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Okay, so i was a regular client with this girl for a couple of months. We used to chat a lot (as well as the sex) each time we met and got to know each other pretty well. I ended up asking her if she wanted to hang out some time, we did, then we started dating a few weeks later.

The relationship is new, we've literally been dating for just over a week now. Her sleeping with other guys doesn't bother me, as I know she is strict about clients using protection. She also undergoes regular STD/HIV tests, but she is 100% safe from all that.

I know many of you will probably think, you're crazy for dating a girl like that, BUT, the way I see it is, you pick up a girl from a bar/club and she could have an STD, because you don't know her sexual history after a night together. People get drunk, they sometimes forget about protection, so I don't see that she is a worse person than a random "easy" girl from a club/bar. In fact, I'd say she is safer due to the constant testing she has.

Anyway, what are your thoughts?
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If you're happy with her work, go for it. Make sure she's still not charging you though!

and sooner or later, her sleeping with other people may bother you and this relationship may go nowhere, so make sure you're comfy with that first, before anything.

and always use protection, coz she may just be saying that! you sound like a nice guy, so dont just trust her completely, and try and see things from both ends


(Original post by Anonymous)
Okay, so i was a regular client with this girl for a couple of months. We used to chat a lot (as well as the sex) each time we met and got to know each other pretty well. I ended up asking her if she wanted to hang out some time, we did, then we started dating a few weeks later.

The relationship is new, we've literally been dating for just over a week now. Her sleeping with other guys doesn't bother me, as I know she is strict about clients using protection. She also undergoes regular STD/HIV tests, but she is 100% safe from all that.

I know many of you will probably think, you're crazy for dating a girl like that, BUT, the way I see it is, you pick up a girl from a bar/club and she could have an STD, because you don't know her sexual history after a night together. People get drunk, they sometimes forget about protection, so I don't see that she is a worse person than a random "easy" girl from a club/bar. In fact, I'd say she is safer due to the constant testing she has.

Anyway, what are your thoughts?
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Advice? Don't.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Okay, so i was a regular client with this girl for a couple of months. We used to chat a lot (as well as the sex) each time we met and got to know each other pretty well. I ended up asking her if she wanted to hang out some time, we did, then we started dating a few weeks later.

The relationship is new, we've literally been dating for just over a week now. Her sleeping with other guys doesn't bother me, as I know she is strict about clients using protection. She also undergoes regular STD/HIV tests, but she is 100% safe from all that.

I know many of you will probably think, you're crazy for dating a girl like that, BUT, the way I see it is, you pick up a girl from a bar/club and she could have an STD, because you don't know her sexual history after a night together. People get drunk, they sometimes forget about protection, so I don't see that she is a worse person than a random "easy" girl from a club/bar. In fact, I'd say she is safer due to the constant testing she has.

Anyway, what are your thoughts?
You do not date a girl you pick up on a one night stand though because there's no emotional attachment, just physical. If you're in a committed (dating) relationship then you would expect an emotional bond with the partner and her to not sleep with other people regardless of how safe it is.
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Advice? Don't.
Seems hard. She's a person, too; why shouldn't she have a relationship? And it's better that she should have with someone who knows the score from the get go.
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You have to make sure you're okay eight the fact she's sleeping with other people. I don't see how that will work if you're totally committed to her. Sooner or later it will bother you. The only way around it is that you help her get a new job or you keep it as an open relationship until you are totally sure that you can deal with the fact other guys will be getting with her, some of which you may know or know of.
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If you're cool with it, why d'you need advice? Sounds like your post was full of **** and the fact that she sits on **** all day bothers the crap out of you. You aren't going to get used to it and she probably isn't going to give up her "career", my advice would be to move on.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I know many of you will probably think, you're crazy for dating a girl like that, BUT, the way I see it is, you pick up a girl from a bar/club and she could have an STD, because you don't know her sexual history after a night together. People get drunk, they sometimes forget about protection, so I don't see that she is a worse person than a random "easy" girl from a club/bar. In fact, I'd say she is safer due to the constant testing she has.
It's not about better or worse, but the fact that your reasoning revolves around whether or not she has an STD is a bit bizarre.

You don't need to go out with a hooker to avoid the clap. :cool:
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I've never heard of an escort offering bareback only oral without (OWO) beacuse it's mega risky in which case you could date her just don't go down on her, french kiss or let her go down on you - problem solved lol.

In your case you might not know until it's too late so I'd tell her to have SOME self-respect and make her clients wrap up. If she thinks anything of you or herself then she would, otherwise run for the hills!
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What's the actual advice you want? You're saying she undergoes HIV tests regularly, so I'm guessing that's your reasoning?

My question is this, are you allowed to get with other girls considering what she does with other guys? Which will then lead on to the question of whether you're entirely comfortable with an open relationship?
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Why are you posting about it if it doesn't bother you? Who cares what anyone else thinks if you're happy with it...

I honestly couldn't give a flying pig, to put it bluntly
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(Original post by Ice Constricter)
My question is this, are you allowed to get with other girls considering what she does with other guys? Which will then lead on to the question of whether you're entirely comfortable with an open relationship?
Wondering the same thing.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Okay, so i was a regular client with this girl for a couple of months. We used to chat a lot (as well as the sex) each time we met and got to know each other pretty well. I ended up asking her if she wanted to hang out some time, we did, then we started dating a few weeks later.

The relationship is new, we've literally been dating for just over a week now. Her sleeping with other guys doesn't bother me, as I know she is strict about clients using protection. She also undergoes regular STD/HIV tests, but she is 100% safe from all that.

I know many of you will probably think, you're crazy for dating a girl like that, BUT, the way I see it is, you pick up a girl from a bar/club and she could have an STD, because you don't know her sexual history after a night together. People get drunk, they sometimes forget about protection, so I don't see that she is a worse person than a random "easy" girl from a club/bar. In fact, I'd say she is safer due to the constant testing she has.

Anyway, what are your thoughts?
What are my thoughts?

I don't think anything about it at all. It's your relationship; what you get up to is really none of my concern.
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Why are you posting about it if it doesn't bother you? Who cares what anyone else thinks if you're happy with it...

I honestly couldn't give a flying pig, to put it bluntly
Yeah, I mean I'm too jealous to have other people shagging my girlfriend. I can imagine getting your **** out and her saying "i get enough of that at work". But if it works for you, more power to you.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Okay, so i was a regular client with this girl for a couple of months. We used to chat a lot (as well as the sex) each time we met and got to know each other pretty well. I ended up asking her if she wanted to hang out some time, we did, then we started dating a few weeks later.

The relationship is new, we've literally been dating for just over a week now. Her sleeping with other guys doesn't bother me, as I know she is strict about clients using protection. She also undergoes regular STD/HIV tests, but she is 100% safe from all that.

I know many of you will probably think, you're crazy for dating a girl like that, BUT, the way I see it is, you pick up a girl from a bar/club and she could have an STD, because you don't know her sexual history after a night together. People get drunk, they sometimes forget about protection, so I don't see that she is a worse person than a random "easy" girl from a club/bar. In fact, I'd say she is safer due to the constant testing she has.

Anyway, what are your thoughts?
Surely by letting a random girl pick you up you're just as 'easy'? Just a thought..
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best advice i can give is use protection
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Yeah, I mean I'm too jealous to have other people shagging my girlfriend. I can imagine getting your **** out and her saying "i get enough of that at work". But if it works for you, more power to you.
I'm not really sure why you've quoted me? If it's in regards to not giving a flying pig, that bit was about if a mate was in a relationship with an escort, not myself.
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(Original post by Ice Constricter)
What's the actual advice you want? You're saying she undergoes HIV tests regularly, so I'm guessing that's your reasoning?

My question is this, are you allowed to get with other girls considering what she does with other guys? Which will then lead on to the question of whether you're entirely comfortable with an open relationship?

Okay, it sounds kind of crazy now I look back at the post. I guess I am wondering if the relationship is a good idea or not. I spoke to her about her future in escorting, but she said she is still saving money for college course and University fees. I am finding this hard to believe, as she bought a new car recently and has bought a lot of new furniture for her apartment, including £2,000+ for a sofas.

She told me that she really likes me and is thinking seriously about giving it up to be with me. But I am starting to doubt whether she will stop it. Also, she doesn't have bookings every single day. She can choose what days clients can see her. Also, she undergoes STD/HIV tests every week. She said she's going to start having more regular tests because she wants to be sure, just so we can have a healthy sex life.

I would like to see her quit and go to University. She said she'll go to University in our area, so she won't be moving. I know Uni fees are a lot, but she said she's been saving for a 1 year now, so she should have the money.

She charges £120 an hour, so it doesn't take much maths to workout that she's earning plenty enough. I want to push the issue with her, but I don't want to upset her over it.

ARRGGHHH!!
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(Original post by Anonymous)
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Anyway, what are your thoughts?
why do you feel the need to validate your decisions with a jury made up internet personas?
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I've never heard of an escort offering bareback only oral without (OWO) beacuse it's mega risky in which case you could date her just don't go down on her, french kiss or let her go down on you - problem solved lol.

In your case you might not know until it's too late so I'd tell her to have SOME self-respect and make her clients wrap up. If she thinks anything of you or herself then she would, otherwise run for the hills!
Then your incredibly naive little boy, girls do oral without, bareback for extras aka alles ohne, you just have to go on AW and see that on the tick boxes.
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