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I think I've met my dream guy but I know he'll never like me back watch

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    He's perfect- looks, personality, interests, everything... I think about him all the time. The thing is I know he'd never be interested in me as he's way out of my league, maybe he would think of me as a friend, but nothing more

    How do I get over this infatuation?
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    If you are sure that nothing will ever come of it, learn to not think of him or find something to keep you busy e.g. hobby, tv show to follow etc.
    If you think there might be a chance with him then you should at least try to get to know him/be his friend...you never know, he might like you as more than a friend. Sometimes people think that their out of someone's league to find that they are actually exactly who that person was looking for
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    (Original post by invisibleme)
    He's perfect- looks, personality, interests, everything... I think about him all the time. The thing is I know he'd never be interested in me as he's way out of my league, maybe he would think of me as a friend, but nothing more

    How do I get over this infatuation?
    How do you know he won't? That's just self-fulfilling.
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    My advice would be to express interest in him now. From the sounds of things you don't know each other well enough yet to be considered close friends, so if he rejects you and you feel like distancing yourself from him, you won't be losing such a good friendship. Plus, the longer you be his friend and friendship deepens, the more you will like him. If you wait and then say something it will hurt so much more if he rejects you. If you tell him now and he rejects you, you will be able to move on and stop obsessing. At the moment you're obsessing not only over him, but also whether he likes you and you're good enough for him. There's no point in agonising over that - he either likes you or he doesn't.
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    This is exactly how I feel about David Beckham

    lol jk but seriously, maybe he WOULD be interested?? And if he's not, there will be plenty of other guys that fit your criteria who will be interested
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    (Original post by Climbontoyourseahorse)
    My advice would be to express interest in him now. From the sounds of things you don't know each other well enough yet to be considered close friends, so if he rejects you and you feel like distancing yourself from him, you won't be losing such a good friendship. Plus, the longer you be his friend and friendship deepens, the more you will like him. If you wait and then say something it will hurt so much more if he rejects you. If you tell him now and he rejects you, you will be able to move on and stop obsessing. At the moment you're obsessing not only over him, but also whether he likes you and you're good enough for him. There's no point in agonising over that - he either likes you or he doesn't.
    I agree.
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    (Original post by invisibleme)
    He's perfect- looks, personality, interests, everything... I think about him all the time. The thing is I know he'd never be interested in me as he's way out of my league, maybe he would think of me as a friend, but nothing more

    How do I get over this infatuation?
    Have you just met him? Sometimes people can become infatuated by someone that's new and different so that they ignore things they don't like about the person. In this case write a list of reasons he isn't the right one - though it may be hard at first you may realise things that actually complete turn offs for you. No person is completely perfect, so find his annoying traits and focus in.


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    To start I think you need to have more confidence on you. Maybe I'm wrong but I suspect you don't have too much confidence in you. Am I wrong?

    Start to be friends with him. Show him how awesome you are. Let the rest happen
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    Nobody's perfect. Whenever you think of him, and start to believe that he's so much better than everyone else, remember this quote:

    "You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You are the same decaying organic matter as everyone else, and we are all a part of the same compost pile."
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    (Original post by Climbontoyourseahorse)
    At the moment you're obsessing not only over him, but also whether he likes you and you're good enough for him
    I hadn't thought about it like that but i think you're right :/ thank you for your advice
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    (Original post by Chillaxer)
    How do you know he won't? That's just self-fulfilling.
    looks wise he's about 8/9, i'm probably 4/5. he's popular with lots of friends and a guy that gets lots of attention from other girls, he would have no reason to choose me.
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    (Original post by invisibleme)
    looks wise he's about 8/9, i'm probably 4/5. he's popular with lots of friends and a guy that gets lots of attention from other girls, he would have no reason to choose me.
    You have no way of knowing where love is concerned. I've been in similar boats with a girl not considered as attractive and I wanted her. So it just depends. If he's superficial then yeah, but otherwise no. And you don't know peoples personal issues.
 
 
 
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