exploring your sexuality, whether it's simply watching or actively doing. Don't worry about labels, we're not cans of soup!
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    Do what you want to do and don't let people get to you about it.

    Penis, vagina, anal, it's all just different types of sexual fun you can have with another person.
 
 
 
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