Do you let your bf go to strip clubs?

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I am a ex stripper and so I know exactly what happens there. For me, it would depend on the club and if he was paying. If he's paying I'd prefer not, we have rent and bills to pay. If his friends are, yeah sure. I'd say go ahead if he wanted to go to my old club because I know the girls there and know they mostly do clean dances. Air - no grinding.

London, it's £20 a nude dance. SOME girls like to offer extras but those are 9/10 never inside the club...

I know one girl had sex with a customer in the VIP rooms for £250. It happens. But that was at a club I worked at only twice.

I dance real good and still have my sexy outfits so if my baby wants a dance I'll give it to him...and with a happy ending too :wink:

He's a man, can do what he likes. I just hope he will consider my feelings x

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Reply 81

Clickers

Strip club is pointless. Why waste one's money getting teased by some tramp?

Reply 82

Shockolate

Original post by Treeroy

Perhaps I don't understand what a strip club is, but isn't this question the same as asking "Do you let your bf watch porn?"?

All he is doing is watching someone; that's not cheating, it's not 'wrong' in a monogamous relationship.

"But one is on screen and one is in real life!" - So? Why should it be treated any differently?

If it's a private dance where the woman is grinding against him or he can touch her then I would consider it cheating as they would be having sexual contact with another person. I agree that watching isn't cheating. I think some people are okay with their partner watching porn but not going to a strip club because porn is getting aroused by watching the sexual act, whereas going to a strip club could be seen as lusting over another person, plus it could be seen as disrespectful to the relationship to openly, publicly pay to go and view other women (not how I feel personally but could be why some people see it as different to porn).

Reply 83

Signorita23

Original post by Shockolate

Grinding isn't allowed. But it still happens...

anyway, I think you made some good points. I think seeing the stage show is fine but a private dance is more intimate and can't be compared to porn. He's PAYING to see a SPECIFIC woman take her clothes off and that can be a problem for many women, I would think.

Reply 84

Caits7

Original post by McMurdo

Out of consideration to my soon-to-be wife, I wouldn't go to see strippers in the first place...for a stag do or just leisure. I'd also expect her to show the same decency. I do not understand the need for men/women on hen/stag dos to go to strip joints and see other people naked. The whole thing of "it's your last night of freedom" is a terrible reason; if you want freedom, then don't get married to the person! If there's the desire for one, last sordid night out while you're technically 'free', marriage shouldn't be on the agenda.

This! ^
I'm probably just a little old-fashioned in my views, but what's so wrong with only wanting to see your partner in that way? It's all very well not being the jealous type, but for me, real love is having no desire to go in the first place.
By the way, congratulations ^_^

Reply 85

LISSEY

I don't have a problem with my boyfriend going to a strip club,too be honest I'd probably go too,why not.

Reply 86

Rybee

'Do you let your bf...'

God, some of you girls have got your boys under the thumb!

Unless it's for a laugh/joke I could probably see why a guy would go with his mates... 'ish.

But other than that, I think it's terribly sad that guys spend their money on paying girls to strip for them whilst no doubt jizzing off their hardon in the toilet afterwards. I feel pity and sorrow for them really. And I'm sure the girls dancing do too.. they have the last laugh when they walk home with your cash.

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Reply 87

CaptainDudeson

Let? I'll damn well do what I want woman! What's the big deal anyway?

Reply 88

aranexus

Original post by sugarmouse

It's probably worth mentioning that I'm a stripper.

Original post by sugarmouse

I have done-but it's not a regular thing!

So, how did one of your customers win you over & get you to go out with them?

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Reply 89

McMurdo

Original post by Caits7

Yes. The whole point of marriage is that it's supposed to signify complete satisfaction with your other half. It completely defeats the purpose of the marriage if you want to desperately squeeze in another debauched night out. I just find it's a bit contradictory to celebrate your unity and loyalty to one person by going out and ogling at other men/women.

Reply 90

sugarmouse

Original post by aranexus

So, how did one of your customers win you over & get you to go out with them?

I don't get you lol... I've been on dates with customers, but never been a girlfriend of one.

Reply 91

Louise1787

I would definitely let my boyfriend go to a strip club. It's his life, he can do what he wants, and in my experience the women in strip clubs are generally just not that into it- and why should they be, since they are being paid? Obviously the good ones fake it well, but they are hardly going to be looking at their customers and going 'yeah, I like him, I'm gonna take him home with me!'

My boyfriend went with three of his mates to a strip club a few months ago, all of whom had girlfriends. My boyfriend told me in advance and I said I was fine with it as long as he behaved himself. One of his friends told his girlfriend while they were there and she went mental so he bailed. The other two just lied to their girlfriends about where they were. Why would you want to be in the kind of relationship where your boyfriend feels he needs to lie to you so he can go and have fun with his mates?

I trust my boyfriend more than anyone else so I believe that he would never do anything untoward, and in fact, on the aforementioned evening he rang me up and told me that he didn't like the strip club because it was really soulless (as well as complaining about the lack of size of the strippers' assets, but we'll let that one lie!).

If you disagree with a strip club because you think it's immoral, fine, but otherwise I think people who won't let their partners go are generally insecure about their relationships.

Reply 92

Annonshell

I just don't think it's nice if your boyfriend's going to those types of places when your in a relationship. If a man's single fine but i would hate it if he lied to me about going to a lap club with his mates. Would rather he paid me money dancing than spending all his money on a sleazy dancer kissing them all over. Plus who knows what else they are up to.

Reply 93

Bio 7

Original post by Annonshell

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