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    So, I'm pretty new to this, I usually keep things to myself. I guess I thought I'd try a new approach see if it helps me deal with this any better. Before I met my boyfriend I was pretty confident, felt really good about myself, was really passionate about health and fitness. I was idnependent, knew what I wanted.

    The longer I'm with my boyfriend the more I feel lost and out of control of my own life, my own decisions. I love my boyfriend more than anything in the world and would never want to be without him but its getting so difficult. Although I was independent, I had my problems, which my boryfriend helped me with, which is why I think he likes to control me now.

    He goes on and on about me having a life outside of our relationship but he wont let me have one and I dont know what to do now. I love helping others and usually have an answer for everything but it seems I dont right now... what can I do? How can I get back to who I am?:confused:
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    Have some pride and do what you want with your own life?

    You're letting him control you; that's down to you. Aside from physically restraining you, how can he possibly stop you doing what you want? I also can't see how you can love someone who makes you personally unhappy...
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    He seems to come across as a bit of a controlling hypocrite. Have you told him about how you feel? If he knew how you felt then maybe he would try and be more encouraging and give you some space.
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    He doesnt make me unhappy, its complicated, maybe I shouldnt have posted on this thing.

    Its not as simple as doing what you want when you want, when your in a relationship that means this much to you, you tell each other everything and value the others opinion. I would never want to do anything that would cause problems for my relationship.

    Of course I have spoken to him about it but he doesnt understand.
 
 
 
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