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    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_iZnF...e_gdata_player

    Found this to be really emotional. As I, myself, know people that have been effected by not having an engaged father. Many of them are drug addicts, school drop-outs, and even a few have committed suicide.

    Can any other TSR members relate to this?

    http://www.theperfectfather.org/what-people-are-saying/

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    I guess the one advantage is that it teaches you quicker to be on your own.
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    I suffered from quite a severe mental breakdown when I was about 17/18/19/20 (It took a hell of a long time before I felt I had truly recovered) My dad was abusive and neglectful, lost contact with him when I was 10, I was also bullied at school from 6-16 years old, it never let up, and it was from many different people. I'd love to know what I'd have been like if my dad had actually cared, but I'll never know.
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    (Original post by BefuddledPenguin)
    I suffered from quite a severe mental breakdown when I was about 17/18/19/20 (It took a hell of a long time before I felt I had truly recovered) My dad was abusive and neglectful, lost contact with him when I was 10, I was also bullied at school from 6-16 years old, it never let up, and it was from many different people. I'd love to know what I'd have been like if my dad had actually cared, but I'll never know.
    That's sad to hear, but great to know that you have fully recovered!

    What's the one thing you would say to him if he was here today?

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    (Original post by Sufistic)
    That's sad to hear, but great to know that you have fully recovered!

    What's the one thing you would say to him if he was here today?

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    To be honest, I'd give him a chance to get to know me again, but I'd try to approach him like I would a stranger, as most of my memories of him are traumatic so I would have to treat him as though he were a different person, Which he could well be, it's been 12 years since I last saw him. I know I have at least 3 half siblings, and I'd like to know that those kids are OK too, if they weren't I think I now have the confidence to intervene if necessary.
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    (Original post by BefuddledPenguin)
    To be honest, I'd give him a chance to get to know me again, but I'd try to approach him like I would a stranger, as most of my memories of him are traumatic so I would have to treat him as though he were a different person, Which he could well be, it's been 12 years since I last saw him. I know I have at least 3 half siblings, and I'd like to know that those kids are OK too, if they weren't I think I now have the confidence to intervene if necessary.
    Maybe this could be the start of something beautiful - not trying to impose anything here. But what if you try and get to know your father again for the sake of your siblings?

    I salute you coming out like this

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    I haven't accessed the links in your clip but I didn't have a good father figure growing up. He was around, but he wasn't a good father figure.
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    (Original post by Dee Leigh)
    I haven't accessed the links in your clip but I didn't have a good father figure growing up. He was around, but he wasn't a good father figure.
    If you have about 15 minutes to spare, then I ask you to watch the clip. It may be that his father wasn't a good father-figure? I'm not trying to imply anything.

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    (Original post by Sufistic)
    If you have about 15 minutes to spare, then I ask you to watch the clip. It may be that his father wasn't a good father-figure? I'm not trying to imply anything.

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    Yeah, kind of.
 
 
 
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