I don't find anything interesting in life?

Yeah it's been like this for pretty much half of my life. I guess one thing I did like but i have kind of got bored of is just going out clubbing. I would enjoy pulling girls. Sounds stupid i know. I then had sex a few times and felt like i accomplished it and then going out clubbing is pointless because i have already achieved and surpassed just a basic kiss. It also is just bad for your health and you have got to ask yourself 'why are you even doing it'. So I don't really like going out or even just drinking in a quiet pub.

I've always been quite picky when making friends. Like I am very open but i am picky when becoming closer to a person. And I will never get to the stage where i need someone's support or will let out all my secrets to that person, or would call my best friend when i am upset, ask my friend for a hug or a shoulder to cry on etc. I guess I am quite a cold person. When I have had a girlfriend, I have never found anything deep down in my heart or any of that stuff. I just found her good looking. Even when someone I know died, I felt bad but didn't feel the need to cry (not disrespecting at all btw).

No, it's fine honestly. After re-reading the orginal post though I have to ask, do you really want things to change or are you content with the way things are?

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I feel similar in a lot of respects. I get bored very quickly with things, and there is nothing worse than slipping into a routine. There are two things that have really helped me. Firstly, keep trying new things, constantly. If you enjoy something, keep at it until you get bored, then keep at it for a few weeks/sessions more. If you're still bored, give up on it. But for me, I have found one thing that has held my interest for six months now, which is an achievement for me.

The same applies with relationships. Make an effort to meet as many people as you can and have conversations with them you find interesting (for me a lot of small talk is incredibly bland, obviously you'll have to suffer a little of that, but steering the conversation to something that holds your attention a lot better will keep you entertained and if the person is uncomfortable with it (depending on what you find interesting) then they're probably not the sort of person you want to hang around with anyway. Similarly, with women, if you're unhappy with the current setup how about trying to get to know them before entering into a relationship, seeing if at least they can entertain you for a while before it becomes anything more.

That's the fun side. But unfortunately you will have to do repetitive things in order to live. Here, plan out a few life goals, whatever you want really. Most important for me was picking a career that had the variety for me to actually enjoy it that also paid reasonably well (not exactly easy, especially as the general public frustrate me XD). For me it was teaching (which pays well in London) so I'm currently working towards that. Plan out any steps you need to take to get to that career and enact them. Then when you feel yourself slipping into a routine, you can at least look forwards to see where it's leading. Of course still try to break it up with as many activities/people as possible.

I also know someone else that feels the same way about nearly everything, so believe me you are not alone. Quote me if you have any questions, and remember: variety is the spice of life.

Well I want to be happy so I guess I want things to change. But I don't know what I want, what will actually make me happy. Everything I try is just 'meh'.

I used to be exactly the same as you. Then I discovered bodybuilding and weightlifting, why don't you also give that a go? I bet you'll come to love it

I understand what you're saying. I know you've put the effort in to try things and that's great, but are you approaching them in the right mindset? If you go in thinking that it's just going to be 'meh' you're not giving yourself the chance to enjoy anything. You've just got to be patient and keep trying I guess. Duke of Ed sounds like a good idea if you've got the time. Will give you a chance to develop a new skill, try a new sport and volunteer (which could be something like helping coach a kid's team, help with your degree too I guess)

I don't really know what I want to become. 99% of well paid jobs seem boring to me. The simple jobs which don't require a high level of education seem more interesting to me. I am not saying this will be my future career as i wouldn't earn much money but just simple things such as working in a shop, driving a van and delivering things, being a taxi driver or something seems more interesting to me.
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Tbh i don't usually go in with a negative mindset actually.

Did D of E silver just to look good on my CV/Personal Statement etc. Found the expedition boring and didn't like it, i learnt nothing from my skill (learning to cook because my mum can't really teach me - she ends up just making it all for me and i don't remember any of it), found the volunteering a waste of a lunch break at my college and the physical started off alright and got repetitive/a routine again. Done coaching football too which was what I described in my OP as just an 'ok' part time job.

Wow that response was really helpful. That's some inspiring stuff by the way!

Only thing about the job is - i have yet to find something that interests me and is well paid.

the thing which struck me about this is that it's interesting because it's quite ordinary and routine. Unless by ''more interesting' you mean easier to get, in which case it could be you need to work out why you have no motivation.
And also they involve people and some constant conscious connection to the fundamentals of life. Working in a shop-people. The hustle bustle of daily working life. Dozens of people coming into your life for a split second and leaving, possibly forever-what's their life story? Same with a taxi driver and delivery. These also involve movement, constant travel, but then you're always on the road. Do you like change? Does it excite you? Why? Think about it. We all need it, but then, we all need some security in life too. Not too much, or it will choke you. Living beings were born to be free.

I wish you all the best in finding yourself.

You're really stuck then from what I can see! Just keep pushing yourself. If you'd already achieved everything you wanted you would be happy with things at the moment. There's obviously something big missing, just up to you to find out what it is to be honest. Final suggestion though, how about learning guitar? You can learn a few chords easy, that's all it takes to learn a few songs. No need to fork out money on lessons and whatnot.

If you struggle to find anything interesting then it sounds like you may have some form of depression, go to your GP and just talk it over, there is nothing to lose from doing it.

Look for variety, which is something you won't get in a typical office job. If you find something interesting follow that bit through to what you want to do. I for instance found physics interesting conceptually, but find the theory dry; I want to do something different every day and want some large variation in people I meet. Hence teaching.

For my friend it was considerably interesting. His hobby that he never tired of is music, so he's pursuing that as a career at the moment.

I don't like that sort of music. I have a weird music taste. I don't like instruments at all actually.



What will that actually achieve though? Depression is just a word. Personally i don't think i do have it. It has never crossed my mind. But even if I did have it. Would the doctor telling me I have depression actually change me at all? All it would do is tell me I am suffering from a condition.

I am 18. I am a pretty easy going, normal guy. However there is nothing in life I particularly enjoy. I have no hobbies, I have no interests, there is nothing which really pleases me. I wouldn't say I am sad or miserable. Basically most things I find are 'ok' - not good but not bad.

Another thing is, I get bored of things very quickly. It starts off as alright and then becomes repetitive, too common, a routine, the same each day etc and I just fancy a change. Then if I get a change, eventually this thing which is new will get old and I would want something else new. This would then get old and the cycle will repeat over and over again.

For example, this may sound really shallow but it even applies to friendships and relationships. I have met some people who seem cool and I like spending time with them, but then after getting to know them, maybe a little while later I just feel every time I see them it is the same, I am bored of our conversations or the jokes, they just become boring people even though I once thought they were cool. Sometimes I get a massive crush on a girl, I will ask them out and I get bored of being in a relationship with the girl (not trying to sound arrogant). Or sometimes it is just a massive crush on a girl and the massive crush will go pretty fast and I will probably either hate the girl or just find her 'ok' (but nothing more).

In terms of hobbies, I don't like reading, i don't like watching movies, i don't really like sports (i only do some sports to remain healthy and not for enjoyment purposes).

I even went travelling for 4 and a half months round South East Asia. Everyone I met said it was the best thing of their lives, once in a lifetime, absolutely incredible and the best thing they have done, best decision they made, lifechanging experience blah blah blah. For me, it was just ok. I mean, it was a long time, i did some things which i guess were fairly cool and others things which weren't, but it was no different from being home really. When I was travelling I kind of missed just sitting there watching TV or playing on the xbox. But now I am back home and I think to myself 'why am i playing on the xbox.... it is not real life and isnt going to benefit me in any way. It just kills the time i guess'. Same applies with the TV.

When there are a group of people, everyone wants to meet each other and become friends. To be honest, I really cant be bothered. It is not that I am anti social but I just don't see the point in talking and making friends. What does it really achieve? What is the point of talking? You are just moving your mouth. It is a waste of breath. At the same time though I wouldn't say i am an introvert. I can be the loud guy if i wanted but a lot of the time i am too lazy to be bothered to do this/move my mouth, i can be the super quiet guy mostly because i just dont feel the need to make friends, i can be the clever guy, the dumb guy, the funny guy, the serious guy - it all depends who i want to be with that social group.

I don't know if i am lost, i don't know who i am deep down, i think i may be confused. I don't know what i like really and don't know what i want in life. As i said i am a pretty simple guy. I think i just want to get married one day, have kids and thats pretty much it. I don't feel the need to do anything spectacular. Just be your standard 'joe' you will meet. Not really friendly, not really unfriendly. Just standard, normal, average etc.

It is the same when I have had jobs (only part time ones). I have never found any of the jobs I have done any fun. I could never say I enjoyed them. But at the same time i never did not enjoy them. I just did them and got on with it.

I am going off to University in September and I know some people are worried they won't settle in, make friends etc. For me I pretty much don't care if I get there and become the 'cool' guy or the guy with no friends. It doesn't bother me slightly.

Sometimes after work, I will get home and just not know what to do. I have nothing to please me after work. No sort of hobbies. Nothing I will actually enjoy or find interesting.But at the same time I wouldn't be bored or angry. I just need something to keep me busy for a few hours until i can sleep again and start the next day off the exact same way.