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    I have recently come to terms with the fact that i am not superwoman - at all. I have been a doormat for both my family and friends and have been highly disrespected. After recently turning 20 I told myself this would be the decade I make some real changes. To my friendship groups, family relationships, persona and money management.

    When I get paid I use 3/4 of my money to help out my family although I have an older brother who is working (full time - graduate job) and doesn't help out. Never even bought a bottle of water. My sister is a complete cow and my mum can be so rude, brash and ungrateful. I know I am being taken for granted.

    9.5/10 of my friends take me for granted, never reach out and treat me like a doormat. This isn't a pity thread but I just need some advice for the new steps in my life and moving forward.
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    You want us to be accountable for your change or lack thereof? :lolwut:
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    You're not selfish, it's what any person would do. I think you should just stop giving out money, except if a family member is really in need. Maybe try setting some limits? You work hard for that money and deserve to have a say in how it's spent.
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    Move out. It's what I did. It made my family learn to do things themselves, and I got my freedom and independence.
 
 
 
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