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    Sorry if this is in the wrong place, I haven't been on here for long!

    I need some help with deciding where to firm.

    I really wanted to go to university on my own, so i could make all new friends, get a whole new slate, etc etc (just like most people i guess). But my friend got rejected from all but one uni, and this is the one uni that i loved and was all but ready to firm until a couple of weeks ago when they got rejected from their last one and firmed my favourite

    I feel so confused and i literally have no idea what to do. should i go to one of my other choices and have to listen to them go on about how great the course+uni is or do i go there with her?

    We applied to the same course, and the uni in question is really small so we will most likely see each other everyday. The main reason i don't want to go with them is because throughout applying i have felt like i cant talk to them because we're applying to the same thing and i just felt like the competition was horrible, and i don't want it to carry on into uni

    Anybody been in this situation, and what did you do??

    TL;DR- my friend has firmed my first choice (small!!) uni for the same course as me, i wanted to go by myself- do i choose to go to uni i don't really want to go to or go to my favourite still?
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    I suppose it depends which university we're talking about.

    If the subject is a popular one, you will most definitely have separate seminar / tutorial groups - so you might not be in the same classes. If you are put in different halls (which is likely) that would help get some distance.

    I wouldn't decline your favourite university just because a friend it going, that's pretty stupid (and childish) to be honest. You could make the most of the fact that you have a friend who is going to the same uni / course as you as you won't be alone, plus you'd already have a friend so it'd be less intense for meeting new people from your course etc. Plus at least you'll have someone to go out with, go to societies with etc. Try and see the positives in this.

    Why do you think you'll be in competition with your 'friend' at university? Yes, you were in competition to get a place - but you've both been offered a place. Your friend might not even meet their offer.
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    Thank you for the reply! Yeah there are like 100 places, but the uni is tiny so we would be in the same cafe+halls :s

    It's not like they're super competitive i'm just pretty insecure and when we're hanging out normally i'm fine with her, it's just when we talk about uni and stuff i get really panicky and weird and i know it's pretty stupid, hence the talking to a forum and not actual face-to-face people (i would be too embarrassed!), but i guess just need reassurance that it's not going to end horribly :s
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    (Original post by medkid95)
    Thank you for the reply! Yeah there are like 100 places, but the uni is tiny so we would be in the same cafe+halls :s

    It's not like they're super competitive i'm just pretty insecure and when we're hanging out normally i'm fine with her, it's just when we talk about uni and stuff i get really panicky and weird and i know it's pretty stupid, hence the talking to a forum and not actual face-to-face people (i would be too embarrassed!), but i guess just need reassurance that it's not going to end horribly :s
    Which university is this for?

    Like I said, why not embrace the fact that your friend is going, instead of making something bad out of it? It looks like you're over thinking things.

    You have both been accepted, therefore, there is no competition for anything. If you're going to be living in separate halls you'll more than likely be socialising with those you live with tbh, that is what I see happening more often than not.
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    Personally I think it sounds a bit stupid to not go to your first choice just because you're friend will also be there.
    It's not like you have to see or socialise with her if you don't want to. (although it may be a bit harsh)
 
 
 
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