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    This might be a long post, but I would much appreciate it if people could hear me out:

    I met an amazing girl in my course with whom I frequently tried to have conversations with in the beginning of the schoolyear.

    However, I realised that she is not even remotely interested in what I have to say - but she was still nice to me. She frequently smiles and just nods, but doesn't really engage in the conversation.

    To make the matters worse, one of her friends noticed that I was interested in her and decided to tell her himself, which made the situation so much more awkward than it has to be.

    As a result, I can't seem to get the courage to talk to her. When I try to talk to her or when she asks me a question, I give a half-assed mumbled response because at the back of my mind, I know she realises that I fancy her.

    What makes it even more difficult is the fact that we have mutual friends that we hang out with. Because of the awkwardness, I now avoid social gatherings because I fear that I might screw up when I try to talk to her.

    I fancy her quite a bit, but can't seem to get the courage to talk to her anymore. I'm not the best when it comes to expressing my feelings, but I don't want to screw this one up! It would be much appreciated if you guys could help me out on this situation - how do I get courage to talk to her again, and not to make things awkward?


    Many thanks in advance.
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    To be honest with you if she's no interested then I do not see the point in expressing your feelings for her, perhaps just try and stay friends?
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    (Original post by pinda.college)
    To be honest with you if she's no interested then I do not see the point in expressing your feelings for her, perhaps just try and stay friends?
    I agree, but this happens to me so frequently - a girl I liked before I went to uni felt the same... Maybe I'm just not that interesting.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I agree, but this happens to me so frequently - a girl I liked before I went to uni felt the same... Maybe I'm just not that interesting.
    From the sound of it you seem to have confidence problems when chatting to girls, and you've already said that you struggle to say things to her. Perhaps just improve on this and hope it benefits your social interaction with girls?
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    (Original post by pinda.college)
    From the sound of it you seem to have confidence problems when chatting to girls, and you've already said that you struggle to say things to her. Perhaps just improve on this and hope it benefits your social interaction with girls?
    Yeah... I tried so hard to sway the flow of convo towards her direction - giving her a chance to talk about what she likes, etc. But it doesn't seem to work. The things I like (rock music, etc.) don't really appeal to many females... I just have no clue on how to improve my confidence.
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    Why do you struggle with keeping a conversation flowing? What's the reason for your lack of confidence?
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    Why do you struggle with keeping a conversation flowing? What's the reason for your lack of confidence?
    It's quite hard to explain. When I talk, I get really self-conscious on what I'm saying, my mannerisms, how I talk, etc. Because of that, I start to feel really uncomfortable and start to lose confidence and just mumble afterwards. This never happens to me around friends - it's just with her. It's so frustrating!
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    Anyone else with other suggestions? Many thanks x
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This might be a long post, but I would much appreciate it if people could hear me out:

    I met an amazing girl in my course with whom I frequently tried to have conversations with in the beginning of the schoolyear.

    However, I realised that she is not even remotely interested in what I have to say - but she was still nice to me. She frequently smiles and just nods, but doesn't really engage in the conversation.

    To make the matters worse, one of her friends noticed that I was interested in her and decided to tell her himself, which made the situation so much more awkward than it has to be.

    As a result, I can't seem to get the courage to talk to her. When I try to talk to her or when she asks me a question, I give a half-assed mumbled response because at the back of my mind, I know she realises that I fancy her.

    What makes it even more difficult is the fact that we have mutual friends that we hang out with. Because of the awkwardness, I now avoid social gatherings because I fear that I might screw up when I try to talk to her.

    I fancy her quite a bit, but can't seem to get the courage to talk to her anymore. I'm not the best when it comes to expressing my feelings, but I don't want to screw this one up! It would be much appreciated if you guys could help me out on this situation - how do I get courage to talk to her again, and not to make things awkward?


    Many thanks in advance.
    Hi there mate I'm guessing from your post (forgive me if i am wrong) that you are in your teens? I like you don't have a great deal of confidence with women but i'll tell you one thing i learnt when i was at college. I learnt that firstly a large proportion of girls aged 16 - 19 try to make you feel orchard when you have the guts to contact them. Secondly orthough many grow out of this by the time they reach their early 20's many women, not all who you do contact. If they dought your social ability to communicate. or in my personal case cos i had a disability. They smilie at you sweetly and do it not cos they love you, not even cos they would ever wish to socialise with you. But purely because they feel the sympathy empathy vote to you.
    You may disagree you may not, but I just helps you sort out your relationship difficulties with the lady in question. Iain Exeter university
 
 
 
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