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    I'm 25, just finished my final year and I haven't had sex since I broke up with my girlfriend nearly 3 years ago now. She was the first person I had sex with. It was also my first proper relationship, even though she treat me coldly, didn't at times want to address we're official, and treat me like **** quite a lot of times.

    I'll admit that I masturbate (not proud to say it), but it just doesn't help, I still feel depressed. My friends say 'go out and find a lass to shag', but its just not my scene and for a starter I suck at 'pulling' and attracting people in clubs. I'm not into the cheese of the club scene either.

    I know i'm not ugly (I'm black btw, do girls even like black guys or are they just more cautious?), but I'm not stunning either and I suck at convo over a long period of time. I just don't know what to say or how the whole thing works. I'm just shy.

    Sex would be nice if it was even a one nighter, but it's not really what I want. I'd love a partner, someone who likes me for me and someone to share nights with and not even have sex at times and just chill and chat and watch movies and all that normal stuff, but still i'm depressed because of my pathetic sex life. Sometimes its hard to get my mind off it and i'm sick of seeing relationship and sex related stuff on tv. It gets me down.

    I've found myself exercising every morning trying to improve my physique and get some exercise, but it still doesn't help get my mind off things. I read posts on here (just looking around) and it depresses the hell out of me.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 25, just finished my final year and I haven't had sex since I broke up with my girlfriend nearly 3 years ago now. She was the first person I had sex with. It was also my first proper relationship, even though she treat me coldly, didn't at times want to address we're official, and treat me like **** quite a lot of times.

    I'll admit that I masturbate (not proud to say it), but it just doesn't help, I still feel depressed. My friends say 'go out and find a lass to shag', but its just not my scene and for a starter I suck at 'pulling' and attracting people in clubs. I'm not into the cheese of the club scene either.

    I know i'm not ugly (I'm black btw, do girls even like black guys or are they just more cautious?), but I'm not stunning either and I suck at convo over a long period of time. I just don't know what to say or how the whole thing works. I'm just shy.

    Sex would be nice if it was even a one nighter, but it's not really what I want. I'd love a partner, someone who likes me for me and someone to share nights with and not even have sex at times and just chill and chat and watch movies and all that normal stuff, but still i'm depressed because of my pathetic sex life. Sometimes its hard to get my mind off it and i'm sick of seeing relationship and sex related stuff on tv. It gets me down.

    I've found myself exercising every morning trying to improve my physique and get some exercise, but it still doesn't help get my mind off things. I read posts on here (just looking around) and it depresses the hell out of me.
    Depression is a state when you feel you can't have what you want. Don't base your whole life around wanting a girlfriend then you will have nothing to be depressed about. Otherwise you will always be worrying about wanting a girlfriend, and even if you get a girlfriend you will be worrying about keeping her so you will have anxiety. When you genuinely give up on the idea of a girlfriend the girlfriend will appear. That might sound weird but secure guys come off as confident etc. I hope you are ok though. Masturbating is good enough for now.
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    First of all, one night stands are ****
    2nd, 50% of girls won't give you much of a chance unless you have made game, just cause you're black, not accusing anyone of racism but truth is they're intimidated, this is solely from what i've observed, there's like 5 odd % that wants you just cause you're black, numbers are made up but you get the idea.

    But damn, 25? Sounds like bull**** but women seem to be sensitive to your sexual frustration (irrelevant)

    Just go out and socialise with friends i guess, if you get a chance take it whether you like her or not (obviously don't play anyone or mess them around)
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    Depression is a state when you feel you can't have what you want. Don't base your whole life around wanting a girlfriend then you will have nothing to be depressed about. Otherwise you will always be worrying about wanting a girlfriend, and even if you get a girlfriend you will be worrying about keeping her so you will have anxiety. When you genuinely give up on the idea of a girlfriend the girlfriend will appear. That might sound weird but secure guys come off as confident etc. I hope you are ok though. Masturbating is good enough for now.
    I'd love to feel happy enough with my life to do that, but it just seems like an impossible thing to do at the moment. I try and put myself in that thought but i always end up at square one.
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    I'd love to feel happy enough with my life to do that, but it just seems like an impossible thing to do at the moment. I try and put myself in that thought but i always end up at square one.
    It's not easy to change. Maybe you aren't comfortable with yourself so you look to others to make you feel comfortable, maybe you could start with how you see yourself. You don't need a crazy high or low self-esteem, self-esteem is bull****.
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    have sex
    Useless advice. Did you read the post?
 
 
 
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