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    Hey guys, I don't know what to do.

    My mum is at rock bottom in her life- she's an alcoholic, a divorcee, recently lost her mum, hates her job, has fallen out with her sister in law etc (latter wasn't her fault).

    My mum has such a good heart and is loved by so many of her friends/my friends etc- she really can be the sweetest most generous person ever.

    Even to me. But she's also a massive b**** to me. I'm well tempered, polite and get on well with her- but for the last 5 years or so she has made my life a living hell. I go to university but every single time I come home she bullies to me tears. She picks on me for my weight, any flaws I have or my lack of success (I'm actually a law student at a Russell Group uni). I have never failed anything and am actually a really good daughter but she treats me like I am worth nothing. She belittles me and makes me have no self confidence whatsoever. Mostly it's when she's drunk but increasingly she's been treating me like this even when sober. She tells me I won't ever have a boyfriend and that I will never amount to anything.

    I hate confrontation and have put up with this for YEARS now and I'm sick of it. I feel sorry for her because of her life but I truly cannot cope with it because I feel myself becoming a shadow of my former self.

    My sister (who is 19) cannot wait to go to university because of it. She makes her feel worthless too but in different ways. Does anyone know where I am coming from/how to deal with it? I'm really stuck in a rut and could do with some advice... x

    Possibly move out for Uni and she'll realise what she's done to you? And she'll stop taking you for granted hopefully too :/

    It's awful she treats you like that, and it's awful what she's had to suffer through BUT that is no excuse for her treatment of you!
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