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    Here's the thing. My 18-year-old female cousin has just changed her whole belief system. For instance:

    • She became a vegetarian overnight.
    • She changed her religion from catholic to buddhist in... a month maybe.
    • She doesn't believe in birthdays anymore, and refuses to participate in any of them.
    • She wants to move out of her parents' house. Bare in mind that houses in my country are EXTREMELY expensive, and it's not possible for someone to gather a few pounds and just leave.


    And all these things have moved her apart from our family. She won't come to religious gatherings (I don't feel catholic and yet go the meetings because it's always nice to be with the family, isn't it?). She won't come to birthdays because she says that people don't age physically but mentally (wtf?). And regarding the vegetarianism, I actually think this hides a past trauma; when she was in school she was a bit fat and her classmates made fun of her.

    Oh and also, she's an only child. Her parents always spoiled her, and never said "no" t any of her requests. She actually asked her parents to buy her a flat (for the first time in her life), they said no, and bam her whole house was rip apart.

    So what do I do? I want to help her!
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    Is the vegetarianism related to the Buddhism?

    I'd say just let her get on with it. Except maybe try and talk her out of moving out.
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    Have you tried talking to her alone? Maybe she just needs someone to talk things through with. Depending how old she is- many people go through like a 'crisis' where they want everything to change.
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    (Original post by Maiaanastasia)
    Have you tried talking to her alone? Maybe she just needs someone to talk things through with. Depending how old she is- many people go through like a 'crisis' where they want everything to change.
    Yeah I've talked to her, I've told her my views on all the subjects, but she doesn't listen...
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    You have your way, I have my way, but none of these are necessarily the right way - Neitzche or however the **** you spell his name
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    (Original post by Miss Mary)
    Yeah I've talked to her, I've told her my views on all the subjects, but she doesn't listen...
    Personally, I'd just leave her alone for a while, and be there when she needs you
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    Do nothing.

    I honestly don't see why this is even an issue. Perhaps she'd been contemplating undergoing all these changes for quite some time and finally decided to go ahead with it, as opposed to it being a dramatic spur of the moment thing. Either way, if she's content with her new beliefs, you should just let her be.
 
 
 
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