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    -she always whines when we tell her to clean ( because someone else used to clean after her).
    -she has expensive toys & always brag about it ( car,laptop,cell phone)
    -her pocket money is 1k/week, she is only 18
    -she buys expensive clothes & never wear them
    & last but not least she her bf is stealing her money, because he is low & using her.

    living with her is becoming impossible but we don't know how to deal with her as she is raised this way !!
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    Take a duce on her laptop.

    Or if that's not constructive enough just tell her this. It's the most direct way. Why should she get to be a spoilt *****?

    Try to get her to change and if she won't doesn't don't live with her next year.
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    Live and let live, must be the student mantra...
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    spoiled ? that's nothing.sometimes i put 2 pieces of cheese on my sandwich.
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    Easy, Steal all her dresses and wear them to clubs, then throw up on them.
    Use her tenth laptop to watch illegal porn.
    If she's spoilt she won't notice.

    About the cleaning, anything she doesn't do, dump in her room or outside it while she's sleeping, she'll get the hint when she has ants.
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    A grand a week in pocket money? Maybe she isn't that spoiled if she's living in a shared flat instead of..... renting a penthouse etc.
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    The first one is the only point that should really matter, the rest just sounds like jealousy to me

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    1k a week?! If she doesnt want to do it tell her to hire a cleaner problem solved. The rest is just jealousy. If everyone can't stand her, kick her out. She can easily afford to rent a place by herself.
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    (Original post by emmaq8)
    -she always whines when we tell her to clean ( because someone else used to clean after her).
    -she has expensive toys & always brag about it ( car,laptop,cell phone)
    -her pocket money is 1k/week, she is only 18
    -she buys expensive clothes & never wear them
    & last but not least she her bf is stealing her money, because he is low & using her.

    living with her is becoming impossible but we don't know how to deal with her as she is raised this way !!

    Well, on the tidying issue, you could all not tidy up after yourselves for 1 week- say if she won't clean than nor will you. Perhaps, that would teach her that if nobody tidies then you'll live in muck, but if you all chip in you can live in a clean environment.

    On the bragging part, I'd ignore it, but you could subtly tell her that her bragging doesn't make her likeable. If she doesn't take the hint then show no interest in what she brags about.

    So what she gets 1k a week? It's not her fault that her parents can afford to give her money.

    It's not your business what she does with her money, no offence. Just let her do what she wants, it's not harming anyone of you is it? It may be annoying but let her make her deal with the consequences of not learning how to handle money.

    I don't think i'm qualified to answer about the stealing. But, I'd suggest that if you can you document how he's stealing from her// if he aactually is, and then present it to her.

    Why is it impossible to live with her? I understand that the whining and the bragging can be annoying, but I can't see what's that bad...
    Sorry for sounding insensitive.
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    1K a week makes me think you are either exaggerating or making stuff up. Sounds like you are pretty jealous, the only "issues" here are her not cleaning (solved by a grown up conversation or asking her to pay for a cleaner if she doesn't want to) and her BF stealing her cash and you lot letting him and not telling her.

    Bragging is annoying but come on guys...
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    Wow a grand a week in pocket money! :eek:
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    (Original post by sazzabazza)
    The first one is the only point that should really matter, the rest just sounds like jealousy to me

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    Seconded. The only thing that matters is how her behaviour creates problems for you directly.

    If she whines, walk out of the room. If the complaining continues, tell her she's free to hire someone to do her share of work if she can afford it. The only thing that matters is that it gets done.
    The rest is plain irrelevant. Some have more than others.
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    The jealousy in this thread is too damn high!
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    £1000 a week would give her £52000 a year. That would put her amongst the 700,000 top earners in the country. If her parents are that loaded then instead of getting pissed with her be her best friend and share in her wealth, like her boyfriend.
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    You should only care about the first point as the rest don't affect you neither anyone else but only herself. I'd say rub her nose in the dirt but that would be an abuse. Have you talked seriously with her at least?
 
 
 
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