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    I've been single all my life and as a 19 year old fresher I don't really want a boyfriend. I'm enjoying the single life a hell of a lot and occasionally I hook up. The guys I hook up with I already know pretty well, we don't share feelings for one another and it's all just a bit of fun but I'm starting to not want to hook up with multiple people now. I keep thinking about maybe finding a FWB/Buddy. I've been talking to a guy in my area who wants the same thing.

    Is this a risky move ? Has anyone experienced any problems with this kind of deal ?

    Without sounding emotionally unattached, I don't tend to form feelings for guys easily (sex or no sex) unless their was something about them. I don't think I'd fall into the trap of falling for them.
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    I doubt you'll find it difficult to find willing partners at uni if all you want is sex.
    I think you'll struggle with it emotionally though, and you may be labelled a slut or similar when you bed someone who wants more, but you shun.
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    The problem with what you're doing now, is that getting with guys you know pretty well, will lead to getting a 'bike' label if you're getting with your friends.

    In terms of the FWB thing just go for it. Just be aware that it probably will not end well, although there is a chance.
    I've never known a successful FWB story, someone is bound to grow attachment. May not be you, could be him but it's bound to happen eventually.
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    I think the real danger with FWB's is that feelings can change during the arrangement and someone usually gets hurt in the end.
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    (Original post by Rock Fan)
    I think the real danger with FWB's is that feelings can change during the arrangement and someone usually gets hurt in the end.
    This, having a fwb isnt risky
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    The only risk is that feelings might develop somewhat under the radar and then your FWB finds someone else/ends the arrangement and blam! It hits you
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    Yeah, as other people said beforehand, the main issue here is the fact that one of you may develops feelings for each other and all hell breaks loose
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    well there is absolutely no evidence on tsr to suggest it ending badly.............oh wait.
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    I've had two FWB before. The first time, it lasted three months and no feelings ensued. The way we managed to do that was to have a clear end date. It was a means to an end, and neither of us had time to get attached because we had already decided that it was over. The second time, it lasted a little over a month before we fell in love and are now in what we are guessing is a permanent relationship. I wouldn't condemn FWB, as it worked out both times for me (when we ****ed up and feelings started, they were from both ends), but I hear that doesn't happen very often.
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    (Original post by canadamoose)
    I've had two FWB before. The first time, it lasted three months and no feelings ensued. The way we managed to do that was to have a clear end date. It was a means to an end, and neither of us had time to get attached because we had already decided that it was over. The second time, it lasted a little over a month before we fell in love and are now in what we are guessing is a permanent relationship. I wouldn't condemn FWB, as it worked out both times for me (when we ****ed up and feelings started, they were from both ends), but I hear that doesn't happen very often.
    Indeed usually it's just one person who gets feelings.
 
 
 
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