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    Hi all.

    I'm going to my boyfriend's cousin's Christening this weekend and I've never been to one before so I don't know what to expect! What happens during and after normally? What do people wear? I don't want to be under/overdressed and I want to have an idea of what will happen. I'm not religious myself and none of my family have had christenings so I don't know what happens at them.

    Any help would be appreciated!
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    Dress up like you would at a posh restaurant.

    It'll likely be in a church. There'll probably be several families all getting a christening at the same time. You'll all go in the church, hear some God-nonsense, watch a baby get water all over it's face then leave.

    It's the after-party that really makes a christening! :yep:
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    Pretend you're ill, stay at home and do something productive with your time.
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    (Original post by Very Square Pig)
    Hi all.

    I'm going to my boyfriend's cousin's Christening this weekend and I've never been to one before so I don't know what to expect! What happens during and after normally? What do people wear? I don't want to be under/overdressed and I want to have an idea of what will happen. I'm not religious myself and none of my family have had christenings so I don't know what happens at them.

    Any help would be appreciated!
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    (Original post by Very Square Pig)
    Hi all.

    I'm going to my boyfriend's cousin's Christening this weekend and I've never been to one before so I don't know what to expect! What happens during and after normally? What do people wear? I don't want to be under/overdressed and I want to have an idea of what will happen. I'm not religious myself and none of my family have had christenings so I don't know what happens at them.

    Any help would be appreciated!
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    Dress as if you were going to a wedding. Men normally wear shirt/blazer or shirt/tie/suit and women wear dresses (maybe wedding is too posh, but adults usually wear clothes which are a lot smarter and teenagers/ young adults are usually a little more informal).

    Don't worry about it - unless you're one of the parents/ godparents you won't have to actively participate in anything. The most the congregation will do is recite a few prayers, sing hymns and say "Amen." Just go with the flow. Nobody will notice if you're not actively joining in with prayers/ hymns, I go to church every week and we know and expect there to be people attending funerals/ christenings/ etc. who aren't normally church-goers

    The priest/minister will probably ask the parents and godparents to reply "I do" to a few things such as "Do you reject satan and all of his false promises?," and "Do you promise to encourage this child to follow Christ?" etc. etc. The service/ mass probably at some point involve water being poured over the baby's forehead, too!

    Just watch and enjoy! Have fun
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    Expect to be really bored. At every Christening I've been to I've sat down, pretended to sing a couple of songs, watch them put the water on the crying baby's head, then listened to the vicar speak and then left.
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    dress up warm... churches tend to be nippy
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    (Original post by Very Square Pig)
    Hi all.

    I'm going to my boyfriend's cousin's Christening this weekend and I've never been to one before so I don't know what to expect! What happens during and after normally? What do people wear? I don't want to be under/overdressed and I want to have an idea of what will happen. I'm not religious myself and none of my family have had christenings so I don't know what happens at them.

    Any help would be appreciated!
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    Yep dress smartly - and warm - churches are usually freezing. You have to make small talk with people you have nothing in common with and will probably never see again - unless you are going to get married with to your boyfriend - in which case you have to charm the pants off people. You have to say kind things about the baby despite him/her looking like a squashed raisin. And there will be small badly behaved children there - whose parents think the sun shines out of their arses - running into you all the time and being obnoxious.

    Have I been to many christenings? Toooooo many - they all follow the same pattern. (And yes reader - I married him - groan)
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    Thanks all for the useful replies! Feeling a little less nervous. I'm just worried they'll ask if I'm religious (I'm not at all) as his family are all Christians - it'll be the first time I meet them too. Also not really sure what to wear still. I don't have any nice shoes except heels and I'm thinking that might be a bit too formal? My boyfriend is wearing smart shoes, dark jeans and a shirt. I really don't want to be overdressed haha.

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