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    I am currently in a 1 year relationship with my girlfriend and things are going great. However the sex hasn't been that good for a short while which I suppose is a natural thing to happen.

    Recently I have been trying alternative ways of masturbation e.g. Anal play. I've been using a silver bullet vibrator and I've been putting that inside of me and it's gave me the greatest orgasms I've ever had.

    I want to tell my girlfriend about it and how it could be fun for her to give it ago to spice up our sex life but I'm worried about what she will say about me doing it on my own when she's not here.

    She is very much against masturbation but sometimes I can't help but feel the need to do it and what else am I supposed to do if she is not here to do it for me.

    I won't know how to explain myself that I've been engaging in anal play, she will most likely question my sexuality. I am totally straight, nothing against gay people whatsoever.

    What do I do?

    Feedback would be much appreciated.
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    I wouldn't admit you've done it to be honest, no need to bring it up really.

    Thing is, as much as it isn't inherently a gay thing to do, you try someone that, best keep it quiet really, unless you're really that open with your GF. Just bring the Anal Play thing up on it's own.
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    (Original post by Tom_182)
    I am currently in a 1 year relationship with my girlfriend and things are going great. However the sex hasn't been that good for a short while which I suppose is a natural thing to happen.

    Recently I have been trying alternative ways of masturbation e.g. Anal play. I've been using a silver bullet vibrator and I've been putting that inside of me and it's gave me the greatest orgasms I've ever had.

    I want to tell my girlfriend about it and how it could be fun for her to give it ago to spice up our sex life but I'm worried about what she will say about me doing it on my own when she's not here.

    She is very much against masturbation but sometimes I can't help but feel the need to do it and what else am I supposed to do if she is not here to do it for me.

    I won't know how to explain myself that I've been engaging in anal play, she will most likely question my sexuality. I am totally straight, nothing against gay people whatsoever.

    What do I do?

    Feedback would be much appreciated.
    If she's against masturbation she will be strongly against that. Don't mention it. Anyway where exactly is she if she isn't fulfilling the needs you have sexually and she isn't letting you masterbate she's being a pretty awful girlfriend.

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    (Original post by jreid1994)
    If she's against masturbation she will be strongly against that. Don't mention it. Anyway where exactly is she if she isn't fulfilling the needs you have sexually and she isn't letting you masterbate she's being a pretty awful girlfriend.

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    Hahahaha we have regular fun but obviously I have a high sex drive.
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    (Original post by Tom_182)
    Hahahaha we have regular fun but obviously I have a high sex drive.
    Oh, she probably doesn't realize that her libido is lower, just talk to her tell her you have urges to masturbate occasionally, trust me you need to do it sometimes, even when in a relationship.

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    (Original post by jreid1994)
    Oh, she probably doesn't realize that her libido is lower, just talk to her tell her you have urges to masturbate occasionally, trust me you need to do it sometimes, even when in a relationship.

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    Amen to that man, amen!
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    (Original post by Tom_182)
    I am currently in a 1 year relationship with my girlfriend and things are going great. However the sex hasn't been that good for a short while which I suppose is a natural thing to happen.

    Recently I have been trying alternative ways of masturbation e.g. Anal play. I've been using a silver bullet vibrator and I've been putting that inside of me and it's gave me the greatest orgasms I've ever had.

    I want to tell my girlfriend about it and how it could be fun for her to give it ago to spice up our sex life but I'm worried about what she will say about me doing it on my own when she's not here.

    She is very much against masturbation but sometimes I can't help but feel the need to do it and what else am I supposed to do if she is not here to do it for me.

    I won't know how to explain myself that I've been engaging in anal play, she will most likely question my sexuality. I am totally straight, nothing against gay people whatsoever.

    What do I do?

    Feedback would be much appreciated.
    And you didn't even post anonymously?! You sir have a lot of balls :yep:
    My advice? Keep the bullet to yourself, it would freak me out personally

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    (Original post by Billton)
    And you didn't even post anonymously?! You sir have a lot of balls :yep:
    My advice? Keep the bullet to yourself, it would freak me out personally

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    Tom isn't my real name so it is anonymous
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    If she is against masturbation then I don't have a clue why you would think that you should tell her to put a vibrator in your ass...
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    You could make your higher sex drive seem less like a fault on her part (you being driven to masturbation) and play on her self-esteem/ tell her you want to have sex more whilst showing that you specifically desire her, not just you really need to bust a nut more often and she must facilitate that.

    I'm in my first relationship.. and my sex drive is much higher than that of my boyfriend. I can tell you it's not easier getting a guy to want to bang more often than a girl @[email protected] But seriously, it's not like you only masturbate and ignore her, or prefer pornography over her. She shouldn't make you feel bad about having solo fun when she isn't around. Maybe try to get her around more, masturbate with eachother (you are 'teaching eachother' more about your beloved's body :3) and remind her that it isn't just about blowing a load or doing something naughty in secret. Get her on board to the idea that you rally want to be intimate with her more and you exploring together sexually is a part of your relationship that requires and embodies just as much trust, risk, fun, curiosity and excitement as any other part of the relationship.

    I'm surprise you need to spice it up. Is she getting off at all? Usually it's girls complaining they don't *** during sex and come up with all sorts of odd games. Or are you simply bored of HER? Is she not getting you off at all anymore or simply unwilling to put in as much A frequency or B effort as you'd like?

    I know it's hard to suggest things without 'making her feel lie a whore' but both men and women have this odd madonna/whore complex they need to get over. A good girlfriend would be trying to think of different ways to please you morning noon and night lol I know I'm suggesting things to get my boyfriend going daily XD

    PS as for the anal play, you can subtly guide her hand towards your prostate next time she handles your genteleman sausage. Hopefully it'll suffice and send her a hint x

    Good luck x
 
 
 
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