Do you think marriage makes a difference?

are you sure about this? My parents aren't married, but are together, very similar to the OPS story actually minus the university bit, and my dad has signed for me to have major surgery when I was to young to do so myself. In fact pretty much anything that has ever been signed for me was by my dad as I have his name not my mums and it causes less hassle.

Feminism will soon fade away. Make no mistake about that.

Whilst I don't condone rape, women walking around with their tits on show isn't helping, is it now? And before you neg me, hear me out. I should have the right to leave the doors and windows to my house open, however, I know by doing so I am inviting a thief into my home. That's the way the world works unfortunately.

Really? I recall you saying this?

"The slut walk is pointless, blaming a man for committing rape the same way as blaming someone for murder, is right, but blaming men in general for rape? No, you don't exactly see all men standing out on the streets sexually assaulting women like it's a casual thing, it's just abhorrent to say this stuff."

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=2278321&page=26&page=26

I want to know what people think about marriage. Do you think that there is a big difference between marriage and just cohabiting?

For example, I don't feel that marriage is a massive step if you're cohabiting already since after a wedding you just go back to normal life anyway but when I voiced this opinion in a conversation I was told not to be ridiculous and of course it makes a huge difference

My parents have cohabited for the last 22 years without being married and I don't think their lives would be any different if they were married.

What do you think?

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And? What is the point in that quote? So you think that men in general are rapists? saying its not okay to rape to someone is like saying it's not okay to repetitively stab someone. Saying that people should "teach" boys not to rape is pretty bloody stupid, do you think that men in general are rapists? So you aggree with the other person that most men are rapists then? What next are you going to tell me next? Normal men are cerial killers? What she said the slut walk is for is obviously wrong! Don't blame a victim for clothing should be the point of any slut walk what that moron said that it was for is not right.

But I bet you think men in general are rapists.

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Having read Goody2shoes' post and yours, I think you're on the same page :/

are you sure about this? My parents aren't married, but are together, very similar to the OPS story actually minus the university bit, and my dad has signed for me to have major surgery when I was to young to do so myself. In fact pretty much anything that has ever been signed for me was by my dad as I have his name not my mums and it causes less hassle.

My brother said that it feels different after he married my sister-in-law. Two of my closest gay friends who live in the US married, and they said it makes it feel more profound, more permanent.

In fact, the words of the sassy Edith Windsor (who married her sweetheart at age 75, after 40 years together!) seem quite credible.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dbt99LfMP54



I suppose people should do what feels right for them. Still, and I mean absolutely no disrespect to your folks, it's always seemed to me as though there's something churlish about when people say "we don't need a marriage certificate to prove our love".

Marriage is also about standing before your friends, family and community, and committing to one another as a couple, not just the legal status

I want to know what people think about marriage. Do you think that there is a big difference between marriage and just cohabiting?

For example, I don't feel that marriage is a massive step if you're cohabiting already since after a wedding you just go back to normal life anyway but when I voiced this opinion in a conversation I was told not to be ridiculous and of course it makes a huge difference.

My parents have cohabited for the last 22 years without being married and I don't think their lives would be any different if they were married.

What do you think?


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The bit in bold really made me laugh. The point of me posting that quote is that you consistently contradict yourself. One minute you hate the slutwalk, then earlier in this thread you say it's one of two feminist points you agree with. The point of that quote is to demonstrate why I, and possibly others, can't take you too seriously in a debate.

That you then try and make snap judgements about my character (see the bit in bold) because you can see you mucked up is laughable.

Yup, certain. Come 16 he can walk away and drop everything. It's a mess.

That's something I forgot to mention. I too, as well as my brother, have my dads surname. And he too has always signed for things. We had a pretty traditional household in terms of gender roles in fact, stay at home mum and working dad who sorted everything out. Except they weren't married. xD


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what do you mean come 16?
so he would be liable under 16? isn't that how it works anyway

What do you think?

I don't think there is much of a difference either. I still have to get married either way cause my parents would never let me live with someone without being married [it goes against THEIR religion and culture].

Legally after 16, he might as well be a stranger to you. The problem comes when you inherit things from them or would need the power of attorney etc, though this is nothing compared to the problems your mum would have if he left her eg. if her name is not on it, she has on rights to anything - no money, housing, income etc.

Read the quote properly I said that the slut walk is only good if it's for stopping victim judgement/blaming of wearing revealing clothing. Saying teach men not to rape is just about the most stupid suggestion I've ever heard, why not tell a murderer that killing is wrong, see how far that gets you. Why do you aggree with the person that men are so stupid they don't know what rape is?

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I'll tell you exactly what I said in the other thread - I don't agree with a lot of men bashing that goes on in the slut walk. I'm not going into this again. If you want to debate this with me, PM me. Otherwise it's not fair to keep derailing the thread.